I want to pieces of jewelry. Am I being selfish?

[Imdanny]

My partner and I talked about getting a Tiffany 3mm platinum Lucida ring, and this was the ring we both wanted me to have. He likes platinum. He doesn't like gold. I like both. As much as I like platinum, and I like it a lot, I don't like patina (I know some people do, my partner does, I just don't).

So I decided that I wanted gold and then I decided I wanted Cartier's plain 2.5mm band. To make a long story short, after a long time my partner decided that he shouldn't put his dislike of gold on me (yes!) and that the Cartier ring was the right ring for me (it is!).

So he's been very generous in listening to want I want and he wants to get me what I want and I appreciate that.

I had decided that I didn't want anything other than this ring because I thought jewelry is a luxury, there has to be some limit, wouldn't it be better to limit the sentimental value and the spending to one thing, or else where would you draw the line, and money would be better saved for the future, that kind of thing...

But Cartier has a plain bracelet (it's listed under 'Chains') that's technically for Cartier charms but is the perfect kind of quality + minimalism that I think is very discreet and I should just admit it... I would like to have them both! I think these two pieces would be awesome as a set. I can almost see the two red boxes sitting in front of me.

So I guess my question is would it be reasonable of me buy the bracelet with my own money or would that be selfish of me? On one hand, I think life's short you should have something if you want it. On the other hand, I worry that I'm being selfish because I will certainly be fortunate to have one nice piece of jewelry from Cartier let alone two which I can't possibly argue that I need.

What do you all think?

 

[Amber St. Clare]

If you can swing it, why not??!!!!??

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

If you can swing it, why not??!!!!??

+1. If you can afford it, get it!

 

[missy]

I don't think you are being selfish at all. If you can afford to buy it go for it. In fact, it would be lovely if you bought your partner a gift as well so that way you are spreading the happiness.

Cartier is my favorite store btw. Love their jewelry and I have a gorgeous black opal diamond ring from 1972 that my dad gave my mom and she gave me a few years ago since she never wears it anymore. I will have to get a camera and photograph it for PS. It is breathtaking- I wish I had photo skills with which to properly capture its beauty.

ps jewelry isn't about need Danny anyway, it's about love and enjoyment of beautiful things. Nothing wrong with that!

 

[MissGotRocks]

If you want it and can swing it, go for it. Life is short - enjoy what you can!

I don't think you are being selfish - you are considering his feelings and obviously would feel very fortunate to have both.

He's lucky - at least you're not asking for diamonds!

 

[Kaleigh]

From what I have read from all your posts, you are the last one I would call selfish. You are caring, and I say go for it. Life is short. I can't wait for pics!!! Enjoy these pieces. No guilt, just enjoy.

 

[kenny]

Wanting jewelry is selfish.
Shame on you Danny!

Oh wait . . .
Just do it, dude!

 

[radiantquest]

I say go ahead and I love the idea of getting a little something for him too. It is like pre-ring engagement gifts. Everyone loves gifts!

 

[Imdanny]

LOL! Thanks, everyone!

He wants Tiffany's 4.5mm platinum Lucida ring and a pair of diamond earrings from Brian Gavin, so methinks I have my work cut out in that department! Hahaha! I keep telling him I want to get him a little present like a Frogman sculpture (Frogman makes bronze sculptures- he gave me one- it's about 1" long and .5 " high and I love it). He keeps telling me that I'm the only present he needs. He's so nice (when he's not being an insensitive blockhead ). Maybe I'll save up and get him the diamonds as a surprise. That would knock his socks off.

Kaleigh, right back at you!

 

[Imdanny]

I don't think you are being selfish at all. If you can afford to buy it go for it. In fact, it would be lovely if you bought your partner a gift as well so that way you are spreading the happiness.

Cartier is my favorite store btw. Love their jewelry and I have a gorgeous black opal diamond ring from 1972 that my dad gave my mom and she gave me a few years ago since she never wears it anymore. I will have to get a camera and photograph it for PS. It is breathtaking- I wish I had photo skills with which to properly capture its beauty.

ps jewelry isn't about need Danny anyway, it's about love and enjoyment of beautiful things. Nothing wrong with that!

missy, mine too and VCA is a close second. I hope you can photograph your ring. I'd love to see it!

 

[packrat]

I don't think it's selfish at all! You'll win lots of points w/the earrings hehe!

 

[marcy]

I don't think it's selfish at all. If there is room in the budget go for it and of course earrings are always a welcome gilf.

 

[Harriet]

You're not being selfish. On the contrary, you're generous.

 

[Imdanny]

Thanks, packrat and marcy! What a nice, supportive community this is!

Harriet, thanks for your kind words. I've missed talking to you! You were so very welcoming when I first got here and I appreciate you for that. I think you're a generous person too.

Let me take this opportunity to compliment you on your new gems! Spectacular, all!

 

[Dreamer_D]

I don't think the word "selfish" is applicable when you are talking about buying something you can (presumably) afford.... if you were taking money from necessities, or you only ever bought yourself things, maybe.

But I suppose for some people the mentality is that money should be spent on necessities, or saved, or donated to charity. Is this how you typically think of money, and is this why it i hard to buy it for yourself? That is not my personal mentality, but there is nothing wrong with thinking that way. But I do think there can be a balance between buying nice things and also being fiscally responsible. Only you can determine where that balance lies in your own life.