I forgot my mom''s birthday.

[ladypirate]

My mom''s birthday was yesterday. I remembered this the day before, and the day before that. Yesterday I completely forgot to call her.

I called her first thing this morning to say happy birthday and apologize and she ripped my head off. I just feel awful.

I called a florist down there and had flowers sent to her, but I don''t know what else I can do. She said she would probably eventually forgive me but that it will take a while for her to get over it. I spent all morning sobbing. Any suggestions on other ways to make it up to her?

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/4/2009 1:31:33 PM
Author:ladypirate
She said she would probably eventually forgive me but that it will take a while for her to get over it. I spent all morning sobbing. Any suggestions on other ways to make it up to her?

awe, big hugs. I''ve done it to. She''ll forgive you!

 

[crown1]

you probably just caught her at a vulnerable time. since you have called, apologized and sent flowers i would let it slide and carry on your relationship as usual. we all overreact at times. she will probably be glad to forget she lost it. just make sure you don''t forget mother''s day!

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 5/4/2009 1:42:22 PM
Author: crown1
you probably just caught her at a vulnerable time. since you have called, apologized and sent flowers i would let it slide and carry on your relationship as usual. we all overreact at times. she will probably be glad to forget she lost it. just make sure you don''t forget mother''s day!

Ditto!!! You could always overcompensate for Mother''s Day...lol.

I forgot my moms birthday one year. (Granted, I was only like 10!) Needless to say, it has NEVER happened again!

 

[Kelli]

I guess I''m not that big of a "birthday person", but I just don''t think I''d ever care enough to really get upset over that. Sorry she got so upset, and I''m sure you feel bad, but she will get over it. Just get her something extra special for mother''s day!

 

[tigian]

Awwww. I know how awful you feel. I''ve forgotten my mom''s bday once and I felt so bad. There is nothing you can do except for wait until she cools down. She will definitely forgive you and I''m sure she will feel bad about getting mad at you this morning. Make sure to do something for Mother''s Day. Maybe a little something more than usual.

 

[Linda W]

Aw LP, don''t worry she will get over it. Her feelings were just hurt. It was nice that you sent her flowers. Just do remember Mother''s Day. That day is a special one.

 

[FrekeChild]

That sucks. I''d just compensate for it on Mother''s Day. And outshine your siblings!

 

[HollyS]

In the words of Scoobydoo: RWHU RWRO!!



She''ll get over feeling neglected. You need to get over feeling guilty. You live apart; you''re busy. These things happen. You need to forgive yourself, and realize it may take her a little longer.

 

[brooklyngirl]

LP, I''m sorry she got so upset, but she WILL get over it, faster than your she may think. Don''t be so hard on yourself, we all slip up sometimes, and I''m sure your mom feels bad about how she reacted.

The same thing happened to me last year when I forgot about my mom''s bday on the day :-/

 

[Lilac]

I''ve had some fights with my mom where she also says she doesn''t know if she''ll forgive me or something similar, but after a day or two the anger and hurt go away and at the end of the day she''s still my mom and I''m still her daughter and we love each other.

Your mom is very upset about it right now because it''s fresh in her mind. You showed you cared by calling, apologizing, and sending flowers, and I''m sure you''ll show her how much you''re thinking about her and love her on Mother''s Day. She''s angry now, but she''ll forgive you.

Don''t beat yourself up over it - you didn''t mean to do it and we all forget things sometimes and make mistakes. Your mom also knows this, she''s just upset right now. Luckily Mother''s Day is coming up and you can make up for it!

 

[partgypsy]

Ha ha reminds me of what happened to me yesterday. My husband''s mother is in town. She visits us, has dinner with us, conversation, then leaving, and as she is leaving she turns and says, "You do know it''s Mother''s Day today, don''t you?" (voice quavering a little). I say, "um, really? I thought it was next weekend". "No, it was today" (resigned hurt voice). My husband steps in and says "C''mon let''s look at the calendar" showing her that it was in fact next week. Anyways she was a little embarrassed and excused herself but I could tell if we had really forgotten the waterworks were going to come out.

 

[Lauren8211]

If I know anything about moms, it''s that they love their children unconditionally. She was just really hurt, and she WILL calm down, and possibly even feel silly for getting so worked up over a birthday.

