How often do you visit your adult children?

[nala]

And how near or far do they live from you? Pre pandemic or post pandemic.

 

[Dancing Fire]

And how near or far do they live from you? Pre pandemic or post pandemic.

We see our daughters and our grandkids at least 5X per week, pre pandemic, during the pandemic nothing had changed for us. Our lives goes on pandemic or not.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

And how often do your adult kids see you ? Could also be asked ?
Ok its been covid
but we live on a busy day 2 hours away
We'd be lucky if on average over the 3 years we have lives here 3 times a,year

but we used to live 40 min away and they didn't visit either

 

[Austina]

Well, pre-pandemic, we’d visit probably at least 4 times a year (we’re in the UK, they’re in the US), and they’d visit us probably once a year.

Obviously, once the pandemic hit, we’ve been unable to visit, so haven’t seen them since December 2019. We FaceTime probably 4 times a week now, for up to 2 hrs at a time. During the worst of the pandemic, they’d FT more or less daily to check we were OK.

 

[Missy]

And how often do your adult kids see you ? Could also be asked ?

I am answering from the child's perspective.

We live about 60 miles away from my parents.
Pre pandemic about 6 times a year but I speak on the phone with my mom/dad almost daily.

We saw them 3 times over the past 15/16 months of the pandemic.
August 2020 they visited us at our beach house.
May 2021 we visited them at my parents house.
And they visited us about a week ago here.
But it was outside when they visited us in Aug 2020 and May 2021.
And before we got our vaccines (only visited once pre vaccination) we didn't hug or touch when we visited.

My sister saw my parents more frequently pre pandemic as they helped out with the kids so when the kids were younger my parents saw them five days a week.
But during the pandemic no, because my parents are elderly and the kids are older now anyway so my sister and nieces saw my parents only a few times during the pandemic and that was always outside in my parents backyard.


I love my parents very much and it was hard not seeing them but since we speak almost daily anyway it was OK. We weren't taking any unnecessary risks with my parents health and safety. Not seeing them to make sure they remained safe was a small sacrifice and well worth it.
I am very aware that time is precious and we aren't guaranteed anything and the pandemic made me even more acutely aware of that.

I am grateful for each day my loved ones are here even if I cannot see them in person.

And now I am very happy we are back to visiting my family post vaccination but we are still being careful and visiting outside.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I am answering from the child's perspective.

We live about 60 miles away from my parents.
Pre pandemic about 6 times a year but I speak on the phone with my mom/dad almost daily.

We saw them 3 times over the past 15/16 months of the pandemic.
August 2020 they visited us at our beach house.
May 2021 we visited them at my parents house.
And they visited us about a week ago here.
But it was outside when they visited us in Aug 2020 and May 2021.
And before we got our vaccines (only visited once pre vaccination) we didn't hug or touch when we visited.

My sister saw my parents more frequently pre pandemic as they helped out with the kids so when the kids were younger my parents saw them five days a week.
But during the pandemic no, because my parents are elderly and the kids are older now anyway so my sister and nieces saw my parents only a few times during the pandemic and that was always outside in my parents backyard.


I love my parents very much and it was hard not seeing them but since we speak almost daily anyway it was OK. We weren't taking any unnecessary risks with my parents health and safety. Not seeing them to make sure they remained safe was a small sacrifice and well worth it.
I am very aware that time is precious and we aren't guaranteed anything and the pandemic made me even more acutely aware of that.

I am grateful for each day my loved ones are here even if I cannot see them in person.

And now I am very happy we are back to visiting my family post vaccination but we are still being careful and visiting outside.

I love seeing your mom and dad
Please give them my best wishes from down here in NZ

 

[House Cat]

One of my sons lives 15 minutes away. He visits every Sunday. My other son is also 15 minutes away, he visits about once a month, maybe a little less. My daughter lives an hour away, we see her about six times per year.

During the pandemic we didn’t see any of our adult children.

We are in the process of moving. Once we are done, we are going to start having a no pressure, once a month family gathering to try and bring us together more often. Just say on the third Sunday of the month, the door is open. Come if you can. Then we will make a mess of food to feed everyone and if they don’t come, we will eat leftovers all week and I won’t have to cook.

