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Shiny_Rock
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- Jan 10, 2004
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Issue:
Boyfriend and I are planning a Jan. ''05 wedding. He''s agnostic and I''m moderately Episcopalian (i.e. I believe in God and Jesus Christ but I''m not a believer in the whole "being Christian is the only way to get into that club called heaven" deal and I''m totally open to other beliefs.)
We''re not getting married in a church, but I would really like to get married by an Episcopal minister, since I know one that I really like and I think it would be special. Plus, my family would certainly prefer it to us getting hitched by the local justice of the peace.
Boyfriend isn''t totally opposed to the idea, BUT he is hesitant about the requirement that he be baptized (which, by the way, I think is a bit odd too). However, to me the baptism is just a hoop to jump through.
My whole idea, which may be ignorant or callous, correct me if I''m wrong, is that since he doesn''t really believe in ANY religion, being baptized just to "go through the motions" wouldn''t hurt him/destroy his sense of spirituality and would be a nice compromise since he won''t get married in the church. However, I''d like some opinions on this. Further, does anyone know any Christian religions that let you bypass this baptism requirement?
** For those of you for whom this post raises larger looming concerns about the wisdom of our marriage, rest assured, we''ve discussed these things in detail. I''d never force him to go to church with me or to believe in my beliefs, and he''ll allow me to take the children (future children) to church and to raise them in my faith since he knows it''s important to me. And yes, we can talk openly about religion.
Boyfriend and I are planning a Jan. ''05 wedding. He''s agnostic and I''m moderately Episcopalian (i.e. I believe in God and Jesus Christ but I''m not a believer in the whole "being Christian is the only way to get into that club called heaven" deal and I''m totally open to other beliefs.)
We''re not getting married in a church, but I would really like to get married by an Episcopal minister, since I know one that I really like and I think it would be special. Plus, my family would certainly prefer it to us getting hitched by the local justice of the peace.
Boyfriend isn''t totally opposed to the idea, BUT he is hesitant about the requirement that he be baptized (which, by the way, I think is a bit odd too). However, to me the baptism is just a hoop to jump through.
My whole idea, which may be ignorant or callous, correct me if I''m wrong, is that since he doesn''t really believe in ANY religion, being baptized just to "go through the motions" wouldn''t hurt him/destroy his sense of spirituality and would be a nice compromise since he won''t get married in the church. However, I''d like some opinions on this. Further, does anyone know any Christian religions that let you bypass this baptism requirement?
** For those of you for whom this post raises larger looming concerns about the wisdom of our marriage, rest assured, we''ve discussed these things in detail. I''d never force him to go to church with me or to believe in my beliefs, and he''ll allow me to take the children (future children) to church and to raise them in my faith since he knows it''s important to me. And yes, we can talk openly about religion.