Wedding Is it ok to throw my our bachlorette party?

[blissfulbride]

I have a man of honor, and I dont want to buren him with it. Since it would be a wild girls night out. oh and have any ideas as to what I can do ?

What did you do for your bachorette party ?

 

[Rhea]

I didn''t have a party.

I think you can invite your friends out for a party, but you cannot suggest ideas to them and expect them to pay for it since the bridesmaids typically pay for a bachlorette party.

 

[blissfulbride]

who goes to the bachorette party ? just the bridal party or all the women invited to the wedding like the bridal shower

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/7/2008 8:42:58 AM
Author: blissfulbride
who goes to the bachorette party ? just the bridal party or all the women invited to the wedding like the bridal shower

Whoever you want. I''ve been to bachelor parties before, even though I''m of the female persuasion.

 

[doodle]

i''ve had the same group of nine girlfriends since i was 8, and we''re all getting married at the same time, so i''m about bacheloretted out, haha! with most of the ones i''ve been to, you invite whoever would be appropriate to the setting. i know someone whose party was a spa day and even her grandmother came, but i''ve also been to one where it was just us nine girls and a stripper at someone''s house (that evening is why i''m not letting my bff plan my bachelorette party!). as far as taking over the planning, i personally wouldn''t do so because you have enough to worry about as is. pass it along to a girlfriend, if you have one who is interested, and while i don''t think it''s okay to tell your friend "hey, do this" because the party is usually thrown by your crew in honor of you, i do think it''s okay to request that certain things NOT take place, too...for example, i''ve told my girls that i absolutely do NOT want anything to do with a stripper, but other than that, it''s their call. hope that helps some, and have fun with whatever y''all wind up doing!

 

[ljsmith001]

I think it would be okay to plan your own bach party if you want something low-key. I don''t think it would have been appropriate for me because my MOH planned an entire weekend in Nashville, TN. I ended up inviting around 15-18 girlfriends that I''ve known over the years. Definitely not just the bridal party. I wanted anyone to come that would be up for a good time! However, if you just wanted to go out to dinner with the girls and out for cocktails or something, you could plan that yourself! You can do whatever you want - or you can send out a mass email to whoever is in your bridal party letting them know that you aren''t going to make you ManOH plan the bach party and ask if anyone has any ideas. That way they might get the hint that you need a little guidance with the bach party!! Just be sure to have a good time!!

 

[rubybeth]

I kind of wondered this myself. I have a few friends from different areas of my life (school friends, co-workers, former co-workers, cousins, etc) so I decided it would be easier if I just invited everyone myself (via Facebook) and called my sister my "co-host," though it''s pretty simple since we''re doing a dinner at a restaurant/bar and then onto Cosmic Bowling (I am a nerd).

I invited lots of ladies who aren''t invited to the wedding (our wedding is really small), but I''m not expecting presents or anything like that, and I didn''t want my friends to have to shell out a ton of money to have a spa day or rent a cabin or whatever. I also added that it''s an ''a la carte'' night so if someone wants to come to dinner and skip bowling, or vice versa, it''s fine with me. I''m just hoping I can get one of those "bride" tank tops with the sparklie things on it.

 

[surfgirl]

I see no reason why you cannot plan and host your own special night/weekend out, as long as you dont expect others to pay for it.