siamese3
Brilliant_Rock
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- Jul 27, 2007
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Now that Kiki is gone, I seem to have a big hole in my life. I used fantasize about how awesome it would be to be able to go on vacation again, or sleep through the night or just in general, not be tortured by his neediness. Not spend hours cutting up pills, filling endless gel caps, and giving shots. I could open a can of tuna without him having a melt down. Or roast chicken. Change up my schedule. Even, for heavens sake, sit in a different chair. Now, none of it seems so fun. Or great, let alone awesome. I will admit, it is freeing to a certain extent, BUT, I have been thinking about how it is so important to not wish life away. How the day to day "shit" we sometimes find ourselves in is the very real stuff of life. What kind of joy can I have without some of life's messy entanglements. I just need to remember that. Life's difficulties certainly present lots of anxiety and heartache and difficulty, but also can be some the very best parts of human existence. Kiki and my DH have taught me to be more present in situations I can't control. I think Kiki's job was to help teach me acceptance and to better embrace unconditional love.