 

[Mekp]

I'm answering from the child's perspective.
My mom lives a 5 minute walk from my house. Pre-pandemic we used to see each other at least 2-3 times a week. Right now restrictions are loosening and we are about back to that baseline.
My dad lives a 30 minute drive from my house. We are not very close and see each other a few times a year around birthdays and holidays.
DH's dad and stepmother live an hour's drive from us and we see them a few times a year, around birthdays and holidays.

 

[Missy]

When I lived closer by I visited often. In fact I saw my grandmother at least once a week when I lived within walking distance.

 

[Slickk]

My adult children live within about an hour - hour and a half away. We see them about twice a month depending on what is going on.
I love seeing my kids!! Today I will see them all!!

 

[MamaBee]

We see our son and family probably every month or a bit more. They live in Virginia..We have a house in Maryland so we’ll drive to our Maryland house from Pennsylvania on a Friday and then drive there on a Saturday…come back to Maryland..and then go back to Pa on Sunday. They invite us..It’s harder for them to travel with the youngest because he’s a pandemic baby. It would throw his nap time all off if he had to take a nap in Maryland. They text me photos and videos of the boys a few times a day. They want us to move close to them. I’m very close to my daughter-in-law too.
My oldest son would call me multiple times a day..We have a complicated relationship for reasons I can’t say here. We’re now seeing him about every two to three weeks. He lives in the next town.

 

[MamaBee]

I am answering from the child's perspective.

We live about 60 miles away from my parents.
Pre pandemic about 6 times a year but I speak on the phone with my mom/dad almost daily.

We saw them 3 times over the past 15/16 months of the pandemic.
August 2020 they visited us at our beach house.
May 2021 we visited them at my parents house.
And they visited us about a week ago here.
But it was outside when they visited us in Aug 2020 and May 2021.
And before we got our vaccines (only visited once pre vaccination) we didn't hug or touch when we visited.

My sister saw my parents more frequently pre pandemic as they helped out with the kids so when the kids were younger my parents saw them five days a week.
But during the pandemic no, because my parents are elderly and the kids are older now anyway so my sister and nieces saw my parents only a few times during the pandemic and that was always outside in my parents backyard.


I love my parents very much and it was hard not seeing them but since we speak almost daily anyway it was OK. We weren't taking any unnecessary risks with my parents health and safety. Not seeing them to make sure they remained safe was a small sacrifice and well worth it.
I am very aware that time is precious and we aren't guaranteed anything and the pandemic made me even more acutely aware of that.

I am grateful for each day my loved ones are here even if I cannot see them in person.

And now I am very happy we are back to visiting my family post vaccination but we are still being careful and visiting outside.

They are so cute @missy!

 

[MRBXXXFVVS1]

I haven't seen my parents since Thanksgiving 2019. Getting on a plane is required to see each other. We used to see each other probably 4-6x a year, but we won't see them until Spring/Summer 2022 due to medical circumstances. I'm very sad about this and honestly quite jealous of siblings and other family members that get to see my parents more frequently due to proximity. They are getting older and we never know how much time we have left...

 

[MamaBee]

I haven't seen my parents since Thanksgiving 2019. Getting on a plane is required to see each other. We used to see each other probably 4-6x a year, but we won't see them until Spring/Summer 2022 due to medical circumstances. I'm very sad about this and honestly quite jealous of siblings and other family members that get to see my parents more frequently due to proximity. They are getting older and we never know how much time we have left...

I’m sorry @MRBXXXFVVS1 I hope you get to see them soon.

 

[vintageinjune]

I can only answer from the adult child's persective, but my parents and I live about 1,000 miles apart, and I go up to visit them/my brother and his kids/grandparents 2-4x a year ( last year we did end up there twice, once in July for my grandfather's birthday , we could only talk with him on the cell phone while looking at each other through the patio window but are glad we did it, and drove up again for his viewing on Christmas day, he passed away December 24th.)

My parents have visited us twice in the last 8 years, and are coming for another visit later this summer.

They and my younger brother see each other 2-3x a month (they live 1.5 hours away and watch their grandkids frequently), but have not visited my youngest brother as he lives in Japan. Closest we got was meeting in the middle-ish in Hawaii last year.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Pre pandemic, we would visit our family 2-3 x /year live in another city. But during Covid, I haven't seen my Mom/sisters for 1.5 years. We talk frequently on the phone. We will visit this long weekend for my Mom's 86th BD. We are all vaccinated with 2 doses.

