Looking for a lawyer

[Upgradable]

Specializing in special needs law. We need someone experience in special needs trust planning, estate, and eligibility for programs. How do I go about finding one in Oklahoma. And once I do, how do I know they are reputable and thorough since it includes navigation through specific regulations that often make little to no sense.

I really need advice because our son is 20 and we have not established guardianship or power of attorney. I'm freaking here!

 

[Loves Vintage]

Uppy, I am working with a good T&E attorney right now. I've asked her your question and will see what direction she might provide. Maybe there is an association to look for? I was actually talking to her yesterday about the fact that we didn't want to use someone who just prints forms off of the internet and then fills in names. I am sure it happens! I will let you know what I hear back, and if she provides a specific rec (doubtful as we are quite far away), then I will email you via one of your DB listings.

 

[KittyGolightly]

You state bar association can be a good place to start. Otherwise, try martindale.com. Look for an attorney who has been peer-rated.

 

[Upgradable]

Thanks so much LV. All of this legals stuff just gives me stomach aches. I can handle any and all medical situations that come up, but all this legal and financial planning freaks me out!

 

[Loves Vintage]

I will message you her response. I know DB communications can be wonky, so let me know if you don't see. Sending right now.

And, I know what you mean. I'm a lawyer, and this worries me to no end too. It's because of what's at stake. You will feel better once you have the appropriate documents in place.

 

[Upgradable]

Thanks LV. I've messaged you back. I appreciate your help!

 

[minousbijoux]

Are there organized nonprofit groups serving similar specials needs populations you can turn to for recommendations?

Good luck - be glad to help if you need some footwork done...

 

[Upgradable]

That's what prompted this search. We went to a meeting of DSACO, Down Syndrome Association of Central Oklahoma. They had a speaker who was an attorney specializing in special needs trusts and estate planning. It really shook us down to our bones! There are things we haven't taken care of that could actually cause us to be removed as Paul's custodians and care givers.

We have a consultation with this firm on Tuesday, but my husband thinks it is important we have one or two more options to check out. He doesn't liked to be left without options, and just because this guy presented last night doesn't mean he represents the best or the only firm that can help us through these issues.

 

[Enerchi]

Oh my, scary stuff Uppy! I hope your meeting goes well and that you can consult with another firm as well - just to be sure and confident with WHOMEVER you elect to work with.

Fingers crossed it goes well for you {{{HUGS}}}

 

[JewelFreak]

Hope you find somebody soon who gives you confidence, Uppy. Big applause for getting onto it as soon as you realized the situation. I have a friend w/a special needs daughter & they haven't even thought of this angle yet. She is only 12, but it is something they need to consider, though right now they're swamped w/diagnostics & how (and who) to care for her in the somewhat immediate future. Big responsibility -- hugs to you & DH.

--- Laurie

 

[Okie_girl]

Uppy, what about contacting the Oklahoma Disability Law Center? Their mission is more along the lines of advocacy and disability rights, but I would think they might be able to refer you to someone who could provide the services you need.

 

[Upgradable]

Thanks Okie. I'll check that out. I'm looking for any help I can get.

 

[Lula]

You need someone who specializes in disability law, and someone who has a protection and advocacy background/training.
http://www.okdlc.org
Here's a link that provides more information about the federally funded protection and advocacy system.
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/add/states/pas.html

ETA: I was posting at the same time Okie was posting. Yes, start with the P&A folks; they will be able to connect you with free and low-cost options, where possible. You can always work with the estate and trust firm later, if necessary.