Wedding How far in advance of your date did you have your RSVP deadline?

[Amandine]

I have been working on our invitations this morning, and realized we have not yet picked an RSVP deadline date. How far in advance of your wedding date did you have your RSVPs due?

 

[tberube]

Mine is three weeks ahead of time. That way I can have time to call all the people who decide 6 weeks still isn''t enough time to respond. Ack.

 

[doodle]

mine will be one month because my middle name is "procrastinate" so i''ll need the extra time to figure out where people will be sitting, etc. i may even roll it back another two weeks, so it''d be six weeks, but i haven''t decided yet...i''ll do that tomorrow.

 

[Krissie]

Ours is just under a month (RSVP by September 15, wedding is October 11). That gives us all time to chase, and we will be out of the country for a bit of time before the wedding anyway so it buys us more time.

 

[doodle]

Date: 7/8/2008 12:09:32 PM
Author: Krissie
Ours is just under a month (RSVP by September 15, wedding is October 11).

we have the same wedding date!!!!! i think i may have already known that but forgot...senility is my other middle name.

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

ours will be about 5 weeks. Im allowing that extra 1 week to follow up for guests who dont RSVP by the date (which is a whole other story! grrrr!)

 

[musey]

Four weeks.

This gives one week of leeway, and the following week to call stragglers, before our two-week caterer''s deadline.

 

[Fancy605]

My caterer said she needed everything about 2 weeks in advance, so I put my RSVP date as 3 weeks in advance b/c I knew there would be some guests who responded at the last second and who would get their cards in late. Actually, my caterer was very sweet and let me even add in a few last min guests a few days before the wedding (people who had never been to a seated dinner before and didn''t realize the importance of RSVPing just casually mentioned, "so, we''ll see you at the wedding?" and I was like, "Ummm...I will?" It worked out luckily)

 

[Courtneylub]

3 weeks. Mine were due on July 5th, so I''m going through the follow up calls as we speak.

 

[newbie124]

On a similar note, how long is normal to give guests to respond (i.e. the time between when you send them out and the RSVP deadline)?

 

[Independent Gal]

Eight weeks, which I know is really early, but a lot of international travel was involved, not just for the guests but for the RSVP''s, some from countries with not the best postal systems. So we wanted wiggle room.

Oh, that and I was really excited.

No one seemed that concerned, and the few people who needed more time I just said ''Take your time!'' But most people knew right away anyway.

 

[jcrow]

4 weeks and one day.
so - nov 18 wedding, oct 17 rsvp date.

 

[Gwyn]

For my first round of invitations i put the RSVP date a whopping 2 months before the wedding. For my second round of invitations they are about a month and a half.

We are having alot of cross country travel.

Because of limited space, we wanted to be able to invite a second round of people if we had room but didnt want to make it too late so that they would know they were second round.

I wanted time to call people and be sure they were coming plus deal with guest/dining options issues if they arose.

Also, I am going to be unavailable 2 out of the 4 weeks leading up to my wedding (unavoidable) and i really wanted all the guest issues and such to be taken care of about a month in advance so i wasnt checking up on things when the time was the most hectic for me and also so i would have time to make seating arrangements, oot bags, etc.

I know ours is pretty early, but it is mostly only family and close friends, so I dont think anyone will mind. they have all known about it for a while and most have already planned to either come or not come.

 

[Gwyn]

In response to newbie124

We are giving them about 3-4 weeks. Invites *should* be out by the 20th of this month and are due back on the 15th. If we get them earlier we might send them out earlier.

I am not really worried about people forgetting or anything, since its a pretty close knit affair. those that are not so close are the second round invites. they will be given about 2-3 weeks to decide to RSVP about a month before the wedding.

 

[gtn]

One month. That''s what the printer told me.

 

[Elmorton]

3 weeks - most people send ''em in right away, though.

 

[zoebartlett]

Our "reply by" date was June 7th, and our wedding is in 4 days, so that''s just over a month. We padded the date a little, but we still ended up calling about 6 couples who hadn''t sent back their cards yet.

 

[Sabine]

Ours was 4 weeks. And we were still tracking people down 2 weeks before the wedding.