Wedding it''s starting!

[mimzy]

if it makes any sense at all, we''re beginning to get married. even though our wedding isn''t for another two months, it feels like our engagement is wrapping up and we''re starting to get into married mode.

last week stefan suggested that we start cleaning out my apt so that we can begin to move his things in. this is a completely logical and legitimate step for most people - but the fact that HE suggested it sort of surprised me (he would constantly make jokes about how he was never really going to move out of his parents basement and that he''d have dual residence, etc, plus he just doesn''t usually take initiative on stuff that requires a lot of effort like this!) so for the past week or so, every night we''ve been working to clear out some of my stuff, reorganize and make room for him. and aside from his insistence that we turn my sewing room into a board game room, it''s going really well

. we''re compromising and reasoning and having a really good time. he brought his first load of stuff over this evening (just some old stuff from when he was younger) and he''s spent the night every night for the past week without me having to plead a little. usually it takes a little convincing...but lately it''s just been a given that i haven''t had to ask for and he hasn''t objected to at all. we''re really listening to each other and going out of our way to make the other happy, and it''s just so great.

i feel like we are just growing closer every day. it''s a busy time, so there''s a lot of teamwork to be had and i just couldn''t ask for a better partner than he''s being right now. i don''t know if he''s turning to mush inside like i am, but whatever it is, i like it! plus now the wedding actually feels CLOSE. i can actually count the number of weekends on my hands!

i''m not expecting it to be all sunshine and rainbows until the wedding, but i feel like i am shedding that single skin and we''re stepping into a new married one together. and i really freaking like it! i don''t know, did anyone else feel like they went through some sort of pre-wedding stage like this?

 

[blondebunny]

awww congrats!!! sounds likes things are going well!!

DO not give in on your own room hehehehe.... Why do boys think we shouldnt have our own craft room?!?! My BF mentioned to me the other day... "When we get our house, I want a man room babe..." Me... "What is a "man room""??... Him... "Well my friend C has one and he said if the door is open you can come in, but if its shut Its my "ME" time..." Me..."HAHAHAHAHHA you''re funny.. but only if I get a craft room!!!"... BB sewing machines and crafts do NOT like to be crammed in the closet..

But a compromise would be acceptable... hahahaha

 

[kama_s]

It is a wonderful feeling, isn''t it?! Enjoy it to the absolute fullest

 

[mimzy]

Date: 10/13/2008 11:42:44 PM
Author: blondebunny
awww congrats!!! sounds likes things are going well!!


DO not give in on your own room hehehehe.... Why do boys think we shouldnt have our own craft room?!?! My BF mentioned to me the other day... ''When we get our house, I want a man room babe...'' Me... ''What is a ''man room''''??... Him... ''Well my friend C has one and he said if the door is open you can come in, but if its shut Its my ''ME'' time...'' Me...''HAHAHAHAHHA you''re funny.. but only if I get a craft room!!!''... BB sewing machines and crafts do NOT like to be crammed in the closet..


But a compromise would be acceptable... hahahaha

haha we''re working on a compromise! I''m going to keep my dress form put away, but (obviously) keep my sewing machine station out and he''s going to get his table for his games, but it''s going to be half in the closet!

silly boys. they just don''t get it.

 

[PrincessDijon]

Date: 10/13/2008 11:42:44 PM
Author: blondebunny
awww congrats!!! sounds likes things are going well!!


DO not give in on your own room hehehehe.... Why do boys think we shouldnt have our own craft room?!?! My BF mentioned to me the other day... ''When we get our house, I want a man room babe...'' Me... ''What is a ''man room''''??... Him... ''Well my friend C has one and he said if the door is open you can come in, but if its shut Its my ''ME'' time...'' Me...''HAHAHAHAHHA you''re funny.. but only if I get a craft room!!!''... BB sewing machines and crafts do NOT like to be crammed in the closet..


But a compromise would be acceptable... hahahaha

OMG My FI wants a "man room" too ugh!!!!! (Hey he already takes up the garage with his cars....) His buddy has a "man room" (I think its where he got the inspiration from). Basically his consists of hockey memorabilia, a few video game consoles, cigars, car magazines, leather couches, ect....

