Home I''ve done a booboo....

[joelly]

.....and my pride is crushed. I was having a conversation with my FI about an issue that my mom believed is true. I passed the info to him not knowing that my mom didn''t have her facts checked. I guess I thought what my mom said is true. My FI laughed at me for not checking my mom''s fact before I told him. Anyway, my pride crushed and I am blushed. I guess I thought I should know better.

Does this happen to anyone of you? Or is it just happen to my idiotic self?

 

[brightlight]

Date: 7/4/2009 3:44:45 PM
Author:joelly
.....and my pride is crushed. I was having a conversation with my FI about an issue that my mom believed is true. I passed the info to him not knowing that my mom didn''t have her facts checked. I guess I thought what my mom said is true. My FI laughed at me for not checking my mom''s fact before I told him. Anyway, my pride crushed and I am blushed. I guess I thought I should know better.

Does this happen to anyone of you? Or is it just happen to my idiotic self?

How cryptic. You have me intrigued. May I ask what the issue was about?
My MIL is a gossip, so we take everything she says with a grain of salt, and we DON''T EVER tell her anything private. Fortunately, my family minds their own business.

 

[joelly]

Its about the recent death of Michael Jackson. My mom thought that his death has something to do with his religion/family. My mom just got her facts messed up due to lack of information. Her location doesn''t permit any internet or even real world contact. She relies on what ppl say. My guess is that she reads a tabloid or overheard someone''s conversation and asked me about it. Its pretty innocent IMO.

 

[drk]

I just don''t let my pride get crushed over stuff like that. So what if you had the facts wrong? My Dad and brother are great at making stuff up and having it sound completely true. I''m very gullible, and always believe them.
I can''t say I keep up very well on current events, which embarasses my family at times. I find that most current events are pretty depressing, and I''d rather not read all about the latest plane crash, shooting, financial crisis etc. I do keep up more on celebrity news because I find it entertaining. DH doesn''t care so much that I don''t always know things - he laughs at me a little, and that''s it. Big deal. It''s a lot better than what things would have been like with my first boyfriend in college, who used to sneer at me for reading Harlequin romance novels during exam time to take my mind off the stress. He was really good at being snobby.
So don''t feel bad if you believed your Mom. I don''t generally check facts my family tells me before passing them along. Being wrong doesn''t make you a bad person, or make you stupid. Just fallible and human. Your FI shouldn''t make you feel bad about yourself for something like this either.

Kate

 

[D&T]

My MIL tells me things all the time about stuff in a business I'm well versed in most cases, I can usually see flaws in her information, but for some reason, I don't know how to tell her tactfully that she is wrong, of course I later tell DH to tell her information is misleading or whatever her business is false. I'm usually not really good at sugar coating so some things I say can come off offensive (too blunt), and my DH's family needs sugar coating. Anyhow if its someone close like my DH if I'm wrong I'm wrong, we usually get a kick out of laughing about the misinformation and then we go off researching it and debating about it. Likewise, my DH has said some things to me I know that was misinformed but again after being married for five years, its no big deal, I think when we were engage, it might of felt like how you were at first.

ETA: so don't let it crush you, no one is perfect, and hopefully your FI doesn't make you feel as though you were dumb for saying what you said

 

[LilyKat]

I do feel like that sometimes, but never with people I am close to, like close family, my boyfriend or good friends. I really wouldn''t feel embarrassed to say anything in front of my SO - I would just laugh it off and forget about it. It''s not like you humiliated yourself by saying something stupid in a job interview or in front of a crowd of people. Don''t stress.

 

[Porridge]

Eh. Laugh it off. Happens us all.

 

[joelly]

Thank you thank you ladies. I feel much better already.