Wedding Is your fiancé your ''type''?

[musey]

I thought this might be a fun question for everyone to answer!

If you had a ''type'' before meeting your fiancé, is he it? Or did it all go out the window when you met?

 

[musey]

Mine isn't my type at ALL! I usually went for the "all-american" boys... dirty blonde hair, light eyes, preppy. That's still the type I go for with celeb "crushes."

FI, on the other hand, has black hair, DARK brown eyes, and is of mixed Japanese/German descent. Nothing like any of the guys I dated before. Well, except that he's a preppy/fashionable dresser, though that's mostly my influence

So I fall into the "it all went out the window once I met him" category

 

[Octavia]

When I first became aware of my FI (a little while before we formally met), I thought "hmm, he''s kind of cute...it''s a shame he''s not my type." I''m so lucky that, after we met, he was very persistent, otherwise I would have missed out on the greatest guy I''ve ever known!

 

[anchor31]

Yes and no.

Yes, because I''m definitely into the "tall, dark and handsome" type (with blue eyes), and he matches those criteria.

No, because when we met he wasn''t in a very stable place in his life and seemed like a bit of a bum (he didn''t really care about his appearance, which didn''t do him any favours), but a few months later he went back to school and cleaned up. So I guess now he is all my type.

 

[FrekeChild]

I don''t really think I ever had a type. FF is half Hispanic and half Caucasian, and a little on the preppy side (I think its what happens when you spend so long in college). I''ve always had crushes on pretty blond blue eyed guys, Prince William, Ryan Phillippe, etc, but FF is dark skinned with dark brown hair and coffee colored eyes. So yeah. Perhaps its because about half of the population in NM in Hispanic? I don''t know...

 

[zoebartlett]

Good question! Hmmm, this is hard. In some ways, my FI is very much my type and in other ways, he''s not at all. He''s a very caring, giving, generous, thoughtful person, and I love that about him. For the most part, he''s very even-tempered, and he''s always looking at things from all sides. At times, that bothers me, especially if I''m upset about something and he doesn''t join me on the "all fired up" bandwagon. He''s also very quiet, which truth be told, was kind of an issue for me during our first year together. It was more the level of quietness he demonstrated, if that makes sense.

We went to friends'' house for dinner one night and it was the first time they had met my FI. My friend said a few days later that she wasn''t sure if he liked them because it was hard to tell whether or not he had fun while we were there. He was painfully quiet/shy -- not always great at the art of conversation. As I said, this was hard for me -- my other boyfriends had always been very good at conversing and holding their own at parties. My FI needs a little more hand-holding, I suppose. It''s gotten much better, and he does try hard now to make sure people knows he''s enjoying himself.

He treats me wonderfully, and I know he''d do anything for me. I know he truly loves me, and it''s a great feeling to have. He''s very romantic -- much more than me.

Okay, this is probably way more than you asked for, but it''s hard to sum up my answer.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Some of both.
My "type" were darker skinned Jewish artists. With one exception, my celeb crushes tend to be darker with black haor. My FI is a golden skinned athiest who writes.
Otherwise, he is smart, driven, verry funny and capable of both being silly with me and serious and passionate. He is also bizzare, but so am I, it seems like a good match in that respect.

 

[mimzy]

my FI was my type before i even knew what my type really was. my first serious boyfriend was extremely smart,very attentive, a little quirky and pretty mainstream in most respects. my next boyfriend/s were tattoo''d and played in hardcore bands,aloof and wasn''t really all that bright. FI is a perfect blend of the things that i liked in each of them - extremely smart, attentive, quirky, but more offbeat in term of culture (music, movies etc). if only i could talk him into liking tattoos more

 

[Haven]

This is a really interesting question, but I''m having a hard time answering it!

FI IS my type in the sense that he is extremely intelligent and inquisitive, takes really good care of himself (mind and body), and lives life according to his own terms. He''s also an animal and nature lover, both of which are on my list of things on which I absolutely cannot compromise.

Here''s another trend I just recognized--I tend to date men in the medical industry. FI is a muscle specialist, and my two most significant exes were a pharmacist and a chiropractor. Interesting.

