ladies...how would you feel if your husband...

[Dancing Fire]

were the one who kept on upgrading his jewelry?

 

[Jennifer W]

I don't think I'd care, much. If it made him obviously happy, then I'd be glad for him. He can spend his time and money on whatever pleases him, and we aren't in competition.

 

[athenaworth]

I wouldn't care at all. I'd love it if he had a passion for something like that.

 

[ksinger]

Considering that he upgraded his car last year, and constantly has to maintain and upgrade his J24 (sailboat), and pay for crew trips etc, I'd say it'd be no problem. The real problem in my world, would be if he ever STARTED wearing jewelry apart from his wedding ring. THEN I would know that the order of the universe has truly gone off the rails.

 

[junebug17]

It wouldn't bother me in the least. My husband has worked very hard for many years, and is very generous with me and the kids. He's not into jewelry at all...but he loves watches, and I've been trying to get him to treat himself to a really nice one.

 

[kenny]

were the one who kept on upgrading his jewelry?

AND - What if you were the one expected to pay for it?

 

[Autumnovember]

He already constantly upgrades his watches. I don't mind. If I had to pay for it ALL...I'd mind

 

[junebug17]

were the one who kept on upgrading his jewelry?

AND - What if you were the one expected to pay for it?

Yeah, that's probably the better question kenny!

I'd like to think if I made the same salary as the hubs, I'd gladly pay. Since I've been a sahm for many years, and have worked part time in a pottery store for the past few years, I guess I could swing a timex!

 

[kenny]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

 

[iugurl]

All of our $ is shared. So, if he were constantly spending money on jewelry (or anything expensive) and for some reason, didn't like when I spent money, or tried to buy me presents, then yeah I would be mad. But my DH isn't like that. We spend the money quite equally. However, if I want something special, he has no problem w/ it. The same goes when he wants something.

 

[iugurl]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

Why should he be any different from SAHMs? I am sure SAHMs still want (and SHOULD get) birthday, Christmas, Anniversary, random day presents!!!! The same goes for SAMDs. Why should the person who is working an office job only get to buy things that they like?

I am not working now. I don't have kids. I am just a housewife, I guess. My DH still buys me lovely presents. I know it is different because of a lot of ppl on here have separate $/accounts. All of our money is ours.

 

[Attached]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

Why should he be any different from SAHMs? I am sure SAHMs still want (and SHOULD get) birthday, Christmas, Anniversary, random day presents!!!! The same goes for SAMDs. Why should the person who is working an office job only get to buy things that they like?

I am not working now. I don't have kids. I am just a housewife, I guess. My DH still buys me lovely presents. I know it is different because of a lot of ppl on here have separate $/accounts. All of our money is ours.

I was thinking along the same lines as iugurl... SAHMs and SAHDs work harder than anyone person that works an office job or any other job, especially if they have kids. So, I don't see any reason SAHDs shouldn't get nice things too... I wouldn't mind paying for it.

 

[suchende]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

I will honestly admit that this relationship dynamic would bug me. Now, life is full of twists and turns and maybe someday I will have a SAHD for a husband but it isn't something I could see myself happily going in for right now.

Sometimes guys say to me, "I would LOVE to be a SAHD!" and I just think it's the biggest turn-off. If the person saying it is someone who's trying to date me, that's definitely going to be the end of it.

 

[junebug17]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

Hmm...wellll...I guess I would feel proud and happy that I was able to provide my husband (who spends his day cleaning, cooking, running errands, changing diapers, volunteering at kids school, making lunches, making sure kids have what they need, tutoring, basically making sure everyone's needs are met all the time...and oh yeah, staying up all night with two kids who are vomiting at the same time) with a nice gift. And I'm assuming that's pretty much how my husband feels.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

My husband only wears a wedding band but does upgrade his toys. Yes, this does bother me b/c he feels like what he buys is for the whole family, whereas, what I would like only benefits me (so often the logic doesn't quite add up especially when it came to buying the boat - which was a huge expense!)

 

[Amber St. Clare]

My husband is a part owner of a race horse and her maintenance is constantly increasing. I can't and won't say a word about it.

 

[ksinger]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

Wow Kenny...is this really how you see this question? You've narrowed it to allow only a fairly ugly stereotype. Tsk.

 

[junebug17]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

Wow Kenny...is this really how you see this question? You've narrowed it to allow only a fairly ugly stereotype. Tsk.

Yeah, and maybe I contributed to this by my response, but I thought you were sort of kidding around Kenny...but your second question comes across as a bit hostile, or judgemental, or...I don't know, I really don't understand the point you're trying to make with this question. This thread has gotten a little weird.

 

[Kaleigh]

I wouldn't mind. If it was his passion and he could afford it, go for it.. But jewelry isn't his thing. He wears a Rolex I bought him ages ago. He's more into cars..

 

[kenny]

Some women get that crapy attitude from some people - the thing about who did you have to $#!# and your man must love you very much were pulled by women's testimony on this very forum.

