I totaled my car

[Imdanny]

I've only just seen this. I'm so sorry to hear about your accident Danny. You must have been really scared. I hope you are feeling a little better now and not so upset. Hugs!

Maisie, thank you. Hugs!

 

[Imdanny]

ImDanny, you are such a beautiful person... I am so sorry this happened to you but also SO happy that you are OK.

I hope you win the lottery to make up for this! Good karma is headed your way!!!!! And angels were definitely watching out for you that day. Soooooo happy you are OK, my friend. Clearly, you are meant to live a long and happy life full of beauty and prosperity. Things have a funny way of working themselves out. Hugs.

(((((((Bliss))))))) Thank you.

 

[Imdanny]

ImDanny, first, glad you're okay! Second, I wanted to give you some heads up in case you haven't any experience in this kind of accident. If you've heard it all before, then please ignore it.

A few years down the road, when you have moved on with your life and completely put this behind you, these people might slap you with a court order. That's what happened to me. I totalled my car a few years ago. It was my fault, the other car barely had a scratch, and everything was settled. 2 years later I received a huge thick envelope with a court order. The other people were suing me claiming that his injury was so bad that he lost his job, which was completely untrue.
The process wasn't bad at all. My insurance company handled everything and I didn't have to lift a finger. Luckily I had kept all the original documents so I remembered exactly what happened. The case was eventually dismissed, but it still took about a year for that to happen. It was just unbelievable that I had to deal with this so long after I have moved on and felt better about myself. I was so angry that I was shaking for a week after I received the court summons.

Anyway, since you said that the people you were involved with were tourists, I doubt this will happen to you but I thought it will be nice to know if you didn't already.

I would have LOVED to see your neighbor's reaction had you mentioned the sex! If it happens next time, I suggest you record the sound and let them hear it!

choro72, thank you. I'm sorry that happened to you. How unfair. What greedy, nasty people. I didn't know that was a possibility and I'm certainly glad you told me. About my neighbors having sex, I thought it was polite (although I don't always limit myself to such niceties) not to mention it, although I think it was kind of understood, if you know what I mean. LOL!

 

[tuffyluvr]

Wow, that blows, Danny. So sorry to hear this! Isn't Hawaii a no-fault state, anyway? Don't both peoples insurance cover half? My sister was hit a few moths ago outside the Pukalani Superette, and even though the other guy made a left turn right into her, she still had to pay half. Anyways, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this--take care of yourself!!!!

Thank you. For people who don't know that's a great little one off mini-supermarket of sorts and they have the best cucumber salad ever. Namasu, it's Japanese and this is my own spelling. I can't answer your question. I will ask my insurance company! I keep hearing about "no fault" but I don't know what it means.

I love that cucumber salad! And the ocean salad! That and some ahi poke from the fish market, a hawaiian avocado and some Hawaiian mangoes... Dreamy!!! I miss Maui! Enough food talk... You might be in a better position because of the no-fault policy. Fingers crossed for you!!

 

[Imdanny]

Well, you have my warmest regards and you are certainly welcome to come any time as far as I'm concerned! I know you, and frankly every single person who has posted in this thread, would never even think of parking a car on a 45mph stretch of roadway with no exits, cross streets, or driveways whatsoever. I'm going to call my insurance company tomorrow morning and ask them this question. Thank you again!

Can I please add that this thread has not only comforted me and helped me realize what I knew but had lost sight of in my shock that the essential thing is and only is the fact I did not harm them nor myself, but this is the most awesome outpouring of support I have ever received on any forum about any issue I have decided to talk about, and some very few ones were even worse than this. I am truly amazed and grateful for it.

 

[tyty333]

I am so sorry Danny...seems like you cant catch a break lately . I am glad you are ok. These things happen and I do have
to agree with you (even though the cops dont) that its only 1/2 your fault). I live in FL and we have (usually the elderly) people stop
in the left hand land to wait for traffic to make a right hand turn. It just dumbfounds me. Why cant they go up and either make
a U turn where it is safe or make a right hand turn and backtrack. Its not that difficult or confusing (in my mind).

Again, sorry it happened.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Oh danny! So glad that you are ok. I ran into the back of someone once. It gave me such a shock that I was bawling my eyes out by the time the driver of the car got to me, which was lucky because he looked really angry until he say that I was crying.
Are you hurt at all? I remember having a fair bit of muscular pain a few days later. If you are sore at all make sure you get a massage or something to help with the pain/ stiffness.

And yeah, I agree that a car is just a car, it can be fixed/ replaced. You are ok and that is the most important thing.