Sorry to threadjack mimzy.....Congrats on your upcoming wedding! Co habitating is awesome and it does make a couple feel closer....Sometimes a little too close (lol...j/k)

 

[Daydreamer7130]

I think everyone deserves their own space. My hubby and decided to turn one of our rooms into a "cozy" room. It has a desk, chair, loveseat, bookshelves and lots of art on the wall and some plants. No TV, no radio. It''s great to have him sit on the couch quietly reading while I''m plunking away at the computer doing my homework. We are still in the same room together yet in our own space. I love it when I turn around and look at him and he''s already looking at me. No words exchanged just quiet moments.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Totally makes sense! haha

It is pretty amazing how thing evolve.

 

[dragonfly411]

mimzy - how exciting that you guys are getting into this mode and preparing for your life together!

 

[pjean]

Date: 10/13/2008 11:27:38 PM
Author:mimzy
we''re really listening to each other and going out of our way to make the other happy, and it''s just so great.


i feel like we are just growing closer every day. it''s a busy time, so there''s a lot of teamwork to be had and i just couldn''t ask for a better partner than he''s being right now. i don''t know if he''s turning to mush inside like i am, but whatever it is, i like it! plus now the wedding actually feels CLOSE. i can actually count the number of weekends on my hands!


i''m not expecting it to be all sunshine and rainbows until the wedding, but i feel like i am shedding that single skin and we''re stepping into a new married one together. and i really freaking like it! i don''t know, did anyone else feel like they went through some sort of pre-wedding stage like this?

Aww... (sniff...) I think times like this are the ones we hang onto when it isn''t sunshine and rainbows. Good way to start!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 10/13/2008 11:54:36 PM
Author: PrincessDijon

Date: 10/13/2008 11:42:44 PM
Author: blondebunny
awww congrats!!! sounds likes things are going well!!


DO not give in on your own room hehehehe.... Why do boys think we shouldnt have our own craft room?!?! My BF mentioned to me the other day... ''When we get our house, I want a man room babe...'' Me... ''What is a ''man room''??... Him... ''Well my friend C has one and he said if the door is open you can come in, but if its shut Its my ''ME'' time...'' Me...''HAHAHAHAHHA you''re funny.. but only if I get a craft room!!!''... BB sewing machines and crafts do NOT like to be crammed in the closet..


But a compromise would be acceptable... hahahaha

OMG My FI wants a ''man room'' too ugh!!!!! (Hey he already takes up the garage with his cars....) His buddy has a ''man room'' (I think its where he got the inspiration from). Basically his consists of hockey memorabilia, a few video game consoles, cigars, car magazines, leather couches, ect....

Sorry to threadjack mimzy.....Congrats on your upcoming wedding! Co habitating is awesome and it does make a couple feel closer....Sometimes a little too close (lol...j/k)

FF has a man room. It contains a bowflex, his computer, some manly posters and his guitars on the wall. We put a DO NOT ENTER sign above the door. Hahaha. It was the only room he got to ''decorate'' so he''s happy!

Yay mimzy!! It''s so close for you!

 

[ladyciel]

Awwww, YAY!!! Such awesome news, Mimzy, that merging your lives is going well!

I WISH we had space for a man room in our apartment! Then I could get DH's bowflex (which has been collecting dust for some time now) out of our dining/living room and I'd have space to get a real dining set. As is I'm currently on my laptop at an ugly table older than I am with chairs that always fall apart, squished up against the wall. The tradeoff is that in our office an entire corner is completely eaten up by my lizards' BIG cages (and DH isn't a fan of the lizards, bit I've had them since long before we met). I seriously can't wait until we graduate and can buy a house! As for decorating, I limited him to ONE framed James Bond poster in the living room, and then he got the space around his desk to do with as he pleased (2 more Bond posters made that cut...). It's all about compromises...

 

[kittybean]

Mimzy, I''m glad to hear you''re happy with how things are coming together for you. What an exciting time!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Mimzy this post made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I couldn''t be happier for you!!!!

 

[mimzy]

eee thank you everyone!

