Home is this ok for a funeral?

[oobiecoo]

DH''s grandmother passed away and her memorial service is this coming weekend. I really don''t have anything nice that fits so I purchased a skirt at jcrew. It is cotton (like a button-up shirt) with light blue stripes and I have a white silk blouse and tan heels to wear.

Does this sound appropriate to wear or do I need to purchase something in black or a darker color?

 

[littlelysser]

Honestly, I think that outfit might be a bit inappropriate.

I''ve never worn white to a funeral, and I think you''d probably stand out if you did.

 

[partgypsy]

You don''t have to wear all black (contrasting shirt for example), but it''s really worth purchasing some nice black or navy pieces that can be coordinated for this kind of situation. Personally I would think the shoes should also be in a dark, rich or subdued color as well. I''ve also seen people wear charcol gray to funerals (I know because in the past 2 years 3 of my husband''s grandparents and my boss died).

 

[Haven]

Everyone wears black or very dark colors to funerals in my region. If it''s the same for where you are, I would not wear the outfit you''ve described, I think you may be uncomfortable which would take your mind off of honoring the person you are there to honor.

I''m sorry for your and loss.

 

[somethingshiny]

I say it depends on the person (the deceased). My grandma has already forbidden me from wearing anything but pink or red to her funeral! If you think it would be appropriate and your DH doesn't have a problem, I think it's fine.

The last two services I've attended I wore white capris. No one took a second look at me.


I'm sorry for you and your family's loss.

 

[neatfreak]

Dark colors are more appropriate I would say, unless it''s a "celebration of life" instead of a memorial ya know?

 

[Miranda]

I''m sorry for your loss. I think your outfit could be appropriate depending on the situation. I''ve only been to celebration of life, Christian funerals where people were asked not to wear black. Your outfit would certainly be appropriate there. I''m in So Ca, though, so anyone wearing something other than jeans and flip flops is unusual.

 

[oobiecoo]

The memorial is in a Catholic church and I think will have a full mass. I''ve had a heck of a hard time finding pants or a skirt that are dark and fit well so when I found the Jcrew skirt on sale and I had a giftcard to cover it then I figured it was my best bet. I really don''t know where else I would try to find something darker since I''ve literally looked everywhere.

So is it the blue skirt, the white shirt, or both that are innapropriate?

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 8/19/2008 11:03:34 PM
Author: oobiecoo
The memorial is in a Catholic church and I think will have a full mass. I''ve had a heck of a hard time finding pants or a skirt that are dark and fit well so when I found the Jcrew skirt on sale and I had a giftcard to cover it then I figured it was my best bet. I really don''t know where else I would try to find something darker since I''ve literally looked everywhere.


So is it the blue skirt, the white shirt, or both that are innapropriate?

Both IMO if it is a Catholic Mass but especially the white shirt...have you checked Target? They have many jersey black dresses that would be inexpensive and very appropriate usually...

 

[Linda W]

Our dear friend passed away last Thursday and we went to his funeral on Saturday. Everyone wore whatever they wanted to. Some wore dark colors, some wore summer colors. His wife did not care what you wore, she was just pleased that his friends were there to comfort her and be there for her deceased husband.

She herself, had on a beautiful cream blouse and a black jacket.


Linda

 

[neatfreak]

Any of the more basic dresses here would be appropriate...

http://www.target.com/b/ref=in_br_browse_box/?ie=UTF8&node=1104830&frombrowse=1&rh=tgt%5F2%3ABlack

 

[Linda W]

We were at a full mass last year for a funeral. Again, people wore all sorts of colors.


Linda

 

[VegasAngel]

Sorry for your loss.

People usually wear darker colors but the outfit you described sounds perfectly fine to me.

 

[swingirl]

Could you add a darker-colored shawl just to tone down the lightness of you outfit?

 

[oobiecoo]

Date: 8/19/2008 11:04:40 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 8/19/2008 11:03:34 PM
Author: oobiecoo
The memorial is in a Catholic church and I think will have a full mass. I''ve had a heck of a hard time finding pants or a skirt that are dark and fit well so when I found the Jcrew skirt on sale and I had a giftcard to cover it then I figured it was my best bet. I really don''t know where else I would try to find something darker since I''ve literally looked everywhere.


So is it the blue skirt, the white shirt, or both that are innapropriate?

Both IMO if it is a Catholic Mass but especially the white shirt...have you checked Target? They have many jersey black dresses that would be inexpensive and very appropriate usually...

Thank you for the link neatfreak. Unfortunately, I have already looked at Target and couldn''t find anything. I have a weird body shape so I can only wear certain silhouettes and I''m also super short so I have to have petite sizes. Its a huge pain.

I just remembered a pair of black capris I have so I''ll see if they still fit.

Thank you for the sympathies everyone

 

[Kaleigh]

I am sorry for your loss. I tend to wear darker colors to funerals, but that''s just me. I know wearing black is not a must these days. I doubt people will be looking at what you are wearing, wear what fits , be there for your DH and his family. That''s most important....

 

[D2B]

If it is a full catholic full mass I would tend to err on the side of caution and wear dark colours. Can you ask anyone in the family who might be able to advise you on appropriate colours.

d2b

 

[aprilcait]

Date: 8/19/2008 11:30:03 PM
Author: oobiecoo

Date: 8/19/2008 11:04:40 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 8/19/2008 11:03:34 PM
Author: oobiecoo
The memorial is in a Catholic church and I think will have a full mass. I''ve had a heck of a hard time finding pants or a skirt that are dark and fit well so when I found the Jcrew skirt on sale and I had a giftcard to cover it then I figured it was my best bet. I really don''t know where else I would try to find something darker since I''ve literally looked everywhere.


So is it the blue skirt, the white shirt, or both that are innapropriate?

Both IMO if it is a Catholic Mass but especially the white shirt...have you checked Target? They have many jersey black dresses that would be inexpensive and very appropriate usually...

Thank you for the link neatfreak. Unfortunately, I have already looked at Target and couldn''t find anything. I have a weird body shape so I can only wear certain silhouettes and I''m also super short so I have to have petite sizes. Its a huge pain.

I just remembered a pair of black capris I have so I''ll see if they still fit.

Thank you for the sympathies everyone

Have you tried Ann Taylor Loft? I believe they''re still having a sale. They have a good petites selection.

 

[oobiecoo]

Since quite a few of you said that my outfit was probably ok, I''ve decided to wear the white blouse and blue skirt but also add a navy sweater to add a darker element at the advice of everyone else. Thanks for everyone''s help!