 

[Imdanny]

I am so sorry Danny...seems like you cant catch a break lately . I am glad you are ok. These things happen and I do have
to agree with you (even though the cops dont) that its only 1/2 your fault). I live in FL and we have (usually the elderly) people stop
in the left hand land to wait for traffic to make a right hand turn. It just dumbfounds me. Why cant they go up and either make
a U turn where it is safe or make a right hand turn and backtrack. Its not that difficult or confusing (in my mind).

Again, sorry it happened.

tyty333, thank you. It's very interesting to me that you bring up Florida because it's where I was born and my 93 year old grandfather lives there now. Thankfully, he applied himself so very well to life's tasks and now can afford to live in the best assisted living care facility my family could find in Tallahassee where his daughter, my aunt also lives, and she just retired herself from FSU, so the timing was perfect albeit it is hard for her. Of course it's a difficult responsibility but neither of his other children is retired or living in Florida. He was always a terrible driver. I mean he was legendary in our family for almost wiping us out by changing lanes suddenly and without checking his blind spot, etc. The strange thing is flew transport planes for the Air Force in WWII! I never did understand how could have done that when never seemed to be able to drive without scaring us all half to death. I'll be blunt. My mother, aunt, and uncle were concerned about his driving because he was living alone in Tampa and they never were able to make a decision, I mean they never were able to see any clear path forward toward taking away his license. I have no doubt he still has it! He never did get into an accident, though. It's a wonder he didn't. Yes, I did say I feel that morally its only 1/2 my fault, and nothing anyone will ever say will ever change my mind. A person simply does not the right to park a vehicle in a roadway. Say what you want about my driving, etc., but what that man did was dangerous and could have killed all of us.

 

[Imdanny]

Oh danny! So glad that you are ok. I ran into the back of someone once. It gave me such a shock that I was bawling my eyes out by the time the driver of the car got to me, which was lucky because he looked really angry until he say that I was crying.
Are you hurt at all? I remember having a fair bit of muscular pain a few days later. If you are sore at all make sure you get a massage or something to help with the pain/ stiffness.

And yeah, I agree that a car is just a car, it can be fixed/ replaced. You are ok and that is the most important thing.

hawaiianorangetree, thank you. Yes, my shoulders and neck are aching. Walking the six miles yesterday was fine but three of it was carrying two heavy bags. I would like to see a chiropractor, would love to see a massage therapist, but just can't do that 4 buses, 6 miles trip thing today! I'll tell you. I did think the man was sympathetic. His wife was not. I get that a lot. Honestly, what can I do?

Cop wasn't sympathetic. I can think of another word if I try hard enough but I won't!

 

[HollyS]

I'm glad you're okay, except for being upset and ticked off.

You're right, they were quite stupid, but then, they were "out of town rubes" (as the hubbs calls them).

Actually my DH is good at being the "out of town rube", like when he pulled into the fast food lane of a Phoenix McDonalds's . . . going the wrong way.

I digress. Anyway, OOTRs do dumb things. It clearly was a giant WTF moment for them and you.

 

[Imdanny]

Well said, Holly. Thank you.

 

[sapphirering]

Imdanny, just read this thread and I'm glad that you're OK, both physically and mentally. (And I just had to tell you that I LOVED all of your recent posts on Cartier, VCA, Oscar Haymen, and Hermes. ITA with your viewpoints on these venerable houses. Sorry to add this tangent here.)

 

[slg47]

Danny I'm really sorry about your car but glad you are OK. And really glad that you are staying strong and not smoking!

 

[susimoo]

Danny

I am very late to this thread and no doubt I will be echoing my fellow PS'ers. I just wanted to say that I know this has been an awful experience for you and has been huge inconvenience to you, especially financially.

However, I am sure in time, you will realise that the fact you walked away from what must have been a truly appalling accident, is quite amazing. You are ok, besides being a bit sore, it could have been so much, so much worse.

You will see from this thread that a LOT of people care for you, very dearly. We are so grateful you are ok. For that we are all blessed.

Look after yourself, sweetie!

 

[Imdanny]

Imdanny, just read this thread and I'm glad that you're OK, both physically and mentally. (And I just had to tell you that I LOVED all of your recent posts on Cartier, VCA, Oscar Haymen, and Hermes. ITA with your viewpoints on these venerable houses. Sorry to add this tangent here.)

Not at all. I'm very flattered. I'm glad you enjoyed them.

Thank you.

 

[Imdanny]

Danny

I am very late to this thread and no doubt I will be echoing my fellow PS'ers. I just wanted to say that I know this has been an awful experience for you and has been huge inconvenience to you, especially financially.

However, I am sure in time, you will realise that the fact you walked away from what must have been a truly appalling accident, is quite amazing. You are ok, besides being a bit sore, it could have been so much, so much worse.

You will see from this thread that a LOT of people care for you, very dearly. We are so grateful you are ok. For that we are all blessed.

