If you can do this, apparently you have a bad childhood…

[icy_jade]

This came off a Reddit post via BoredPanda and I was wondering if it’s true that the ability to cry silently is acquired through a bad childhood. Honestly never thought of it that way until I read it and thought “oh yeah, maybe huh”.



There was another post that mentioned that they cannot cry due to a bad childhood, and all sorts of other indicators and oh my gosh why do people have kids when they are such horrid people/bad parents??

I hope it’s not triggering for anyone.

 

[icy_jade]

Crying silently in my room was something I did as a child. That was before I lost the ability to actually cry as a release mechanism for many years. Finally regained my ability to cry but I still cannot cry loudly. As described in the post even at full blown cry mode I don’t know how to cry loudly.

But honestly didn’t think of the linkage until I read the BoredPanda post.

 

[elizat]

I thought everyone was able to do it. That's normally how I do it, if I cry.

 

[icy_jade]

I thought everyone was able to do it. That's normally how I do it, if I cry.

That’s what I thought too. Like do people make a lot of noise crying? My daughter certainly does but she is 5 yo and throwing a tantrum

 

[AllAboardTheBlingTrain]

Maybe this is true for some, but I’ve been able to cry both silently and noisily ever since I was a child, and I had a great childhood. So I don’t really agree.

 

[ForteKitty]

Crying out loud is like a wounded animal giving away its position. Never give someone else the upper hand.

 

[MaisOuiMadame]

Maybe this is true for some, but I’ve been able to cry both silently and noisily ever since I was a child, and I had a great childhood. So I don’t really agree.

+1!!

 

[Missy]

I think this is nonsense. We cry how we cry and there is absolutely no wrong or right way to cry. IMO it is ludicrous to judge others on how they cry. Or where they cry. Or why they cry etc.

I just asked my DH. I am, in his words, a normal cryer. I don't cry silently but neither am I a super loud cryer. I never even thought about this so really cannot share my perspective about my crying which is why I asked my DH.

I will add that I cry freely and easily. I am in touch with my feelings on a very deep level and I allow myself to feel my emotions and express them which does translate into crying. I cry daily still over losses I feel deeply. I am not ashamed of crying. It helps me release sad and painful feelings. For me, it can be cathartic. Though not always.