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+1Date: 6/26/2009 3:16:17 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I think it''s quite natural to judge people one way or another. I don''t believe in acting on those judgments without knowing all the facts about the situation/person beforehand though. I might get a first impression of not liking a person, but they turn out to be pretty cool, just different than what I''m used to.
Although I must say... normally my gut doesn''t steer me wrong.
ditto that is how I view judgement too.Date: 6/26/2009 6:45:42 AM
Author: MissGotRocks
As I''ve gotten older, my judgements are less harsh. I realize that everything isn''t black and white or good or bad. There are alot of gray areas. I am far from perfect myself and I accept that in others as well. When I was younger, I was probably much more idealistic. I was harsher in my assessments of others. I have learned to mind my own business so to speak. I am freer now to determine who and what I associate with and if I choose not to associate with someone, I don''t sweat the details of it. It''s my choice to make.
It''s a good, thought provoking question but I think we are constantly changing and evolving as we grow. No two people are in the same place in their lives at any given time so my opinion may differ greatly from yours. That''s not wrong - it just is.
Very well said. I agree.Date: 6/26/2009 4:55:53 PM
Author: Skippy123
ditto that is how I view judgement too.Date: 6/26/2009 6:45:42 AM
Author: MissGotRocks
As I''ve gotten older, my judgements are less harsh. I realize that everything isn''t black and white or good or bad. There are alot of gray areas. I am far from perfect myself and I accept that in others as well. When I was younger, I was probably much more idealistic. I was harsher in my assessments of others. I have learned to mind my own business so to speak. I am freer now to determine who and what I associate with and if I choose not to associate with someone, I don''t sweat the details of it. It''s my choice to make.
It''s a good, thought provoking question but I think we are constantly changing and evolving as we grow. No two people are in the same place in their lives at any given time so my opinion may differ greatly from yours. That''s not wrong - it just is.
Date: 6/26/2009 1:07:23 AM
Author: KimberlyH
Then why are we so offended when others do so? Is it because they disagree with the judgement being made?Date: 6/25/2009 11:46:55 PM
Author: luckystar112
Date: 6/25/2009 10:01:42 PM
Author: thing2of2
I judge people all the time and I don''t think there''s anything wrong with it. In personal relationships my judgement is the only thing that really matters. Because I have very little patience for people in general I only have a few good friends, and it doesn''t bother me in the least. I''d rather spend time alone or with the few people I respect and enjoy being with than spend time with a bunch of people I don''t really like.
My twin sister is very much the opposite of me, and she''ll be friends with pretty much anyone. I don''t really understand that mindset, but I will say she has a lot more friends than me! She tells me I''m too picky but I just can''t bring myself to spend time with people I don''t really like being around.
ETA: my gut judgements are pretty much never wrong, either.
Ditto all of this. Except for the twin sister part!
I think it''s human nature to judge.
Date: 6/25/2009 8:30:38 PM
Author:KimberlyH
While the idea of judging others is one we as a society like to naysay, we make judgements every day.
Anytime I want. A judgement to me is like an opinion or a 'fact' in my mind. A judgement or opinions don't have to carry positive or negative, people are how they are and sometimes things are just that way. For me, I will pass judgement mentally any time I wish, and there aren't typically requirements around it.Date: 6/25/2009 8:30:38 PM
Author:KimberlyH
While the idea of judging others is one we as a society like to naysay, we make judgements every day. It is how we determine who we are friends with, who we admire, who we won't associate with, who we like, who we emulate, who we detest, etc.
So when is it acceptable to you to pass judgement on others? And when is it not and why?
It''s what started my thinking about judgements in general, and generated the original question. My question today was spurred by the many people who are celebrating Madoffs'' sentence, both on and off this board just as many people here and elsewhere mourn Michael Jackson''s death, and I wondered how people will react when he, Madoff, dies in jail (will the sentiment be "Good" or "How sad!"). So in a way, yes, but it brought about a larger question in my mind of passing judgement in general and when it''s acceptable, when it isn''t why, and how people make that determination and then why it''s okay to say bad things about people who are living but not about those who are dead.Date: 6/29/2009 6:55:55 PM
Author: somethingshiny
If you''re talking about the MJ thread, I didn''t even read your post before I posted mine. After I read the entire thread I started thinking that you could view a lot of the posts as a personal attack. While I don''t think that was intended, I do think that people try not to speak ill of the dead, at least for a few days, just out of respect.
Of course it does, it''s part of what makes us uniquely ourselves; judgement shows how forgiving a person is, how the person views the world, what they believe to be right, wrong, forgivable, detestable, etc. But does it make it wrong?Date: 6/30/2009 12:05:43 AM
Author: zhuzhu
Precisely because the standard of truth varies among different individuals, I think the judgment being made ultimately reflects more about the ''person who judges'' instead the ones being ''judged''.
Date: 6/30/2009 9:30:08 AM
Author: KimberlyH
Of course it does, it''s part of what makes us uniquely ourselves; judgement shows how forgiving a person is, how the person views the world, what they believe to be right, wrong, forgivable, detestable, etc. But does it make it wrong?Date: 6/30/2009 12:05:43 AM
Author: zhuzhu
Precisely because the standard of truth varies among different individuals, I think the judgment being made ultimately reflects more about the ''person who judges'' instead the ones being ''judged''.
I would rather be discerning about who I associate with and admire, so in that regard I am judgemental, and I don't think it's wrong. I believe there's a way to do so without being cruel. There are people I work with and with whom I am acquainted that make life choices which I find disturbing, they have no idea I feel this way as I am polite, but I would never befriend these people. My mother would say I am too judgemental, that I have too many opinions; my husband would say I'm not discerning enough.Date: 6/30/2009 10:41:56 AM
Author: RubyCharm
Date: 6/30/2009 9:30:08 AM
Author: KimberlyH
Of course it does, it's part of what makes us uniquely ourselves; judgement shows how forgiving a person is, how the person views the world, what they believe to be right, wrong, forgivable, detestable, etc. But does it make it wrong?Date: 6/30/2009 12:05:43 AM
Author: zhuzhu
Precisely because the standard of truth varies among different individuals, I think the judgment being made ultimately reflects more about the 'person who judges' instead the ones being 'judged'.
What do YOU think, Kimberly?
Date: 6/30/2009 4:01:04 PM
Author: KimberlyH
I would rather be discerning about who I associate with and admire, so in that regard I am judgemental, and I don''t think it''s wrong. I believe there''s a way to do so without being cruel. There are people I work with and with whom I am acquainted that make life choices which I find disturbing, they have no idea I feel this way as I am polite, but I would never befriend these people. My mother would say I am too judgemental, that I have too many opinions; my husband would say I''m not discerning enough.Date: 6/30/2009 10:41:56 AM
Author: RubyCharm
Date: 6/30/2009 9:30:08 AM
Author: KimberlyH
Of course it does, it''s part of what makes us uniquely ourselves; judgement shows how forgiving a person is, how the person views the world, what they believe to be right, wrong, forgivable, detestable, etc. But does it make it wrong?Date: 6/30/2009 12:05:43 AM
Author: zhuzhu
Precisely because the standard of truth varies among different individuals, I think the judgment being made ultimately reflects more about the ''person who judges'' instead the ones being ''judged''.
What do YOU think, Kimberly?