Look after yourself, sweetie!

You're very kind.

Thank you.

 

[Imdanny]

Danny I'm really sorry about your car but glad you are OK. And really glad that you are staying strong and not smoking!

Thank you.

 

[mrs jam]

This is probably one big "ditto" to what everyone else has already posted, but I just wanted to make sure you were keeping things in perspective. The only thing that really matters is that everyone involved in the accident are ok. I'm so glad you're ok. I was involved in a car accident a few years ago (I was a passenger when a friend accidentally turned the wrong way onto a one-way street), and I remember feeling shaken up for several days. It really does put things into perspective, though. I know it's a huge inconvenience to do without a car for a while, but when I think of some of the fatal wrecks I have seen, it's a wonderful thing to be ok, you know? I used to live in California, and my girlfriends and I would drive to Vegas about once a month. It seems like every time we made that drive, we would witness horrible accidents where the life flight would have to be involved. Those images are burned into my head, and I often think about how life can change in the blink of an eye. I know it's hard to shake off the unsettling feelings after a car accident, but just consider how lucky you are to be ok! Best wishes, and I hope you get your wheels back soon!

 

[Imdanny]

I hear you.

Thank you.

 

[y2kitty]

Sorry to hear about your accident. I understand how this could happen, I also live in an area with a lot of visitors and I have noticed lately people stopping in the right lane of a street with two north and south bound lanes like that is ok. I too, have almost hit people. So please accept my condolences and support.

 

[Haven]

Danny--I'm so sorry to hear about your accident, and the consequent bus accident ( ), but like everyone else, I'm thrilled that you are okay.

I have different views about driving than most PSers seem to have, as evidenced by the angry threads we've had about how everyone else on the road is an idiot, so I'll just say is I hope this is a good reminder to everyone to exercise caution when you're driving your very heavy vehicle on the road. A car could be stopped in an inappropriate place for so many reasons--it's stalled, the driver had a heart attack, it just hit an animal, etc.--so we all need to drive in a manner that allows us to stop safely when necessary.

I'm so, so grateful that you and the other driver were able to walk away from this. I was involved in a four-car pile-up when I was 16. My father was driving, we were car #3, and there were a lot of injuries. Nobody died, but it was pretty horrible. It was all caused by a guy stopping short to make a left turn off the road, and the four cars behind him were all driving too close and too fast to avoid smashing into each other. I only broke my ankle and hurt my back, nothing huge. My dad injured his spine and eventually had a major back surgery to try to correct it. But it all could have been avoided if only one of the drivers had made a bad decision, instead of all five. This is the thing with accidents, while there's usually one party who is largely to blame, all parties typically play a role.

Anyway, I think you're very lucky and it sounds like you're feeling much better now. Big hugs to you. Accidents are so scary, especially when you look at your car afterward and see all that damage. I'm so happy you're okay.

 

[Tuckins1]

Oh my lord, glad you're ok! What a sh***y situation...

 

[Imdanny]

Danny--I'm so sorry to hear about your accident, and the consequent bus accident ( ), but like everyone else, I'm thrilled that you are okay.

I have different views about driving than most PSers seem to have, as evidenced by the angry threads we've had about how everyone else on the road is an idiot, so I'll just say is I hope this is a good reminder to everyone to exercise caution when you're driving your very heavy vehicle on the road. A car could be stopped in an inappropriate place for so many reasons--it's stalled, the driver had a heart attack, it just hit an animal, etc.--so we all need to drive in a manner that allows us to stop safely when necessary.

I'm so, so grateful that you and the other driver were able to walk away from this. I was involved in a four-car pile-up when I was 16. My father was driving, we were car #3, and there were a lot of injuries. Nobody died, but it was pretty horrible. It was all caused by a guy stopping short to make a left turn off the road, and the four cars behind him were all driving too close and too fast to avoid smashing into each other. I only broke my ankle and hurt my back, nothing huge. My dad injured his spine and eventually had a major back surgery to try to correct it. But it all could have been avoided if only one of the drivers had made a bad decision, instead of all five. This is the thing with accidents, while there's usually one party who is largely to blame, all parties typically play a role.

Anyway, I think you're very lucky and it sounds like you're feeling much better now. Big hugs to you. Accidents are so scary, especially when you look at your car afterward and see all that damage. I'm so happy you're okay.

Haven, I am sorry to hear about the accident you were in. I appreciate you taking the time to write this post for me. Thank you.

I understand the law in this regard and the rationale behind it. I also think it is important for each of us not to do dangerous things. I am not discussing hypotheticals concerning why a vehicle may be stopped in the road; I am saying that it is dangerous to park one's vehicle in a roadway.