FI IS NOT My type in that he is pretty quiet in social situations and I used to go for the life-of-the-party types. He''s far more serious than any other guy I ever dated, and he''s a grownup, which is a refreshing change, as well.

He makes me grateful for every day, because I get to spend it with him.

 

[star sparkle]

Good question, and one that I''ve thought about a lot!

FI is most definitely NOT my type. He is like exactly the opposite of almost everything I am. He''s also the opposite of the types of guys I used to crush on. I don''t really know how it happened, but I guess it''s history!

 

[galeteia]

H*ll to the yes.

He's more my type than I was aware my type could be: I liked exotic-looking men (like Keanu Reeves) and men with Classical features (like Jason Statham) and somehow managed to land a guy who's the best of both. How I managed to do that I'm not sure; we met in person after we'd gotten to know one another well, so it was pretty miraculous.

Tall, dark-haired, and lanky; I knew when my Italian roommate shrieked that he 'needed to eat some pasta' that he was the one ...

Hilariously, he refused to believe that I found him so attractive until he stumbled across some old paintings of mine; since I was in my teens I'd been painting people that looked like him!

 

[doodle]

what a CUTE question! i was all teary-eyed a minute ago because of all my venue drama, but this made me smile, so thanks for that! my FI and i have been friends for years and were always kinda flirty, even though i was dating someone else when we first met. i always dated bad boys, and i mean REALLY bad boys, like drug problems, abuse, whatever was messed up, i guess i thought i could save them? i dunno! but my FI is one of those guys who totally has his stuff together--great job, very clean-cut, my parents both love him (and they''ve been divorced since i was two and never agree on anything, so for both of them to love him is an amazing feat, haha), so yeah, he''s one of those really perfect people that''s so NOT my type at all because i''m a hippy-dippy crazy granola kid, and he''s corporate America preppy conservative, not to mention i''m a georgia girl with the southernisms (the south is a world of its own!) while he''s from yonkers, NY!!! we always tell people that i lighten him up and he keeps me from running off and joining the circus! physically, though, he''s TOTALLY my type; i''ve dated one red-head, and every single other guy i''ve dated out of MANY had dark hair and eyes. my FI is puerto rican, so yeah, i''m happy!

 

[Laurenj915]

I like this question. It''s fun and my head needs a break from wedding stuff. T-minus 2 months

My FI was not my type. I went for hippy, artsy, musical, intellectual type guys. Then I met my firefighter, former college football player, every channel in the house is on ESPN, get this hummus away from me and get me a steak, I never met a sport I didn''t like, all American guys guy. I think he''s irresistible. Go figure!

 

[tberube]

My FI is totally my physical type. Only I didn't really understand it until after we were together, when someone at work pointed out that every celebrity I have a crush on is small (not "small", but not bulky or super tall), light hair/eyes/skin, with a slim profile. Matthew McConaughey, Jude Law, Josh Holloway (from Lost), et al. And guys who dressed like they were from San Diego. Just like FI (who actually grew up in San Diego).

As far as personality, I'm not so sure I ever thought a guy like him would be my "type." I'm very emotional, intense, book-wormy, and contemplative. FI is like a round-the-clock stand up comedian, with an artist's hand.

 

[allycat0303]

NOT AT ALL. And as it goes on, I realize even less so. I always kind of pictured myself with a preppy, really intellectual, read lots of books type of person as my ideal mate. Someone kind of broody and intense

My guy is a total jock, doesn''t read except it''s for work. He''s pretty easy-going and doesn''t know the meaning of the word ''''brooding'''' he''s got tattoos and has a bit of the bad boy thing in him too, which is the very last thing I would imagine. But I guess the opposites attract thing is true for us. He appeals to the less obvious parts of my personality I guess.

 

[Courtneylub]

Not my type at all.

I have always had a thing for musicians (typically guitarists) who were insanely hilarious and deeply intellectual. Intense....ditto Alleycat.