You made an honest mistake. Let the guilt go, and like others have said, make mother''s day really nice for her.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

She''ll get over it. These things happen. My dad and brother forget my birthday almost every year. Sometimes they even TALK to me that day and I wait to see if they bring it up and they don''t.

 

[icekid]

Date: 5/4/2009 1:43:15 PM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 5/4/2009 1:42:22 PM
Author: crown1
you probably just caught her at a vulnerable time. since you have called, apologized and sent flowers i would let it slide and carry on your relationship as usual. we all overreact at times. she will probably be glad to forget she lost it. just make sure you don''t forget mother''s day!

Ditto!!! You could always overcompensate for Mother''s Day...lol.

I forgot my moms birthday one year. (Granted, I was only like 10!) Needless to say, it has NEVER happened again!

Oh no... don''t feel too bad, LP. It happens! Though I do think a big to-do for mother''s day will make her forget

 

[bee*]

Date: 5/4/2009 1:52:44 PM
Author: Linda W
Aw LP, don''t worry she will get over it. Her feelings were just hurt. It was nice that you sent her flowers. Just do remember Mother''s Day. That day is a special one.

ditto. Just do something extra special for her on Mother''s day.

 

[Miscka]

Awww LP, I hear you. My Mom would react the same way. In fact, I am sitting here trying to think of ways to overcompensate for stuff with Mothers Day, too.

FWIW, my Dad forgot my bday last year. For like 3 days. Yeah, it was not fun. But I got over it. And then, in a stroke of supreme irony/karma whathave you, I forgot to call on his bday too. Ha. So now I can''t say anything.

It sucks to know you hurt someone you love. Just keep showing her you love her and are sorry and she will come around.

 

[ladypirate]

Thanks for all the advice, everyone. I just talked to her and she got the flowers I sent her, which went a long way toward smoothing things over.

 

[SelenaLV]

As a mom of three, i couldnt imagine giving my kids the riot act if they forgot my birthday, yes I would be hurt, but I dont see how making you feel horrible is going to help? Sorry she is putting you thru the ringer. People are not perfect. Just know she will forgive you and I would be she will feel like crap for overreacting (and yes it was an over reaction). I would send her a heartfelt letter, maybe like 60 things (or whatever her age is) I love about mom. If that doesnt soften her, look for a new mom! LOL!

 

[merrymunky]

Aw hun I am sorry to hear that she was annoyed at you.

I forgot my mother''s birthday a about 10 years ago. I even phoned her on her birthday for idle chit chat and hadn''t realised the date. We were living at opposite ends of the country at the time. I was at uni up in my home town but she had moved to the south of England a couple of years before upon re-marrying. Her birthday falls in the summer holidays. I was at my part time job a few days later and suddenly realised it was past her birthday. I asked someone what the date was, they told me the date and I just started sobbing right there behind the sandwich counter at work!

As soon as I got off work I ran to the nearest phone box to ring her. She was fine about it. A little sad maybe (my older brother forgot too, but he is useless. I never forger usually). I think I was more upset than her.

I''ve never forgotten since!

I hope your mother doesn''t gove you a hard time for long. These things just happen.

 

[doodle]

Date: 5/4/2009 3:50:13 PM
Author: ladypirate
Thanks for all the advice, everyone. I just talked to her and she got the flowers I sent her, which went a long way toward smoothing things over.

Oh, good! Glad to hear that! This thread reminds me...I still haven''t given my mom or my brother their Christmas presents. OOPS!

 

[JSM]

Date: 5/4/2009 4:59:01 PM
Author: merrymunky


As soon as I got off work I ran to the nearest phone box to ring her. She was fine about it. A little sad maybe (my older brother forgot too, but he is useless. I never forger usually). I think I was more upset than her.

I had that happen too!

I actually forgot my mom's birthday this year. I was in the midst of planning my elopement, finishing experiments, writing a thesis, looking for a job... it's no excuse, I knew it was coming and I just forgot to call. All of a sudden at 12:15am I jumped out of bed, ran to the phone, and called her SOBBING. She not only forgave me (for forgetting AND waking her up) but felt bad that I felt so horrible!

Mom's love their children, and I certainly am sending her a mother's day gift I know she'll love (inexpensive, but very meaningful).