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I have breast cancer.

Well jeez. You are certainly getting kicked while you are down, aren't you? I hope you have a support system given those close to you aren't ready to show up for you. Be kind to yourself and forgiving of your mistakes. Practice some deep breathing or something, you are going to need it.

My son turned 13. This summer was the summer he basically lost his mind to hormones, but there are glimpses of my sweet boy in there. You raised your daughter and that girl is still there, she'll figure it out, it just would have been nice if it was when you needed her the most.

It's OK to wallow a little or a lot. I'm really sorry.

(p.s. get lots of protein while you can, your body will need good nutrition in the coming months, Core Power drinks have gotten me through days I don't want to eat, and are dairy but lactose free!)
 
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That is so helpful to read. I’ll beat the ever loving sh*t out of this. Thank you.
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Yesssss! That's the spirit!! And you're young and strong... my mom is much older.

Listen, I also want to send big hugs about the issue with your daughter. You shouldn't have to be dealing with all that and these recent health issues. You need peace right now, and I hope you find it. I also pray, regardless of whose fault it was, that your daughter comes to her senses and supports you through this. I know she's young... we've all been there. But she'll only ever have one mom, and I know you're a great one.
 
HI:

Wow. I am crushed by the lack of compassion and empathy by your ex-husband. WE ALL do and say things we regret. Part of life. But honestly this is probably NOT the time for him to play the superiority card. Has he NO ability to self reflect? Withholding information from, and contact with your daughter could seriously backfire. You have rights. Just sayin'.....

xoxo--Sharon
 
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monarch64 said:
Again, thank you all.

I never thought I’d be the kind of person to share this sort of thing. But one of the first things I thought of was what will I tell my Pricescope people? You’ve all been my friends and almost like family for so many years, and I’d rather tell you all than even people I grew up with.

I’m so sad. And mad!

I’ll get through this, I think.

Idk if any of you were around wayyyyy back, but I did an Avon Walk for Breast Cancer years and years ago. I had a thread about it. And I organized various Relays for Life, etc. when I had time while my dad was going through cancer:

rockzilla

Thread 'Avon walk...anyone done this? Advice?'

So, my BF and I have signed up for the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in LA. It''s not until September, but we are starting early so that we have time to fundraise and train for it. It is a marathon the first day and a half marathon the second day (!) AND you have to raise a minimum of $1,800 each AND (they didn''t tell us this until after we signed up) it''s actually in Long Beach and you have to be there at 5:30 in the morning.

If anyone has any tips or words of encouragement, please send them my way!

Thanks,
RZ

Deep breath.

This is hard. I have something else I need to talk about here and I don’t have the energy tonight. But let’s just say my ex knows about my probable diagnosis and is refusing to speak to me and won’t let me see my daughter. That will kill me faster than some stupid cancer ever could. I truly cannot believe a man could be told that the mother of his child 95% probably has breast cancer and he won’t let her see her child, even on the first day of school as always.

Of course there’s more to that story: my daughter and I had a falling out this summer over her not cleaning her bedroom and bathroom. I begged him for a meeting which he ignored. The consequence I put up was that she’d spend the rest of the summer with him. She tested the boundary: I enforced the consequence, now she hates me. And he won’t let me speak to her nor will he communicate with me. It is awful.

Apparently I f’d up.

I’ve been tired. Exhausted, really. Anytime I do anything now it’s like I have to rest afterwards and I think I’m too young for that at 48. But that was one of the symptoms.

Anyway, thanks for reading/listening. I appreciate and love you all.
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i am leaving out the swear words but imangine them where approprate
stupid man !
what an .....
this is the cruelist f'ing thing ive heard of and im so angry on your behalf
and a parent's job is too F up sometimes, its how you learn just like at any age of our lives
and for that matter i dont think you did F up
she was testing boundries, its as old as time
for F sake- what is wrong with the man ???
and im not sure how old your daughter is but she should also know better

you need kindness right now from the people who should love you
 
monarch64 said:
Again, thank you all.