FI is a loud, cheerful, artsy, gymnastics coach, everybody''s buddy...wears flip flops or tennis shoes and shorts every single day. He is a big teddy bear and does at least one great thing for someone every day. He''s got the biggest heart of anyone I know. (Keep in mind I''m still saying all of this while I''m kind of ticked off at him right now, so he must be special.)

 

[bee*]

D is my exact type. Over 6ft, dark hair, dark eyes, motivated etc. He''s definitely the type that I go for.

 

[Stephanie]

FI is the type of guy that I always wanted emotionally/mentally (intelligent, caring, generous, etc.) However, looks-wise I always went for the less than 6'', dark hair, olive skin, dark eyed guys. Then FI came along and that just went right out the window. He is 6''2", blond, burns in the sun, and the lightest blue eyes. My tastes just changed in that one instant. Crazy.

 

[Krissie]

My fiance was my initial "type" -- tall, dark, skinny, looks like a trendy brit rocker. But about 5 yrs ago I switched to the beefy all american type - and that is what I was dating when I met my fiance

 

[Krissie]

... although, I swore I wouldn''t date, let alone marry, another lawyer. Funnily enough, my fiance is a lawyer, and what''s worse, we practice the same type of law! It''s actually kind of good, in that we can bounce ideas off one another, and we''re both supportive and understanding of the other''s unpredictable hours.

 

[Aloros]

Definitely my type. Tall, dark, and handsome with elegant features, large dark eyes, and expressive hands. I tend to find people of mixed ethnicity most attractive, which he is. The first time I saw him I remember thinking to myself, "Who is that?" And I love the way that he carries himself. He''s very competent - if he''s faced with something he''s never done/seen before, he sits there and figures it out.

 

[sunnyd]

I think so? Not on the outside. I usually went for the preppy guys. My last BF was quiet and shy. FF is the exact opposite! Wears black on most days, motorcycle riding, tattooed, former lead singer of a metal band type. But past that is the most caring man. He''s funny as all hell, very sociable and has this amazing ability to make everyone feel great about themselves! And he loves New Kids On the Block right after Slipknot. LOL...

 

[sumbride]

ha, not at all!

I was into the brooding artistes... the guys with a whole lot of issues, with more books than money, with paint or ink on their hands and big dreams but no action... of course, that never seemed to lead to anything more than heartbreak. I remember specifically telling my mom that I would never marry an investment banker. Well, I didn''t. He''s an accountant! He doesn''t like to read anything that isn''t news/current events, he doesn''t have a bit of artistic sense, but listens to me patiently when I explain why I prefer Matisse to Bonard, but both to Picasso. His only real "issues" are with his family, not with society as a whole. And thank god for that.

My last serious boyfriend was a film school grad, vegetarian, non-drinker who didn''t like sports and had a whole heck of a lot of anxiety prescriptions. My brothers didn''t like him at all. When I brought home M, a beer drinking, NFL season ticket holder who LOVED steak, they said "yeah, ok, marry him please?"

So he goes to football games, does our taxes, buys microbrews and grills steak, and I''m so THRILLED I broke out of my "type". Interestingly, one of our neighbors is EXACTLY what my type was, down to not having a tv in his house... and I find him kind of, well, annoying. ha.

 

[Aim_Turbo]

This is a great question!! My fiance is my type in a few ways..he''s a musician, great sense of humour, sensitive, broke hahaha! The type ends there though! i used to go out with shy types who doted on me and gave in to every whim! I''m very outspoken and strong so those guys ended up losing my respect (bad i know) fairly quickly. Also, physically I always went for the bare chested boys that were very slim and malnourished looking hahah! My fiance is tall, broad and hairy!! He''s also a red head which I never went for before either, I was into tall dark and handsome. I LOVE his hair and his hairy chest! He''s also a very strong personality like me so he doesn''t let me get away with things, which is great but we have to watch our fights as we''re both very stubborn. I''m the oldest and only girl of 3 kids and he''s the youngest and only boy of 3 kids so we can be selfish at times which again can be trying when you both want to be the center of the universe, I think it''s great though because we''ve both learned to tone that down and be sensitive to each other and compromise! He''s the first guy I fell in love with and I''m sure it''s because the type of guys I was with before him was the wrong type! He''s the big, strong guy I always wanted that reins me in and keeps me centred. I''m a lucky girl (as we all are!)

