Jewelry passing to the next generations

[D&T]

So a couple of weeks ago, i was reading a thread in RT about an heirloom piece or a piece of jewelry given to this person by his grandmother, anyhow, not quite sure what the end result of it was, but he wondered if he should sell it

and get something else for the future wife. It started to make me think. I''ve collected jewelry albeit very minimal at the moment, and have been handed down some jewelry that I absolutely love becase it was made by my jeweler cousin and it is also unique. Anyway, I told DH that these pieces of jewelry is very meaningful and most are high quality so I wanted to pass them down to my kids, but with specifics as to not have them sell it but thought these verbage might be a little strong in a will. Now what would you do. I guess DH says'' if your dead what does it matter anyways right? if they need the money would you not want them to sell it for such.. I''m like yeah, but it would sadden me if they just sold to get like furniture or something... but I also said to DH that maybe its just me or a woman thing to be a bit sentimental about jewelry keeping in the family. How bout you?

 

[Rhea]

Even if it''s not worn I''d want it in my family. At least to the point where the person doesn''t remember me any longer. Like I''d keep my grandmother jewellery even though it''s not to my taste, but I might not keep my great-grandmother''s jewellery. I don''t know the woman and to my knowledge there is only a simple gold wedding band, no dates, no engraving, she could have bought it right before she passed for all I know.

My family doesn''t have any bigger pieces so that would make a difference. I wish I had jewellery passed down to me. I like buying older pieces and providing them with a new home so I''m glad not everyone keeps their jewellery.

 

[AprilBaby]

I am sentimental. I wouldn''t want heirloom stuff sold even if it wasn''t my style.

 

[Lesley Harris]

When Brian''s mother passed away in September 2007 she left most of her valuable jewelry to our only daughter. One of the pieces is an antique necklace set with tiny rose cut diamonds that was worn by both her mother and her on their wedding days. We would be devastated if our daughter even so much as considered selling it (which I am sure she won''t since she was so close to her ouma.)

My darling grandmother passed away in 1987, only 4 months before she was supposed to come and visit us here in the USA all the way from South Africa. On a previous trip back to South Africa to see out family, my grandmother took her 5 row 18K yellow gold woven bracelet off her arm and gave it to me, saying that she wanted to make sure that I got it while she could still make sure. I treasure the bracelet and wear it whenever I want to take my grandmother somewhere special with me.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 5/17/2009 1:13:47 PM
Author: AprilBaby
I am sentimental. I wouldn''t want heirloom stuff sold even if it wasn''t my style.

ditto!

 

[movie zombie]

Date: 5/17/2009 1:13:47 PM
Author: AprilBaby
I am sentimental. I wouldn''t want heirloom stuff sold even if it wasn''t my style.

what she said.

mz

 

[musey]

I have a similar feeling toward it. I would want my pieces kept intact if they were going to be passed down - after all, it''s an heirloom piece, not an heirloom investment - right?

I dunno. Sure they should be able to do with it what they want, and Ellen''s aqua is a good example of a nice way to keep the pieces of a piece but ''re-imagine'' them into something more wearable for the new owner. I would like to think of my ring(s) especially as being pieces that could stand the test of time, but of course that''s not realistic

 

[purrfectpear]

A gift with "strings" is no gift at all, it''s just an attempt to control things beyond the grave. I understand "wanting" to have things remain in the family the way "you" want them, but shouldn''t there be a point (like at DEATH ladies) where you let go and trust your sons, daughters, or grandkids?