My son lives close by and pre-pandemic we always had Sunday supper together--and could visit during the week. During lockdown we didn't see each other much. It was difficult, but we spoke frequently. Now that restrictions are lifting we go outside on patios for a meal.

cheers--Sharon

 

[diamondringlover]

My oldest son lives about 40 mins away, I normally see him once or twice a month sometimes more, sometimes less..during the serious part of covid it was probably about once a month or every other month, I try to stay involved in my grand daughters life, she will be 2 in October, this month has a ton of birthdays so I got to see them all yesterday (yeah me) and we will get to see the again next weekend..woohoo...my youngest son lives with us so of course no change in that. From a "kid" point of view, I went quite awhile between visits with my mom, she does not/would not really follow any of the covid guidelines, she was running bars and restaurants all the time and because of this I went a very long time between seeing her and when I did see her I wore a mask and it was a good thing I did because I went and seen her when she had moved and then 4 days later her gentleman friend (who was there as well) got COVID and almost died...how she didnt get it was beyond me, now I see her probably at least once a month, just seen her last weekend. I am glad we can all get together again and my entire family is fully vaccinated!

 

[Sprinkles&Stones]

I am in CA and my parents are in MN. I only get to see them twice a year and it breaks my heart . They are older and can’t travel. Last year during the pandemic when our flights got cancelled, we rented a car and drove all the way there and back. It was over 4,000 miles. It was worth it!

 

[Elizabeth35]

Visiting only daughter now in Florida--saw her last November. Post-covid I imagine we will see her 2-3X per year. Oldest son is in Hawaii--he was here in December and April, and we met him in Las Vegas (ugh) in June and visited national parks. We will visit him in Hawaii in September.
#2 son lives with us so we see him daily. Son #3 is in Colorado and we saw him at Xmas and will see him next month. He is a 2-3X per year visit.
Son #4 is local so we see him several times a month now that we are vaccinated. Son#5 is finishing school in Wisconsin and was just home for a few weeks. We see him quite a bit.
We are fortunate we can afford to fly to see them or purchase tickets so that they can fly to visit us.

 

[GoldenTouch]

My daughter & I live with my Dad so see him daily. We see my mother 3-4 times a week.
My sister is two hours away & she comes up usually twice a year. We saw her in April & she probably won’t come up again until Christmas. She doesn’t ring often either. She doesn’t have work commitments on weekends or children so she could come more often (in my opinion).
Dad visits her 1-2 times a year, same with Mum. When I lived in another state I came to visit more than she does.

 

[MamaBee]

HI:

Pre pandemic, we would visit our family 2-3 x /year live in another city. But during Covid, I haven't seen my Mom/sisters for 1.5 years. We talk frequently on the phone. We will visit this long weekend for my Mom's 86th BD. We are all vaccinated with 2 doses.

My son lives close by and pre-pandemic we always had Sunday supper together--and could visit during the week. During lockdown we didn't see each other much. It was difficult, but we spoke frequently. Now that restrictions are lifting we go outside on patios for a meal.

cheers--Sharon

@canuk-gal I’m so happy you will get to visit with your mom for her birthday…That’s such a long time to go without seeing each other.

 

[rcjtraveler]

Pre- COVID we saw our son about 6 times a year. He lives about 6 hours away and has a really use work schedule. During COVID we went almost a year without seeing him in person which was very hard. We have seen him several times since November and are planning a visit shortly!
We see my Mom pretty frequently as she lives with us usually for several months. During COVID she stayed with us for 8 months as it was safer for her.

 

[TooPatient]

Pre-covid, my mother came to visit us three times in 13 years. We saw her when we visited my grandparents maybe once or twice a month. Seldom saw her while there. An hour away by car. Little to no text, phone, or other messages.

2020, maybe three times total as we did not go to my grandparents much at all.

2021, she has been to our new house 4-6 times and we have been to my grandparents house 1-2 times per week and see her almost every time. A bit more messaging as I set up a group chat with her and my aunt.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I visited my 19 year old, who I consider an adult, once a month while he was away at UCSD. It is only an hour or so away, so I could have visited more often, but we wanted him to establish some independence. My husband who works in SD saw him a lot more though. He would take my son out to lunch at least 1x a week, sometimes more. They were always much closer though, father-son besties.