It is tacky to play ''the price is right'' with an engagement ring?

[oneandahalfrock]

Just curious everyone''s take on this...
Do you think it''s tacky when people posts rings/diamonds and ask us to guess how much they cost?
... or do you think they''re just trying to make sure they got a good value for what they purchased?
... or does it depend if it was a gift/personal purchase/engagement ring?
... or does it depend on which section it''s in- Rocky Talk vs Hangout vs Show Me the Ring?
I''m not a fan, and I worry I''m just being to sensitive about it, as I wouldn''t want to tell everyone how much my jewelery costs, but I would love to get another take on it... maybe someone can enlighten me

 

[Moh 10]

Lots of stuff goes on the Internet that would not go in real life.

 

[musey]

I wouldn't/don't have a negative "oh how tacky" reaction to someone asking others to guess how much their piece cost, but I generally have a high tolerance for that sort of 'personal question' line-crossing, especially in a semi-anonymous online setting.

I do think that such posts are better suited to rocky talk, as opposed to anywhere else.

I don't really understand the motivation, though... most people can tell you if a price lines up with a stone/piece, but it's very hard to move in reverse. Asking "how much do you think it cost?" can't serve any productive purpose for that reason, but it can satisfy the purchaser's curiosity if they're simply wondering what ballpark people would guess it to fall in.

 

[oneandahalfrock]

Date: 8/14/2009 8:34:50 PM
Author: Moh 10
Lots of stuff goes on the Internet that would not go in real life.

I agree, and this forum does help inform a lot of people get questioned answered that they might not ask in ''real life'', but shouldn''t questions like that be done during researching the piece of jewelery, not after it''s complete...?
Like it''s a great idea to post a price of a diamond, the cert numbers, a ring setting, what they''ve priced it at, but once it''s a done/set, lol, it seems almost taboo

 

[lyra]

Date: 8/14/2009 8:32:37 PM
Author:oneandahalfrock
Just curious everyone''s take on this...
Do you think it''s tacky when people posts rings/diamonds and ask us to guess how much they cost?
... or do you think they''re just trying to make sure they got a good value for what they purchased?
... or does it depend if it was a gift/personal purchase/engagement ring?
... or does it depend on which section it''s in- Rocky Talk vs Hangout vs Show Me the Ring?
I''m not a fan, and I worry I''m just being to sensitive about it, as I wouldn''t want to tell everyone how much my jewelery costs, but I would love to get another take on it... maybe someone can enlighten me

I always assume they just want to make sure they got good value. I don''t see anything more than that, and don''t see it as tacky since this is a consumer forum. Asking how much someone else paid for their ring can come off as rude. It''s not that hard to figure out the approximate value of someone''s stone here, certainly.

 

[4ever]

I assume it''s just people making sure they got a good deal.

I guess it''s better ad more acceptable that they do it here then go around all their friends/family and ask how much they think it costs.

 

[oneandahalfrock]

LOL, well it sounds like I am in the minority here
And, that''s all I was trying to find out

 

[LamborghiniGirl]

oneandahalfrock, of course it is up to you if you want to answer that question!

I think that it is good people answer questions like those, as I can imagine guy friends of mine, clueless and maybe being ripped off, wanting to know if the price they got is good or not. For my BF, nothing makes him feel better than getting bang for bucks, so he would be thankful if one of you PSers told him in the 30-day policy time frame he was ripped off!

I don''t think it is restricted to just online though. People come up to me all the time and ask how much my car cost. It''s always a very odd moment for me... I don''t think I am bold enough to ask that about anyone''s anything-- whether it is a house, handbag, or ring! I would rather just do the research online and figure it out

 

[oneandahalfrock]

Date: 8/14/2009 10:39:31 PM
Author: LamborghiniGirl
I don''t think I am bold enough to ask that about anyone''s anything-- whether it is a house, handbag, or ring! I would rather just do the research online and figure it out

I''m the same way!!! with the power of the internet I can get a ball park figure on anything I''m THAT curious about, but I don''t know that I''ve asked the cost of anyone''s anything that I can recall

 

[D2B]

I see this as a consumer forum and therefore questions which in real life might be tacky are ok, as we are all trying to learn.

I mean I would never in a million years in real life ask an aquaintance to tell me the carat size, clarity, colour etc of her ring upon seeing it - I am sure it wouldnt go down well, but here it is part of the fun of learning what is what.

