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I have nothing new to add but want to say that you are not crazy! I am completely creeped out. He wants something. He sounds like the type that will continue to pressure her until she breaks and gets whatever it is that he''s after. It worries me that he might not be the type that will go away once re-buffed. I think she needs to be very, very careful.
 
Not. Normal.

Get out immediately.
 
You are not crazy and this guy is bad news. She needs to tell him to leave her alone. He''s a creepy, crawly snake...yuck
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YES.

Made my skin crawl just reading about him.
 
This situation sounds like a complete safety risk to me.

At best, I can see them two years down the line possibly married with her trying to leave the union and him declaring he''ll never let her go. We know how those turn out.

OR....in the not so best outcome, I''d look at recent news stories about the gal left on the bottom of the ocean floor during her honeymoon.

Either one is not a good outcome. This has all the classic hallmarks; she should stop it now.
 
Is he hispanic?
The reason I ask is because a lot of male hispanic men that I used to work with seemed a little overbearing like that. My friend (who is also hispanic) said that in Peru it is normal for men to act that way toward women and that the women like it. Also, hickies are supposed to be a very common way to "make it official" down there.

ETA: Oops. He's from Jamaica. That's what I get for not reading the whole thread!
 
Date: 6/12/2009 4:43:09 PM
Author: steph72276
I say have her do a criminal background check....all kinds of red flags going on here. Sad that women have such low self esteem sometimes that they fall for creeps like this. He sounds like 100% bad news.
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He has only been here four years. . .still Trillionaire can check the state court records and see if anything pops up. You just need first & last name.
 
I know the type. They pull this crap on women they think they can take advantage of [often Americans]. If they were to try this on their fellow female countrypeople they know they would get a very unfavorable response so they generally don't even try.

Your friend needs to run as far away from this guy as possible. He is up to no good. No civilized human being behaves like this.

ETA If she has the courage she should give him a good, loud telling off, just like one of his fellow female locals would.
 
Date: 6/12/2009 7:26:38 PM
Author: MC

Date: 6/12/2009 4:43:09 PM
Author: steph72276
I say have her do a criminal background check....all kinds of red flags going on here. Sad that women have such low self esteem sometimes that they fall for creeps like this. He sounds like 100% bad news.
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He has only been here four years. . .still Trillionaire can check the state court records and see if anything pops up. You just need first & last name.
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yeah, she''s a detective kinda gal, so we''ll see what she can come up with. He said he has a 6 yr old back at home (he is 30), and I told her that I wouldn''t be surprised if he had a 6 yr old AND a wife/family back at home. (this was a few days ago) She ignored or laughed it off... I was serious. She''s not the type to listen to me talking badly about this guy for long without it effecting our relationship. Her mom really likes him, and says "he''s fine" (looks-wise) and encourages her to give him a chance and not write him off. Her dad asked him his intentions, with his daughter, and stared him down. (Good for him!) Her parents historically are not good judges of the men in her life.
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trill- I am glad you are there to look out for her! Now we just have to hope she listens, because.. I really agree; verrrry sketchy!
 
My first thought about this guy was "Ick".

She needs to dump him immediately. Before it gets weirder.
 
He sounds really creepy. You''re definitely not crazy thinking that he''s bad news. He sounds like he is.
 
Yikes. Aggressive, whirlwind romances are a classic sign of an abusive man. There are so many red flags popping up it would blow my mind if she can''t see any of them.

But it sounds like you''re not going to be able to stop her...I hope she''s able to walk away eventually.
 
Creepy McCreeper..... and not safe. I dont know, if I were her I wouldn''t trust being alone with him....
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I''m not just saying that...RED FLAGS!!
 
there is this thing called a restraining order...get one

joe
 
I think he sounds swell.
 
I really hope she tells him to push off in no uncertain terms.
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Creep.
 
