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I am an American woman who married a wonderful man from southern India. To make a long story short (and in-between details aren't really important), my husband married me for love and his parents disapproved. He hasn't been to India in seven years, but still keeps in contact with his folks via telephone. I've never spoken with his parents, we've never met, and they never even mention me. (I do speak off and on with his sister, though, who seems like a swell gal!).
Anyhoo...his parents are talking about flying out here for a visit. And, I know how long Indian visits can last. Three, four, five weeks, right? I am not happy about this at all. My husband works 5 days a week, 10-12 hour days. I am a homemaker (Ok, I technically am a children's writer who works from home, mmkay?). We have one car, which hubby uses to take to work. I would be stuck in this apartment 10 or so hours a day, five days a week, for several weeks with in-laws who do not approve of me. For a first-time meeting, and considering the circumstances, I am extremely, extremely uncomfortable with this. I know, I can show them how to make American foods, bla bla bla...but realistically, come on. I'm actually considering flying out to my own parents' home just to avoid it all, ha. And I refuse to cook three meals a day, too, especially when I NEED to write and meet deadlines.
The second issue I have, which is actually the part bugging me the most is, I just KNOW my husband will want to pay for EVERYTHING, including plane tickets! This is going to drain our bank account royally, after we worked hard to save up. I have NO problem taking them out to dinner once in a while, or even taking them to one or two places, but I just know hubby will want to foot the bill for everything because his parents are in a financial rut, etc. Well, we also don't have an unlimited money pit, so why should we have to spend thousands, and thousands in plane tickets, dinner, shows, etc? Why should our bank account drain on account of them?
I'm sorry if I sound bitter, but I'm just so angry because I can forsee all sorts of issues. If our bank account drains, I am so scared I will start feeling resentment. I'm just so pissed and emotional right now.
What do I do? Naturally, I'll talk to hubby, of course. But I just needed to hear comments from total strangers. Anyone in a similar position?
I am an American woman who married a wonderful man from southern India. To make a long story short (and in-between details aren't really important), my husband married me for love and his parents disapproved. He hasn't been to India in seven years, but still keeps in contact with his folks via telephone. I've never spoken with his parents, we've never met, and they never even mention me. (I do speak off and on with his sister, though, who seems like a swell gal!).
Anyhoo...his parents are talking about flying out here for a visit. And, I know how long Indian visits can last. Three, four, five weeks, right? I am not happy about this at all. My husband works 5 days a week, 10-12 hour days. I am a homemaker (Ok, I technically am a children's writer who works from home, mmkay?). We have one car, which hubby uses to take to work. I would be stuck in this apartment 10 or so hours a day, five days a week, for several weeks with in-laws who do not approve of me. For a first-time meeting, and considering the circumstances, I am extremely, extremely uncomfortable with this. I know, I can show them how to make American foods, bla bla bla...but realistically, come on. I'm actually considering flying out to my own parents' home just to avoid it all, ha. And I refuse to cook three meals a day, too, especially when I NEED to write and meet deadlines.
The second issue I have, which is actually the part bugging me the most is, I just KNOW my husband will want to pay for EVERYTHING, including plane tickets! This is going to drain our bank account royally, after we worked hard to save up. I have NO problem taking them out to dinner once in a while, or even taking them to one or two places, but I just know hubby will want to foot the bill for everything because his parents are in a financial rut, etc. Well, we also don't have an unlimited money pit, so why should we have to spend thousands, and thousands in plane tickets, dinner, shows, etc? Why should our bank account drain on account of them?
I'm sorry if I sound bitter, but I'm just so angry because I can forsee all sorts of issues. If our bank account drains, I am so scared I will start feeling resentment. I'm just so pissed and emotional right now.
What do I do? Naturally, I'll talk to hubby, of course. But I just needed to hear comments from total strangers. Anyone in a similar position?