dramaprincess
Rough_Rock
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- Aug 12, 2010
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Hi all,
I hope that this is not too personal, because I could really use some advice. I am a long-time Pricescoper, but I created a new account for this thread (kind of embarrassing!)
I am a major worrier. I have been on birth control pills since I was 18, and whenever we have sex, I always make my SO wear a condom too. Otherwise, I would worry about failure rates , and I even still do sometimes.
My SO and I have gotten very serious, and we are planning to get engaged very soon. I know he has the ring, and I am just waiting for the proposal. We have discussed what we want to do about birth control in the future, but I'm not sure what the best option is.
We thought that maybe we would stop using condoms after we got engaged, and just rely on the birth control. Tons of people do that, even in just regular committed relationships. We would feel super close to each other, and that would be wonderful.
On the other hand, ever since I have been on the Pill, my sex drive has been greatly reduced. It was always strong before, but now most of my desire is gone. We therefore don't have sex as much as most other couples. I would say that I had an above-average sex drive before I was on the Pill, and now it's way below average.
I can also tell when I ovulate (or at least I could before I got on the Pill, but that was about 8 years ago, and I obviously haven't ovulated since). I would always get that very specific lower abdomen pain on around day 12 to day 15 of my cycle. During this time, my sex drive completely skyrocketed.
I tried switching to many different pills, but all of them seem to cause my sex drive to disappear. Some of them caused even worse problems, so I am currently on the best one that I found.
Part of me feels like maybe I should get off the Pill and just use condoms, but I'm not sure how comfortable I would be with that. I know our sex life would be much, much better, but I feel like since I have such strong, obvious symptoms at ovulation, I might somehow get pregnant, even with a condom. Does that make sense?
Along with the condoms, maybe we could just avoid actual intercourse during the week around my ovulation (for my peace of mind).
I just really want to enjoy sex as much as possible, and I don't feel like the Pill allows me to do that. It would be bad if I became pregnant right now, because I do not have health insurance. I also do not wish to become pregnant for at least two to three years, but my SO and I are totally committed and plan to get married in about a year, so it would not be the absolute WORST, except for the lack of health insurance part.
Does anyone have any ideas for us? Thank you so much for the advice.
I hope that this is not too personal, because I could really use some advice. I am a long-time Pricescoper, but I created a new account for this thread (kind of embarrassing!)
I am a major worrier. I have been on birth control pills since I was 18, and whenever we have sex, I always make my SO wear a condom too. Otherwise, I would worry about failure rates , and I even still do sometimes.
My SO and I have gotten very serious, and we are planning to get engaged very soon. I know he has the ring, and I am just waiting for the proposal. We have discussed what we want to do about birth control in the future, but I'm not sure what the best option is.
We thought that maybe we would stop using condoms after we got engaged, and just rely on the birth control. Tons of people do that, even in just regular committed relationships. We would feel super close to each other, and that would be wonderful.
On the other hand, ever since I have been on the Pill, my sex drive has been greatly reduced. It was always strong before, but now most of my desire is gone. We therefore don't have sex as much as most other couples. I would say that I had an above-average sex drive before I was on the Pill, and now it's way below average.
I can also tell when I ovulate (or at least I could before I got on the Pill, but that was about 8 years ago, and I obviously haven't ovulated since). I would always get that very specific lower abdomen pain on around day 12 to day 15 of my cycle. During this time, my sex drive completely skyrocketed.
I tried switching to many different pills, but all of them seem to cause my sex drive to disappear. Some of them caused even worse problems, so I am currently on the best one that I found.
Part of me feels like maybe I should get off the Pill and just use condoms, but I'm not sure how comfortable I would be with that. I know our sex life would be much, much better, but I feel like since I have such strong, obvious symptoms at ovulation, I might somehow get pregnant, even with a condom. Does that make sense?
Along with the condoms, maybe we could just avoid actual intercourse during the week around my ovulation (for my peace of mind).
I just really want to enjoy sex as much as possible, and I don't feel like the Pill allows me to do that. It would be bad if I became pregnant right now, because I do not have health insurance. I also do not wish to become pregnant for at least two to three years, but my SO and I are totally committed and plan to get married in about a year, so it would not be the absolute WORST, except for the lack of health insurance part.
Does anyone have any ideas for us? Thank you so much for the advice.