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Serious CREEP vibes!!
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Tell her to run away!.... Fast!!!
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Date: 6/12/2009 8:06:57 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 6/12/2009 7:26:38 PM
Author: MC


Date: 6/12/2009 4:43:09 PM
Author: steph72276
I say have her do a criminal background check....all kinds of red flags going on here. Sad that women have such low self esteem sometimes that they fall for creeps like this. He sounds like 100% bad news.
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He has only been here four years. . .still Trillionaire can check the state court records and see if anything pops up. You just need first & last name.
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yeah, she''s a detective kinda gal, so we''ll see what she can come up with. He said he has a 6 yr old back at home (he is 30), and I told her that I wouldn''t be surprised if he had a 6 yr old AND a wife/family back at home. (this was a few days ago) She ignored or laughed it off... I was serious. She''s not the type to listen to me talking badly about this guy for long without it effecting our relationship. Her mom really likes him, and says ''he''s fine'' (looks-wise) and encourages her to give him a chance and not write him off. Her dad asked him his intentions, with his daughter, and stared him down. (Good for him!) Her parents historically are not good judges of the men in her life.
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Are you serious? Why would her mom say that? From what we read here, this guy is a creep. Run as far away as you could and do not faint!
 
Run. Run like the wind.
 
I will bet the farm that next step after sleeping with her is to ask for money.She is being had.
 
Friend called me today to say that this guy ''was her man now''. She was excited, they spent the day together and got Jamaican food and he showed her videos about Jamaican culture. After he left, she agreed to meet up with a family friend and go see "the hangover''. The new man gets upset and jealous that she went to the movies. Now, she says it''s over. I said "he will be back." She said "no thanks." She called it a 12 hour relationship.

Praying this is the end.

hopefully will hear the whole story tomorrow, but in the interim, at least I can sleep soundly!

Thank you for your PS prayers and break up dust! LOL
 
Date: 6/14/2009 4:41:45 AM
Author: trillionaire
Friend called me today to say that this guy ''was her man now''. She was excited, they spent the day together and got Jamaican food and he showed her videos about Jamaican culture. After he left, she agreed to meet up with a family friend and go see ''the hangover''. The new man gets upset and jealous that she went to the movies. Now, she says it''s over. I said ''he will be back.'' She said ''no thanks.'' She called it a 12 hour relationship.

Praying this is the end.

hopefully will hear the whole story tomorrow, but in the interim, at least I can sleep soundly!

Thank you for your PS prayers and break up dust! LOL
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* sending lots of extra break up dust in case it is needed...*
 
I'm late to this thread, but:

He wants to give her a hickey to let people know she's taken? Did he ever hear the word "diamond" (which does the same thing much more effectively)?

Dump that chump.
 
Date: 6/14/2009 7:50:08 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I''m late to this thread, but:


He wants to give her a hickey to let people know she''s taken? Did he ever hear the word ''diamond'' (which does the same thing much more effectively)?


Dump that chump.
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Hahaha... love love love it, Madam B!
 
Date: 6/12/2009 3:02:12 PM
Author:trillionaire
wanted to give her a hickey so that other guys would know that she was taken, etc


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The above makes my skin crawl.....
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Uhm....YES, THIS GUY IS BAD NEWS!!!

It sounds like he was very ''physical'' with her right away - wanting to give her a hickey, wanting to drink something she did? And then tryign to make out with her in her parents living room on their second date? Clearly, he just wants to get into her pants, and is saying all the ''right things'' that he thinks will get him there. He tells her he "loves her'' by their second date? There''s no way that could happen - he doesn''t even know her! He sounds like the kind of person who preys on women who are desperate for love and attention (and she sounds like one of them, unfortunately)- and lavishes attention on them so that he can get what he wants. (Yyou know the saying -Men use ''love/attention'' to get sex, and women use sex to get ''love/attention'') Then they leave the girls high and dry. I''ve seen this type before. I hope she doesn''t fall for this!! But in her present state she''s likely to. I really think you should warn her.
 
In many ways he sounds very juvenile...esspecially the "hickey" thing, which isn''t something anyone over 17 should even consider. The drink thing was also a pretty clear indicator that he is creepy.

I would strongly suggest that she get outta there. He sounds like bad news.
 
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