is anyone here right now? need a friend to talk to

[dragonfly411]

NEL - I agree 100% and we did talk about this some last night. SO has a tendancy to handle his anger or frustration by walking away from the situation until his steam blows off, but it''s not how I function and not how a relationship functions. It is something we have been working on over the years and he HAS been better about it, but this was definitely not the best way to have handled this. I don''t think he necessarily believed anyone over me, but was afraid I hadn''t told him something based on what "someone" told him, and didn''t take the time to really talk to me about it before he went to blow off steam. He did apologize for that as well, so that was good. I emphasized to him that I wouldn''t be living with him and building this life if I valued our relationship so little that I would hold things back, and he said deep down he knew that. We''ll probably be talking more about it this week, and talking about what we can do to help him learn to not bubble things up and walk away, but come talk to me if he has an issue. It is something he has to learn and get a good handle on.

ps. you didn''t seem harsh.

 

[cindygenit]

So glad everything worked out for you dragonfly! And hope u have a speedy recovery too.

 

[tlh]

glad things are cleared up, and that you are feeling better. I am a little concerned that he didn''t come to you first... so that is a point I''d work on together in the future.

 

[radiantquest]

I just read this and it after the fact, but I have to say Dragon that I am so proud of you. Had that been me I would have lost control of myself. I guess it is a maturity thing, but when my hubby is late or isn''t answering I begin getting frantic. There is no way that I would have handled the situation as well as you. I would have flipped out on him and made the situation much worse. In fact I would have debated going over there. I can''t handle him being angry with me and not talking about it.

Also I must say that I am going to come on to PS the next time I get anxious about hubby. The encouragement and support that was given to Dragon was great and I am sure it aided in helpiing her keep a level head

I am glad to hear that things are better between you and your BF. That is one of the things about relationships. They take work. I hope that now he knows to come to you first.

 

[oddoneout]

I''m glad everything worked out between you and your SO. I''m glad you want to work on the relationship together.