How many affected by cheating?

[reader]

I was in an open relationship for ten years, and served as a mistress for an older married gentleman for two of those years.

 

[Samantha Red]

Both for me I am afraid. I cheated on my first husband when he was my boyfriend about five years before we got married. We pieced it together and got engaged and married only for him to cheat on me with his PA and then leave after 6 years of marriage I guess we could say we were equal, and the pain it inflicted means I would never ever cheat on my current husband and hopefully he will never cheat on me.

The biggest regret I have though is for the guy I cheated with. He was the dearest, sweetest, kindest individual that I have ever known and he fell for me in a big way. He deserved so much better than he got from me and I am very glad to say he found someone who deserved him and is very happy now. I used to wonder what my life would have been like had I stayed with him, but I will never know and I am fortunate to be with a wonderful man whom I love and adore now.

I guess my experience proved to me what goes around comes around sooner or later and I learnt from it

 

[bee*]

I''ve never cheated or been cheated on thankfully. It''s a total deal breaker for me so I couldn''t do it to someone else.

 

[oddoneout]

Date: 3/24/2010 8:42:03 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Luckily I haven''t been cheated on, nor have cheated. But my best friend from High school, her Ex cheated on her after gosh 18 years of marriage. He ended up giving her an STD!!!! I wanted to strangle him.

He used to be such a stand up kind of guy, a person I really liked... Now?? Not so much.

Unbelievable! How could someone do this (well unless he was a slimeball)?

 

[vespergirl]

Date: 3/25/2010 7:00:56 AM
Author: oddoneout

Date: 3/24/2010 8:42:03 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Luckily I haven''t been cheated on, nor have cheated. But my best friend from High school, her Ex cheated on her after gosh 18 years of marriage. He ended up giving her an STD!!!! I wanted to strangle him.

He used to be such a stand up kind of guy, a person I really liked... Now?? Not so much.

Unbelievable! How could someone do this (well unless he was a slimeball)?

That is just horrible. What a nightmare.

 

[princessplease]

I cheated when I was in college and was cheated on by my HS love.
I will never do it in my marriage because that is what broke my parents up, and I would not want to but my family through that pain.

 

[lilyfoot]

I have been cheated on (I''m not sure to what extent though) and I have cheated. I have also, I guess in the "legal" term, been a mistress.

My FI''s ex was what you would call a "serial cheater". And she had no shame about it, either.

Luckily, he''s a very smart man, and he trusts me 100%. I''m so glad that relationship didn''t scar him for life, he went through some crazy sh*t that you wouldn''t believe even if I told you!

 

[Girlrocks]

I have never cheated.

I have been cheated on by a guy I dated for 5 years. I found out by opening the newspaper and seeing his engagement announcement to another girl-with the same name as me, who spells it the exact same way that I do (and there are many variations on my name). Nice.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I''ve been sort-of cheated on - he had a definite (inappropriate) emotional entanglement with a girl who was in love with him (which of course I could see - he claimed she wasn''t) - I''m not certain whether it became physical while we were still together. After he broke up with me, she convinced him to try to date - it lasted only a couple of days. Now she and I are friends and I haven''t spoken to him in 6 years

 

[PumpkinPie]

Date: 3/25/2010 7:02:35 AM
Author: vespergirl

Date: 3/25/2010 7:00:56 AM

Author: oddoneout

Date: 3/24/2010 8:42:03 PM

Author: Kaleigh

Luckily I haven''t been cheated on, nor have cheated. But my best friend from High school, her Ex cheated on her after gosh 18 years of marriage. He ended up giving her an STD!!!! I wanted to strangle him.

He used to be such a stand up kind of guy, a person I really liked... Now?? Not so much.

Unbelievable! How could someone do this (well unless he was a slimeball)?

That is just horrible. What a nightmare.

That it terrible I hope the STI was treatable at the very least!

 

[PumpkinPie]

oh! and I''ve never ever cheated. I simply don''t think I could - I hope if it ever came to that in my marriage, I would leave him instead. Cheating is an unforgiveable sin in our relationship - I know with 100% certainty that he would walk away without looking back if I cheated.

 

[Tuckins1]

I have been cheated on. It sucked, it was such a devastating thing to find out. When I finally accepted what was really going on with him, I threw him out THAT DAY and never looked back. Best decision I ever made, aside from marrying DH!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 3/24/2010 8:51:20 PM
Author: elrohwen

Date: 3/24/2010 8:24:11 PM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 3/24/2010 7:21:57 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 3/24/2010 6:50:22 PM
Author: elrohwen

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Author: gemgirl

Date: 3/24/2010 3:51:54 PM

Author: elrohwen

Date: 3/24/2010 3:46:39 PM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

I just did.


I suppose you can say I was also DH''s mistress for a short time. He was separated but not officially divorced. By some of the more conservative, traditional standards I''d be considered a home wrecking harlot.

Harlot!! Can I throw stones at you now?

You can only throw pebbles el. She was just a teenager and it was only a kiss.


When you get to be our age, then you can throw boulders!

Well, apparently I''m only allowed to throw my bunneh at her

Does that mean I can throw bunny ''pebbles''?? (if you know what I mean)

You are not a monkey, we do not throw poop!

Just think of them as cocoa pebbles!

Or cocoa puffs!

We do not eat poop!!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 3/24/2010 4:28:54 PM
Author: kenny
Long ago I had a partner of two years.

We were monogamous.

Well I was and he said he was too.


When I learned he wasn''t from a friend I confronted him.

He lied.

Then I presented the evidence I had.

He broke down crying, ''I''m so sorry; It''ll never happen again, blah blah blah''.


Nope. Dealbreaker. Good bye.

And that was that.


Had he not lied I when I asked I may had given him a 2nd chance.


If a relationship isn''t working, fix it.

If you can''t, get help.

If that doesn''t work, pack your $#!/ and get out.


When you cheat you are really cheating on yourself.

That last line rings with me. When I got married I felt like I was making this huge commitment to myself. You can''t make a commitment like that to anyone else. You can make it FOR them or in their honor, but you really can only make it to yourself. You have to be commited to the commitment. I was so overwhelmed with this that I really wanted to be alone on my wedding night to contemplate the enormity of this. To this day I am aware that this commitment isn''t to anyone but myself. If it is important to me to do my part for happily ever after, then I have to do that for myself.

BTW kenny - how long are you into your current relationship?

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 3/24/2010 6:29:47 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 3/24/2010 4:06:33 PM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 3/24/2010 3:53:23 PM

Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 3/24/2010 3:24:23 PM


Author: Hudson_Hawk


I cheated on a hs bf by kissing someone else when I was mad at said bf. It ended the relationship and I''ve been scarred ever since. I''ve been cheated on as well.

kissing don''t count.

Uh, yea, it ended the relationship and was physical interaction with someone other than my SO at the time. I''d consider it cheating.

okay then...how about shaking hands would that be consider cheating too?

If you seriously cannot distinguish between a clasping of hands and having tongues in each other''s mouths, I''d be concerned about you lol

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 3/25/2010 6:59:02 AM
Author: bee*
I''ve never cheated or been cheated on thankfully. It''s a total deal breaker for me so I couldn''t do it to someone else.

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