Wedding Ideas please! A wedding role for dad''s wife...

[Independent Gal]

So, I want to give my dad''s new wife something to ''do'' in or for the wedding that puts the focus on her for a bit and makes her feel included. Trouble is, we''re not having readings. Does anyone have any ideas for other ways we could include her either in the ceremony or the reception?

 

[aljdewey]

Are you close to her? What is the outline of your ceremony so far?

If you are close to her, and if you''re planning to present a rose to each of the mom''s at some point during the ceremony, perhaps you could present her one with a different color than the moms?

Perhaps you could have her escorted down the aisle along with other significant family members?

 

[Rhea]

For the reception: are you having any dances that she could be included in? Or could she do the toast with your dad - stand even if she doesn't speak?

For the wedding: could she walk in with the other mothers/step-mothers/2nd spouses (whatever you want to call her) and have a bouquet like them? Or help with the seating/program handing out?

Or does it need to be something bigger and more inclusive than any of those things?

 

[robbie3982]

flower girl

 

[lauralu]

I am wondering what your parents are doing? Is your dad walking you in? Is your mom being ushered in as part of the ceremony before he bridesmaids walk in? I guess I don''t think I would give her a job so to speak. As parents usually do not have a job at the their children''s wedding. So I would think giving her one, might not be a good idea.

If your dad is walking you in and your mom is being ushered in. I would just do the same with your dads wife as well. Maybe she can be ushered in right after your mother is ushered in and sat where your dad will be sitting after he is done walking you in.

If you do give a rose to your parents. I would just go ahead and give her one as well. Same color as everyone else''s is.

Now if both your parents are walking you in together. I guess maybe I would make a special point of having her ushered in when your FI''s parents are being ushered in.

If your having the parents wear corsages. Make sure you have one for her as well.

I think those things would be very inclusive to her. I would feel very included with just that.

Hope that helped some.

 

[Independent Gal]

Robbie I''m, like, falling out of my chair here. AHAHAHAHAA!

We actually don''t have a flower girl, and I kind of want one. Hmmmm...

You guys make some good suggestions and raise some good points. I think I will start by having her have / do everything the other moms have / do. I want to do something a little extra too, just in case she''s feeling a little sensitive about the complexities of the situation.

I have an idea! What about asking her to PICK the corsage the moms will wear? My mom''s got a whole other wedding to plan, so she won''t care, if she even hears about it. Plus, by saying ''will you pick the corsage for you and the other moms to wear?'' I make verbally clear that she''s ''included'' among them. Get it?

NB, she only married my dad last year and I''ve only known her for a handful of years.