Wedding is this a shower no no??

[amy_dub]

My aunt and My grandmother are throwing a bridal shower for me. I have two parrots, an african grey and a male eclectus. At least one, if not both will be coming to live with FI and I when we move into our new house when it''s ready. Teflon is highly toxic to birds and we have made sure that no items in the house now (i live with my dad) contain Teflon, nor did we register for anything with teflon.

I know you''re not suppose to tell people in the invitation where you''re registered at, it should be via word-of-mouth or our wedding website. Is it a huge no no to write in the invitation "please no Teflon" or should we just return anything we get with teflon if we happen to receive it? I think we should just return anything we get, but FI thinks we should put it in the invitation, to avoid having to return a lot of things.

What do you think?

 

[blissfulbride]

I think you should just make a small not about it. I''m sure everyone would understand. I know i would

 

[robbie3982]

I would just return anything you get with teflon. I think most people will probably buy off of your registry (they''ll ask someone if they''re not sure where it is). I think we got one piece of cookware (an electric griddle) that wasn''t on our registry and I had 2 showers.

 

[neatfreak]

Just return it.

 

[Rhea]

Return anything you get with it. I would think most people would buy off the registry anyway.

 

[Sabine]

I agree that most people will buy off the registry, so you should just return the few if any teflon things you get after the shower.

 

[kellybelly]

every shower i have ever been to has had the registry info included in the invitation. i don''t think it''s tacky at all. people are going to buy you gifts so they might as well know where you are registered. left to their own devices, your guests might show up with totally inappropriate items, such as Teflon pans or something else you wouldn''t want or use at all. i doubt anyone would buy pans that weren''t on your registry though, mostly because they come in a set and folks would want to get you what you asked for.

and i don''t want any non-stick either, for health reasons, so i''m right there with you!

 

[havernell]

I personally think it would ruin the tenor of the invitations to have the note about teflon. The invitations are inviting the women you care most about to share in a beautiful and special event with you to prepare you for your upcoming marriage. The gifts should be secondary. To have a random line saying "oh yeah, no teflon" isn''t exactly keeping with the spirit of what the invitation is evoking. And like you said, invitations should never insinuate that a gift is required of guests, which the teflon note kind of would. So, I just don''t think there''s a way you could mention the teflon restriction without it seeming really out of place on the invitation.

You could do this however. If the invitations instruct guests to call your aunt or grandmother to RSVP to the shower, you could ask your aunt and g-mom to mention the teflon restriction when they speak to the RSVPers.

In the end, I agree with the others- just return any teflon items you get. Plus, is it really that difficult to return a few pans? I think your FI is worrying himself over this for nothing.

Have a fabulous time at the shower!!

 

[gtn]

I would return it. Most people would get things off the registry so it is most likely a non-issue.

 

[lovesparklies]

I agree it''ll probably turn out to be a non-issue so no need to put a teflon ban on the invites. If people don''t use your registry they''re more likely to get you a pretty vase or photo album than pots and pans.

 

[ljsmith001]

Definitely do not put "no teflon prezzies please" in the invitation. If I got that I would be like WTF. It just doesn''t sound right and is even tackier to me than just putting where you''re registered at!!

 

[winston26]

There are always some who go off the registry, but if they do it''s usually crystal or photo frames, etc. not a pot. If you registered for a set of non-teflon I don''t see why anyone would go outside of that. If you registered for no pots it''s slightly more likely but still nothing that would be a pain to return.
And I agree "no teflon" on the invites just sounds strange.