vizsla
Brilliant_Rock
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- Aug 23, 2005
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i would say that my friends having children around the same time as my dh and i having/if we have children is a big thing for us... my dh is still friends with the kids he grew up with (and now so am i
and i would love it if we all had children together.. safety in numbers...
at least that way i won't feel like i'm totally annexed from things just because we have children and our friends do not.
it sounds weird and probably selfish , but social interaction is huge for us! we've seen a couple of our friends totally break off after kids - we've vowed not to do that.. we still want to maintain 'us' .. just 'us with kids' .. maybe that would help lessen my child care fear issue .. if we have a pool of friends that have kids then we can all share each others child care.. i.e. i'll watch your kids while you run errands/go out to dinner and vice versa...
robbie - i do totally agree that times are different, and as it stands i'm the 'breadwinner' so there is no choice for me but to go back to work... and if need be my dh could totally stay home and be a sahd.. which would stretch us, but we could probably swing it.... but i just wonder if that is going to be ok with me... i wish i could say it wouldn't bother me.... i want to think i'm super cool and hip.. but ya never know....
oh who knows.... i'm not getting any younger... even if i were to get pg today i'd still be 32 before i had the bean.. then wait 1.5 years before the next... to be done by 35... but being 53 when they graduate from h.s. seems sooooo old...
ugh!
sometimes i wish for a happy mistake so i don't have to think about it anymore
at least that way i won't feel like i'm totally annexed from things just because we have children and our friends do not.
it sounds weird and probably selfish , but social interaction is huge for us! we've seen a couple of our friends totally break off after kids - we've vowed not to do that.. we still want to maintain 'us' .. just 'us with kids' .. maybe that would help lessen my child care fear issue .. if we have a pool of friends that have kids then we can all share each others child care.. i.e. i'll watch your kids while you run errands/go out to dinner and vice versa...
robbie - i do totally agree that times are different, and as it stands i'm the 'breadwinner' so there is no choice for me but to go back to work... and if need be my dh could totally stay home and be a sahd.. which would stretch us, but we could probably swing it.... but i just wonder if that is going to be ok with me... i wish i could say it wouldn't bother me.... i want to think i'm super cool and hip.. but ya never know....
oh who knows.... i'm not getting any younger... even if i were to get pg today i'd still be 32 before i had the bean.. then wait 1.5 years before the next... to be done by 35... but being 53 when they graduate from h.s. seems sooooo old...
ugh!
sometimes i wish for a happy mistake so i don't have to think about it anymore