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Probably not my type because before FI my type consisted of jerks.

Haha. Anyway, I had always expected to find someone a bit taller, but then again tall guys never seemed to be attracted to me (I am 5''9") they always seemed to be with someone who was about 5''0". FI is about 5''8.5" And I always expected to be with a guy with dark hair. FI''s hair is brownish and if he is in the sun a lot it ends up sandy blonde. I did never think I''d find someone with blue eyes as amazing as his.

I am so glad he was not my type!!!

Hehe. He is one of the kindest people I know, so much nicer than me to be honest.

Oh and he''s a nerd which I

.

 

[Courtneylub]

I love reading all these replies. Great thread, Musey!!!

Oh and I''m not mad at FI anymore. We made up after he said "I love you my sweet darling sugar baby." Now THAT''S my type! Even if it did make some of you gag. But if you heard him say it, you''d understand. No baby talk or anything.

 

[iheartscience]

Fun question! My fiance is definitely my type. I''ve always liked guys with dark hair, blue eyes and pale skin. I''ve also always liked guys who are a little bit pretty and he definitely is!

All of my celeb crushes fit that bill. (Except for David Beckham-yum!)

And he dresses like more of a regular (but still a tiny bit fashionable) guy, not super punk rock or anything, which is also the type I''ve always liked. I''m pretty fashiony and I definitely don''t dress like most people, but for some reason I''m not into guys who are fashiony! I live in a city with a lot of scenester tattooed boys in skinny jeans and people usually assume that''s what my fiance is like, so they''re always surprised when they meet him.

Plus I''ve always dated guys who are very sweet and very into me, if that makes sense. I don''t know, I know some couples who aren''t that into each other, but I''ve always been very into my boyfriends and vice versa. And my fiance is basically the nicest guy in the world and is always so sweet to me.

Aw...I love my boo!

 

[basil]

Yeah. He''s tall and skinny, kinda dorky but extremely driven, with a vicious sense of humor and a hidden artistic streak.

And when I asked him if I was his type he said "yes, of course". And when I asked why, he said "Because you''re pretty and perfect"

Not real picky, huh?!

 

[zoebartlett]

I thought of something else, or a few other things. I kind of mentioned (or alluded) that my FI and I can be complete opposites. I love to read but he doesn''t. I love to hang out with friends, and while he likes to get together with others, he doesn''t NEED to like I do. He''s more of a loner I suppose (not in a creepy way though

). He used to be in a few bands (hard rock/heavy metal) and I can''t stand that type of music. He played the electric guitar but I like the drums.

We always talk about how if we were back in high school, we wouldn''t even know each other. It''s funny how things work out, isn''t it?

 

[Pandora II]

Yes and no...

I always dated very tall, extremely good-looking guys who generally treated me badly. They were all clever, but not overly academic or intellectual. They were also very into 'boys nights out', drank a lot and took drugs.

I'd got so desperate I'd bought a copy of 'Are you the one for me' and worked through it. It was a real eye-opener (once you've looked past the pseudo-science bits) and I saw where I was going wrong. It taught me that I was really looking for a man who was my intellectual equal, who had similar interests to mine, and that good looks etc weren't actual that important to me.

I met FI a week later - it was instant attraction on every level, so the book wouldn't have stopped me getting involved. However I did stop to measure him up against what had been indicated that I really sought in my partner and he ticked every single box...

Physically he's not my normal type. He's only an inch taller than me (I'm 5' 10" so he's not short, but I usually dated men around the 6' 5" mark). I think he's lovely looking, but he's not someone that other peole turn round to stare at in the street.

I'm pretty unsociable and very into my obsessive interests and he is the same. He has a degree from Oxford and is very academic and writes for a lot of newspapers on current affairs and politics (another of my interests) We both don't really like being without each other (he got back yesterday from his 6 day stag-do in Belarus and Lithuania and the first thing he said was that he'd have had much more fun if I'd come too!)

Basically, we're perfect for each other, but 10 years ago I probably wouldn't have considered him.