What if the genders were reversed and men got it?
The question was about swapping the genders.
That's all.

How does that make me hostile?
You galz totally misread me.
I'm the most loving peaceful pro-equality person on the planet.

Presenting a stupid ignorant prejudice with the gender swapped helps expose it for what it is, a stupid ignorant prejudice.
So you think, rather than am pointing out how unacceptable such stereotypes are, that I believe it?

I thought it went without saying that I was on the good side not the bad side, but I guess I have to explain everything here.

 

[junebug17]

Some women get that crapy attitude from some people - the thing about who did you have to $#!# and your man must love you very much were pulled by women's testimony on this very forum.

What if the genders were reversed and men got it?
The question was about swapping the genders.
That's all.

How does that make me hostile?
You galz totally misread me.
I'm the most loving peaceful pro-equality person on the planet.

Presenting a stupid ignorant prejudice with the gender swapped helps expose it for what it is, a stupid ignorant prejudice.
So you think, rather than am pointing out how unacceptable such stereotypes are, that I believe it?

I thought it went without saying that I was on the good side not the bad side, but I guess I have to explain everything here.

Kenny, I just wasn't really sure what you meant...I think it was the phrase "AND you were the one expected to pay for it" that confused me a little. I guess I thought you were focusing more on the issue of who's money it is that's actually being used towards the upgrade. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding.

 

[Kaleigh]

I don't see you as being hostile Kenny. If I were you, I'd pick my battles . You have a lot of irons in the fire so to speak. Threads about something really non judgemental all of a sudden become threads that are intolerant by YOUR standards..

Kill me now ( it's ok can take it ) Your threads turn out to be super negative. I can't speak for anyone else. I do a good job being a blabber mouth on my own. BUT you seem as if you start threads just to stir the proverbial pot...


Not saying it's a bad thing, but I see the headings of threads, and am like yeah not going to open this pandora's box...

No right or wrong. JMHO

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Here's the whole question...

Ladies, how would you feel if your husband was the one who kept upgrading his jewelry AND you were the one expected to pay for it while he stays home with the kids, and other women said to him, "Wow, who'd you have to #$*! to get that? or Wow, she must really love you?"?

It would be AWESOME!

Just out of curiosity, what do YOU do for a living Kenny?

 

[Dancing Fire]

I don't see you as being hostile Kenny. If I were you, I'd pick my battles . You have a lot of irons in the fire so to speak. Threads about something really non judgemental all of a sudden become threads that are intolerant by YOUR standards..

Kill me now ( it's ok can take it ) Your threads turn out to be super negative. I can't speak for anyone else. I do a good job being a blabber mouth on my own. BUT you seem as if you start threads just to stir the proverbial pot...

Not saying it's a bad thing, but I see the headings of threads, and am like yeah not going to open this pandora's box...

No right or wrong. JMHO

somebody has to do the dirty work might as well be Kenny...

 

[iLander]

My DH is not into jewelry, and I'm not sure I would like it if he was. . .

He is into fast little German cars, though, and buys one (used) every few years. What the heck, he TOTALLY deserves it.

 

[Fly Girl]

were the one who kept on upgrading his jewelry?

I'm happy that he has beautiful jewelry. DH is on his 5th wedding band (all different sizes, because his finger size fluctuates) and I just want him to have a beautiful ring that he enjoys wearing. Three of them have diamonds, one is a gorgeous (and pricy) Mokume, and I'm just happy that he wants to wear a wedding band.

I have more jewelry than him, but he definitely has more wedding rings. And, all from me.

 

[Dancing Fire]

were the one who kept on upgrading his jewelry?

I'm happy that he has beautiful jewelry. DH is on his 5th wedding band (all different sizes, because his finger size fluctuates) and I just want him to have a beautiful ring that he enjoys wearing. Three of them have diamonds, one is a gorgeous (and pricy) Mokume, and I'm just happy that he wants to wear a wedding band.

I have more jewelry than him, but he definitely has more wedding rings. And, all from me.

FG...can you have a talk with my wife??..

 

[TravelingGal]

I only have one rule for upgrades when it comes to my DH. No upgrading wives.

The rest I can live with.

 

[rubybeth]

I only have one rule for upgrades when it comes to my DH. No upgrading wives.

The rest I can live with.

Hah, love it!

But honestly, if my DH wanted diamonds, I'd be happy to oblige. In point of fact, I am the primary earner as an administrator while he works with troubled teens (and doesn't get paid enough, IMHO) and I often encourage him to indulge in his hobbies (camping, art supplies, accessories for gaming, etc.). We grew up in very different families, so I'm teaching him how to enjoy money, within reason.

 

[Arcadian]

If my gems cost as much as his last watch I can see where he'd be put out. Trust me, my little gem collection is NOWHERE NEAR what he spent on his last watch. For those curious what it is, it was a JLC and not the cheap one either. (which is relative when your talking those watches)


-A