I never thought I’d be the kind of person to share this sort of thing. But one of the first things I thought of was what will I tell my Pricescope people? You’ve all been my friends and almost like family for so many years, and I’d rather tell you all than even people I grew up with.

I’m so sad. And mad!

I’ll get through this, I think.

Idk if any of you were around wayyyyy back, but I did an Avon Walk for Breast Cancer years and years ago. I had a thread about it. And I organized various Relays for Life, etc. when I had time while my dad was going through cancer:

rockzilla

Thread 'Avon walk...anyone done this? Advice?'

So, my BF and I have signed up for the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in LA. It''s not until September, but we are starting early so that we have time to fundraise and train for it. It is a marathon the first day and a half marathon the second day (!) AND you have to raise a minimum of $1,800 each AND (they didn''t tell us this until after we signed up) it''s actually in Long Beach and you have to be there at 5:30 in the morning.

If anyone has any tips or words of encouragement, please send them my way!

Thanks,
RZ

Deep breath.

This is hard. I have something else I need to talk about here and I don’t have the energy tonight. But let’s just say my ex knows about my probable diagnosis and is refusing to speak to me and won’t let me see my daughter. That will kill me faster than some stupid cancer ever could. I truly cannot believe a man could be told that the mother of his child 95% probably has breast cancer and he won’t let her see her child, even on the first day of school as always.

Of course there’s more to that story: my daughter and I had a falling out this summer over her not cleaning her bedroom and bathroom. I begged him for a meeting which he ignored. The consequence I put up was that she’d spend the rest of the summer with him. She tested the boundary: I enforced the consequence, now she hates me. And he won’t let me speak to her nor will he communicate with me. It is awful.

Apparently I f’d up.

I’ve been tired. Exhausted, really. Anytime I do anything now it’s like I have to rest afterwards and I think I’m too young for that at 48. But that was one of the symptoms.

Anyway, thanks for reading/listening. I appreciate and love you all.
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Hmm. I wonder what a family court judge would say about your ex taking it upon himself to shut you out of your child's life.

As far as laying down the law with your daughter in the first place, I'd have done the same thing. When kids get to a certain age, don't we know many/most of them will try to test you. And if that results in them learning they can walk all over you, I doubt the results would have been any better.

Hopefully, it WILL all get better soon, though. :)
 
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Geez @monarch64
This is all crappy news.
You are a strong and determined woman, and I know you will power through this.
I am sending massive positive vibes your way❤️
 
Just wanted to make sure I stopped by and wished you all the best, letting you know thoughts are sent your way from Colorado. All the digits crossed for whatever good news possible.
 
I am so sorry for what you are going through. More than ever, you need support now. There has to be a way to make contact with your daughter. Don’t give up.
 
My heart breaks with you, that is horrible. No one deserves to be treated in such way.
With that being said, I don’t know what that pain feels like.
But I have felt deep betrayal, I don’t have a village.. it’s just me my kids and my fiancé. So I’ve had to just cope through whatever life throws at me, I have a son that was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy so I’ve felt that heart break. But I do know this, people eventually pick the fruit from which they themselves planted. No one leaves this earth without paying their dues IMO.
You are stronger than you could ever imagine, there is always a rainbow after the storm, but if you want to vent, let yourself vent. Take a moment to cry or scream, whatever it takes to let it out. Then fix your crown because you are a queen, don’t let him put you down. Your daughter doesn’t know any better and probably feeds off of his energy towards you. I wasn’t the best daughter, myself so I can speak as to that aspect.
One day she will rethink the way she acted and realize how of an amazing mother you are. This too shall pass… praying for you.
 
monarch64 said:
Apparently I f’d up.
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You did not *uck up. Take that incorrect assumption out of your head and heart and burn it. Kids are hard and this situation shall pass -- let it run its natural course. Take care of yourself. You are #1 numero uno the most important person and you need to keep your emotional and physical strength all for yourself. It's not selfish to do so and it doesn't make you a bad mom. Don't let your ex pull you into a trap of self-doubt or emotional blackmail.
 
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