I like it when people disclose price as 1. you can get an idea of what something ought to cost if you are interested down the track in similiar and 2. it is interesting seeing the prices years down the track and how they have changed.

I guess in the end it is the spirit of the post, if it is asked politely then all is good.

db

 

[omieluv]

Date: 8/14/2009 11:17:09 PM
Author: D2B

I see this as a consumer forum and therefore questions which in real life might be tacky are ok, as we are all trying to learn.

Ditto. We will never know what a person''s "true" motive is when asking questions regarding price or value. Given that PriceScope is here for consumer education, I consider questions of that nature are for educational purposes. Of course, there are those who are just curious for snarky reasons, but I do not think they become regulars here.

 

[Elegant]

This reminded me of the thread I started: Is it taboo...to mention price?

I''m such a nerd sometimes...

 

[4ever]

I''d still prefer it if someone showed the ring, shared the stats and the price and THEN asked if it was a good deal.

To be honest I do find the "how much do you think this cost" posts very anoying so I don''t answer them.

 

[oneandahalfrock]

Date: 8/15/2009 3:08:30 AM
Author: Elegant
This reminded me of the thread I started: Is it taboo...to mention price?


I''m such a nerd sometimes...

You''re right... I forgot about that thread...

It just feels like there have been a lot of questions lately on COMPLETED AND PURCHASED rings, as opposed to in the ''research phase''.

I know everyone wants a good deal, but if you''ve bought the ring already, give it to the girl and stop worrying about what you''ve paid.

 

[Amethyste]

My take on this subject, I think it is ok to ask price on a piece that we are showing, I mean if the poster doesnt want to say how much it was, there is always the "ignore" that question and move on I have been open on how much I paid for my lemony since it was an Ebay deal (

), but overall, I think questions like these can 'fly' on the net more than what it could be in real life... But yeah.. I think its a little tacky to ask someone you don't really know how much you paid for something this personnal. it can become a touchy subject.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 8/14/2009 9:08:00 PM
Author: lyra

Date: 8/14/2009 8:32:37 PM
Author:oneandahalfrock
Just curious everyone''s take on this...
Do you think it''s tacky when people posts rings/diamonds and ask us to guess how much they cost?
... or do you think they''re just trying to make sure they got a good value for what they purchased?
... or does it depend if it was a gift/personal purchase/engagement ring?
... or does it depend on which section it''s in- Rocky Talk vs Hangout vs Show Me the Ring?
I''m not a fan, and I worry I''m just being to sensitive about it, as I wouldn''t want to tell everyone how much my jewelery costs, but I would love to get another take on it... maybe someone can enlighten me

I always assume they just want to make sure they got good value. I don''t see anything more than that, and don''t see it as tacky since this is a consumer forum. Asking how much someone else paid for their ring can come off as rude. It''s not that hard to figure out the approximate value of someone''s stone here, certainly.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[tyty333]

Sometimes I just feel like its guys trying to get a pat on the back for the good deal THEY think they got. Thats
when it is kind of annoying to me. I would prefer they post the price when they ask if they got a good deal
so when we do a comparison we can say yes or ...you might have been able to do better. In general I dont have
a problem with it.

 

[Haven]

As anonymous posters on a consumer forum, I think it is very difficult to be tacky when asking questions about one''s own possessions, especially if asked on a forum dedicated to informing the public about such possessions.

 

[decodelighted]

I''d guess some of the negative feelings about those type of threads is that people feel pressure to "guess high" or flatter the buyer in some way. I don''t. If you wanna know, I''ll say what I think -- accurately. Not "yes your a** looks great in those pants" accurately but "maybe you shoulda researched here first" accurately.

If someone is just asking if their ring looks nice or whatever ... I''ll only answer if I think it does. Wouldn''t go out of my way to say YUCK!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 8/15/2009 11:29:46 AM
Author: decodelighted
I''d guess some of the negative feelings about those type of threads is that people feel pressure to ''guess high'' or flatter the buyer in some way. I don''t. If you wanna know, I''ll say what I think -- accurately. Not ''yes your a** looks great in those pants'' accurately but ''maybe you shoulda researched here first'' accurately.

If someone is just asking if their ring looks nice or whatever ... I''ll only answer if I think it does. Wouldn''t go out of my way to say YUCK!

Really? I always think of your posts as the epitomy of PC.