I just had to post an update about my friend with the vile ex

[LGK]

There has been a final resolution! Some of you may recall my rather angsty rant on the Infamous Disappearing Thread, about my good friend of nearly 20 years who had a horrifying ex. He beat the holy hell out of her about a year ago- put her in a headlock and punched her repeatedly- which left her with some permanent scars on her face. He is a heroin addict with a HUGE habit. After the face punching incident my sister, my husband and I moved her and her kids out in about a day, to live with my sister. He started doing even more dope without the kids around. And stopped working even occasionally.

She and her kids lived with my sister for about a year, and things were going well. Then she finally moved out in May and got her own place, and surprise surprise, Creepy Junkie Ex was suddenly back on the scene within days, hanging around like a really foul smell. She told a mutual friend that he'd "moved back in temporarily", which had sent my sister and I into orbit we were both so ticked, though she denied it to us and swore up and down she understood what bad news he was/is... which kind of smacked of telling us what we wanted to hear, but who knows. Anyway, suddenly he stopped hanging around about a week ago.

Well, he did something RADICALLY, crazy unbelievably illegal right at the end of May. The sort of thing that gets the FBI descending upon your hapless, dumb butt like the wrath of an angry god. And your face on America's Most Wanted and the all over the news. (Honestly, I'm kind of shocked he had the motivation to commit a crime of that sort of scale- I was expecting him to, like, jack car radios for dope money or something.)

The FBI showed up at her house yesterday and questioned her- I talked to her today and she was pretty much in shock. (Thank god she had NOTHING to do with it!)

Anyway, I am beyond thrilled because I thought for sure he was going to weasel his way back in her life, or OD in front of her kids and traumatize them for life or something. She and her kids are staying with my sister and her boyfriend again for a couple of days, thank goodness. He is in hiding currently. Whatever, he is gone from her life for good now and he didn't even have to die to do it! (I was all for him ODing and dying as long as it wasn't where the kids would have to see, which kind of is awful, but well- he is an awful person.) Hopefully he'll go to prison til he rots.

 

[CasaBlanca]

Whew, it sounds like you wrote that in one breathe. Actually, I read it without sentences, and I am exhausted.

My first thoughts were not good, let me explain;

Sounds to me as if he will slither his way back to her for help while on the lamb. This is probably the most dangerous time for her. Her present safety is vital more than it has ever been. As are the children. He has nothing to loose and may decide to go out with a flourish of self authored headlines. You all need to have a plan and stick to it. Contact her routinely and have a code word to use in phone calls if he has returned and danger is evident.

This looser has burned his bridges and will return the weakest most vulnerable contact.

The latest update is should be the last chapter, but I don''t think it is, Kitten. Lets hope the book gets tossed at him and no other editions are written.

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 6/3/2010 9:54:06 AM
Author: CasaBlanca
Whew, it sounds like you wrote that in one breathe. Actually, I read it without sentences, and I am exhausted.

My first thoughts were not good, let me explain;

Sounds to me as if he will slither his way back to her for help while on the lamb. This is probably the most dangerous time for her. Her present safety is vital more than it has ever been. As are the children. He has nothing to loose and may decide to go out with a flourish of self authored headlines. You all need to have a plan and stick to it. Contact her routinely and have a code word to use in phone calls if he has returned and danger is evident.

This looser has burned his bridges and will return the weakest most vulnerable contact.

The latest update is should be the last chapter, but I don''t think it is, Kitten. Lets hope the book gets tossed at him and no other editions are written.

This was my thought as well. Though I would love to be proven wrong!

 

[dragonfly411]

If he''s in hiding then it isn''t the last chapter.

 

[House Cat]

I tend to agree with what''s already been said.

Women who are in love with this type of man seem to be under some sort of spell. She needs a lot of professional help. Please, don''t be too angry with her if she doesn''t meet your expectations (or hopes.) There is a definite reason why she keeps going back to him, why she brings THAT around her children, and why she will probably see him again.

Sigh.

But there is that hope that she is finally opening her eyes. All that this means is she still needs professional help to avoid bringing the same type of man around her children again.

These men, they have a radar, a sixth sense for women like your friend. Your friend, she will gravitate toward men like this. So, hopefully after the smoke clears, she will get real help and see that HE was only half of the only problem.

I''ll be hoping the authorities find him quickly.

 

[LGK]

Date: 6/3/2010 6:28:08 PM
Author: House Cat
I tend to agree with what''s already been said.

Women who are in love with this type of man seem to be under some sort of spell. She needs a lot of professional help. Please, don''t be too angry with her if she doesn''t meet your expectations (or hopes.) There is a definite reason why she keeps going back to him, why she brings THAT around her children, and why she will probably see him again.

Sigh.

But there is that hope that she is finally opening her eyes. All that this means is she still needs professional help to avoid bringing the same type of man around her children again.

These men, they have a radar, a sixth sense for women like your friend. Your friend, she will gravitate toward men like this. So, hopefully after the smoke clears, she will get real help and see that HE was only half of the only problem.

I''ll be hoping the authorities find him quickly.

Tell me about it. She is very, very into the path of least resistance. My sister and I have been trying VERY hard to make that path the one that parts ways with him. We spent a lot of time filling out applications at the DSHS for her, doing her divorce papers, helping her open bank accounts etc. We have not yet managed to get her to go to councelling despite the fact that there are a lot of ways she can get free help, even with us finding plenty of them for her and offering driving and stuff- she just is not into it, unfortunately.

Patience yes, I need it! Some days it''s easier than others, that is for sure.

Luckily she''s safe with my sister for the time being; and I would bet that the FBI is watching her too, which is good I think. I doubt he''ll manage to hide for long, that would imply like... organization and foresight and stuff.

 

[LGK]

I figured I would add that I just talked to her and yes, she is being watched & followed by the FBI, so that''s really good news. My sister and I are taking her out on Saturday and we going to collectively nag her about getting councelling again, my sister had found some excellent resources for free councelling actually.

So, big sigh of relief, I feel like she and her kidlings are pretty safe right now thank goodness. I suspect Idiot Ex, being an idiot, will be caught soon enough.

She is still convinced he''s fixable which is horrifying, but at least it is out of her hands right now.