Hi
I could really use some outside perspective on this problem.
I am friends with a mum in my mothersgroup and our children are the same ages and see each other a lot as we live in the same street. She is in a verbally and mentally abuse relationship and is planning how to leave, but cannot do so in the immediate future. I havnt seen anything, but have no reason to doubt her. Now, she keeps on trying to get me to meet the husbands parents (the grandparents) and have my son and her daughter over at his parents house to play (they have a large house and yard. Now I have told her from all the things she has told me about her husband and his parents, I want to stay out of their radar, I want to be her friend, but do not want to get inolved in his or his parents lives, nor do I want to come to their notice more than I need to.
She doesnt seem to understand, and whilst on a regular basis will use me as a shoulder to cry on for her problems, still keeps on trying to get my son and me to visit his parents. I just want to keep a healthy distance from potential touble, if one day she seperates from him, or any other issue arises, I do not want my child and myself caught up in this. Am I being reasonable?? Does it make sense that I will see her and her child in the playgroup circuit/playdate circuit but do not want to get involved with his family and the husband???
She asked me again today, and I said, no i would rather not, I have been upfront about my reasons why i dont want to meet. I dont see why I need to get close to them - especially from the things she tells me??!!
So am I being horrible and rude, would you do the same??
I am starting to get a bit confused.
D2B
I could really use some outside perspective on this problem.
I am friends with a mum in my mothersgroup and our children are the same ages and see each other a lot as we live in the same street. She is in a verbally and mentally abuse relationship and is planning how to leave, but cannot do so in the immediate future. I havnt seen anything, but have no reason to doubt her. Now, she keeps on trying to get me to meet the husbands parents (the grandparents) and have my son and her daughter over at his parents house to play (they have a large house and yard. Now I have told her from all the things she has told me about her husband and his parents, I want to stay out of their radar, I want to be her friend, but do not want to get inolved in his or his parents lives, nor do I want to come to their notice more than I need to.
She doesnt seem to understand, and whilst on a regular basis will use me as a shoulder to cry on for her problems, still keeps on trying to get my son and me to visit his parents. I just want to keep a healthy distance from potential touble, if one day she seperates from him, or any other issue arises, I do not want my child and myself caught up in this. Am I being reasonable?? Does it make sense that I will see her and her child in the playgroup circuit/playdate circuit but do not want to get involved with his family and the husband???
She asked me again today, and I said, no i would rather not, I have been upfront about my reasons why i dont want to meet. I dont see why I need to get close to them - especially from the things she tells me??!!
So am I being horrible and rude, would you do the same??
I am starting to get a bit confused.
D2B