Wedding I don''t want to be this person

[basil]

My brother (groomsman) and my dad ordered pinstripe tuxes with silver ties after I had told them that my fiance had requested that they wear black tuxes with black ties to match the other groomsmen. Their excuse - "well you didn''t tell us which tux to get and we figured pinstripes were still black. The black ones were boring."

I know that this is not important to the future of my marriage but I can''t help feeling like everything that I don''t micromanage just gets messed up. It''s going to look weird for my family to be wearing a different outfit than fiance''s dad and brother.

I feel like a biatch telling people what they can and can''t wear. I feel like I hurt my dad''s feeling by implying his choice was stupid. But geez, pinstripes on a tux!?





I hope I can look back at this one day and laugh. 11 days left!

 

[musey]

Blame it on the photographer. Say you''ve been told that the photos would look bad if the suits are all the same color and design, and that your photographer is adamant on this issue.

That''s what I did with the ivory (NOT white--IVORY!) shirts

 

[Blair138]

Ummm...I would tell them they need to be the same-if you don''t want to do it yourself, I agree with Musey and blame it on the photog...I don''t think it''s micromanaging...in my mind groomsmen/ushers/dads should all wear the same tux, I know some people don''t feel that way, but it''s YOUR wedding and you are entitled to have it the way you want it.

 

[musey]

Also, this isn't an issue of them not being able to afford the black tux, or having an allergy to the black tux, or looking bad in a black tux... it's just because they think the black is "boring."

They should be willing to don the black tux and look a little "boring" (in their opinions) so that your wedding party can look more cohesive. Especially because they're renting and not buying (I assume?) the tux, they really don't get to say "but I like the pinstripes better!"

 

[kittybean]

I agree with the previous posters: you are not micromanaging, and they should wear the black tux. Blame whoever you want, but tell them that they need to wear black tuxes, end of story.