! it really is such an exciting and happy time right now.

and it''s good to know that others are having adventures in cohabitating! we won''t actually live together before we''re married but getting the kinks worked out is going to be pretty fun

. it''ll be nice one day when we have enough space that we can BOTH have our little nooks, but i don''t think we''ll mind being cramped for awhile

 

[LauraBabe08]

I know exactly what you mean! After FI and I graduated from pharmacy school at the end of April, we moved into a townhouse together in Maryland. We love it here and it was so fun picking out furniture together and settling into our space. One of my favorite things to do together is go grocery shopping. I remember in my early years of college I would see young engaged or married couples food shopping together and I would just think that I couldn''t wait till that was me and FI! (nerdy I know)

After the initial excitement of living together, we did have some minor tiffs over our living habits. It was challenging at first, but then we got over it and were able to work around the things that bothered us about eachother. For example, I have become more organized and FI has become more accepting of my sometimes messiness (mainly clothing and make-up clutter). For example, instead of sharing the master closet (which would drive FI crazy b/c I throw clothes on the floor of the closet all the time!) he uses the closet in one of the guest bedrooms. That way he can keep it how he wants to.

Anyway, I didn''t want to be a debbie downer, I just wanted to be real and share my story of how it was a little difficult after the initial excitement, but we really learned about eachothers habits and now we are even happier together.

 

[noelwr]

mimzy - that really does sound wonderful!

I don''t think I''d ever like it if there a was a "man room" in my house and that if the door was shut I wouldn''t be allowed to enter. to be frank, I think that''s quite rude and I''d wonder A) why does my husband want to shut me out? and B) what is he hiding? I never have any secrets and if I ever told my fiance/husband that I need "me" time I know that he''d be hurt, as would I.

my fiance''s parents have the perfect set up. they have one "our room". on one side is his desk with his computer and flight simulator stuff. on the other side is her desk (matching his) with her computer, sewing machine and all her other crafts stuff. I think it''s wonderful they can both do their hobbies together in the same room.

 

[mimzy]

Date: 10/14/2008 9:29:34 PM
Author: LauraBabe08
I know exactly what you mean! After FI and I graduated from pharmacy school at the end of April, we moved into a townhouse together in Maryland. We love it here and it was so fun picking out furniture together and settling into our space. One of my favorite things to do together is go grocery shopping. I remember in my early years of college I would see young engaged or married couples food shopping together and I would just think that I couldn''t wait till that was me and FI! (nerdy I know)


After the initial excitement of living together, we did have some minor tiffs over our living habits. It was challenging at first, but then we got over it and were able to work around the things that bothered us about eachother. For example, I have become more organized and FI has become more accepting of my sometimes messiness (mainly clothing and make-up clutter). For example, instead of sharing the master closet (which would drive FI crazy b/c I throw clothes on the floor of the closet all the time!) he uses the closet in one of the guest bedrooms. That way he can keep it how he wants to.


Anyway, I didn''t want to be a debbie downer, I just wanted to be real and share my story of how it was a little difficult after the initial excitement, but we really learned about eachothers habits and now we are even happier together.

not a debbie downer at all!! and it''s actually funny about the closets...FI offered to use the one in the second bedroom but i''m determined to make room for him in the master one so that we can share (it''s more of a space than a cleanliness issue). luckily for us we are both pretty messy (although FI certainly likes to think i''m worse than he is!)

 

[mimzy]

Date: 10/16/2008 7:38:56 AM
Author: noelwr
mimzy - that really does sound wonderful!


I don''t think I''d ever like it if there a was a ''man room'' in my house and that if the door was shut I wouldn''t be allowed to enter. to be frank, I think that''s quite rude and I''d wonder A) why does my husband want to shut me out? and B) what is he hiding? I never have any secrets and if I ever told my fiance/husband that I need ''me'' time I know that he''d be hurt, as would I.


my fiance''s parents have the perfect set up. they have one ''our room''. on one side is his desk with his computer and flight simulator stuff. on the other side is her desk (matching his) with her computer, sewing machine and all her other crafts stuff. I think it''s wonderful they can both do their hobbies together in the same room.

yeah, we decided on an ''us'' room too - we decided to move the elliptical out of the extra room and into our bedroom and then that makes room for my sewing area and his game area. i think he was hoping that he could have the whole room, not so it was a space where i couldn''t be, but because he hasn''t had a room of his own since high school (his room was taken over after he graduated high school and has just slept on a couch in the basement ever since). i assured him that he could have it and leave it however he wanted though, and i think he''s okay with it