Thank you for reaching out to me and expressing your concern! I send you my warmest regards for a Happy New Year!

 

[Imdanny]

Sorry to hear about your accident. I understand how this could happen, I also live in an area with a lot of visitors and I have noticed lately people stopping in the right lane of a street with two north and south bound lanes like that is ok. I too, have almost hit people. So please accept my condolences and support.

With pleasure. Thank you. Stay safe!

 

[Imdanny]

Oh my lord, glad you're ok! What a sh***y situation...

Tuckins1, thank you.

 

[JewelFreak]

When you have to do the bus trip anyway, I hope you'll get a massage too, just for the sheer comfort of it, Danny. You deserve it. If I had your address I'd send you a New Year present of a gift massages card -- the mother of a friend of mine sent her a year of monthly massages for Christmas once, one of the best presents I ever heard of! Wish I could do the same for you. Hugs & dust will have to suffice instead, with love. It's a matter of time & you won't feel so shattered by it, boring cliche but true. Hang in!

--- Laurie

 

[AGBF]

Hi, Danny-

I am coming to this thread super late because I didn't know the thread about a "totalled car" had anything to do with you until kenny sent me to this thread! I have, now, read it all the way through.

First, like everyone else, let me say that I am most grateful that you are physically safe and that, indeed, everyone else in the cars is, too.

Second, I have to say that my view on driving appears to be a bit like Haven's. My attitude is that one has to be a defensive driver. I have stressed that when talking to my (now 19 year old) daughter all her life, not just when she started to drive. I have a more than healthy fear-I have a deep fear-of other drivers. I drive as if they are all out to get me in any way they can. I drive in a way that borders on the paranoid, watching for cars that might slide off trucks carrying them and rocks that might fly off landscapers' trucks. (By the way, two drivers were killed by foreign objects going through their windshields on the stretch of I-95 near my home in the last few months of 2011!)

I am a very good driver, although not a world class driver. I drive up and down the I-95 corridor far more than than the average person and have put over 150,000 miles on my Jeep in 7 years. Yet I have managed to do some dangerous things and also to be hit during that time.

The worst shock came in a minor collision-reminiscent of yours-in 2011. I was on a narrow back road at night with my daughter as a passenger. A car had come out onto the road in front of me from a stop sign. I was forced to stop in the middle of the road. Where I shouldn't have been forced to stop. And suddenly I felt a huge jolt. I had been hit by a huge piece of heavy equipment driven by someone who had alcohol on his breath and who, like me, knew the road well. He kept asking why I had stopped there. I told him someone had come out in front of me! Suddenly! It was a little frightening with him that night, but everything worked out. But one cannot plan for everything.

As I keep telling my daughter, watch out for the other guy. And try your best not to be a danger yourself. But I once read a very generous statement by a motorcyclist posting about an accident. It may have been here on Pricescope. He said that at one time or another all of us have been a danger to someone; and that is true. I know I am not blameless. So when someone wrongs me on the road, I try to remember that I have done some careless and stupid things at times, too.

Big hugs to you!

Deb/AGBF

 

[Autumnovember]

Aw, Danny I am so, so, so, so sorry that this happened. Your car is in Audi heaven! But, I am really glad that nothing happened to you - your life is irreplaceable and you are much to great and fantastic to lose. You really are so great, Danny. I'm thinking of you and hope you know that I truly wish nothing but the best to you. You have been one of my favorite posters on here for a while now. Keep your head up!

 

[iLander]

Awww, sorry to hear this Danny!

Accidents are so SCARY aren't they?

Hugs to you!

I'm always amazed at the driving that I see here. Do the tourists think that the cars somehow aren't REAL when they go on vacation? I'm also amazed when they walk in the middle of the street, like they're on a deserted country road. They're plain stunned when a car comes up behind them. And there are SO many people that will just drive down the sidewalk here! WHY would they do that? And apparently they don't have stop signs wherever it is they come from, because they can't navigate a four-way stop to save their lives. I always wait until cars completely stop before I cross the street, because I have seen so many people just breeze right through them. And stopping in the middle of the road? Of course, how else can they read their maps?

Yup. I hear ya . . .

 

[Imdanny]

When you have to do the bus trip anyway, I hope you'll get a massage too, just for the sheer comfort of it, Danny. You deserve it. If I had your address I'd send you a New Year present of a gift massages card -- the mother of a friend of mine sent her a year of monthly massages for Christmas once, one of the best presents I ever heard of! Wish I could do the same for you. Hugs & dust will have to suffice instead, with love. It's a matter of time & you won't feel so shattered by it, boring cliche but true. Hang in!

--- Laurie

Laurie, you are so very thoughtful. I send my love to you as well and thank you for your encouragement. Here's to a better New Year!