He''s Just Not That Into You - The Movie

[Porridge]

I apologise if this movie has been covered, but I just watched it, and I am pissed

WHAT is up with that? The main girl gets super excited when she FINALLY thinks a guy likes her (NO mention of whether she likes him AT ALL), throws herself at him, gets rejected, goes on a nice date with someone else who she then proceeds to forget all about when the first guy shows up and decides she gets to be the exception, the lucky one, out of all the girls he''s been with? And she''s HAPPY about this?

At the end, the two single girls are made to look pathetic, mumbling something about traveling to India, trying to pick up the pieces and find themselves, while the guy who screwed them over is looking as cocky as ever, smirking over the fact that he misses nothing about marriage.

The other story lines were comparatively ok. At least everyone was fairly honest with each other and both sexes were equally let down by the other. But sheesh! That was an affront to sensible people everywhere.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Well the book was really good and helpful...

Sorry the movie didn''t follow that....

 

[OUpearlgirl]

I thought Gigi''s story ended up being kind of lame... But I love that Jennifer Conelley and Scarlett Johansson''s characters remained single. They dumped the loser and chose to pick up the pieces of their lives. I''d have been more disappointed if their "happy ending" included a new guy.. Meaning that women can''t be happy alone.

 

[lyra]

We saw the movie at the theatre and mostly liked it. I was disturbed by some of it of course. And it was obvious that we''re supposed to think Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) was the "less atrractive" one who had trouble getting dates, or rather finding a lasting relationship. Oh please! She''s gorgeous!

 

[Kelli]

I haven''t seen it yet, but I''ve been wanting to. Sucks to find out it''s a bummer, but I''ll probably see it anyway

 

[FrekeChild]

Yeah the only story line that bothered me was Gigi''s. I was fine with everything else.

 

[sammyj]

Date: 6/5/2009 1:11:55 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Yeah the only story line that bothered me was Gigi''s. I was fine with everything else.

Same here. I think the point of Gigi''s storyline though is to really hammer home the main points of the book...she''s the one getting all of the advice, right? Her desperation did leave a sour taste, but then the Jennifer Aniston / Ben Affleck proposal made the whole movie worth watching!!!

 

[FrekeChild]

Ditto SammyJ! I LOVED that storyline. It made me cry at a certain point...and lets just say her sister''s husbands are dooshes. Seriously.

 

[bee*]

I remember thinking the movie was ok, but I can''t for the life of me remember anything that happened in it-it obviously made an impression on me

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 6/5/2009 9:53:20 AM
Author:Porridge


At the end, the two single girls are made to look pathetic, mumbling something about traveling to India, trying to pick up the pieces and find themselves, while the guy who screwed them over is looking as cocky as ever, smirking over the fact that he misses nothing about marriage.

But its the truth.

The fact of the matter is that their history shows that she forced him into the marriage and he went along with it because he felt it was the right thing to do. He even mentions that while on the boat.

In real life and in this scenario, the guy would react the same way when going through the divorce. He doesn''t miss the marriage because he didn''t want the marriage to begin with.

As for the main girl, I think they show her as being really weak in the beginning just begging any guy to be with her. By the end, she realizes that she''s much stronger and is the exception to the rule. I think its a good message to every girl out there that they need to learn to hold themselves to a higher standard.

 

[NakedFinger]

Date: 6/5/2009 2:17:14 PM
Author: sammyj

Date: 6/5/2009 1:11:55 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Yeah the only story line that bothered me was Gigi's. I was fine with everything else.

Same here. I think the point of Gigi's storyline though is to really hammer home the main points of the book...she's the one getting all of the advice, right? Her desperation did leave a sour taste, but then the Jennifer Aniston / Ben Affleck proposal made the whole movie worth watching!!!

I know!!!

But am I the only one that didnt tak the movie so seriously? Of "how it reflected women" and such? I didnt take the movie as a drama/romance, i thought it was a comedy. There were many scenes/comments that had my friend and I DYING (both of us LIW lol), and many points in the movie the whole theater was laughing. I dont think there was a single person in the theater that didnt laugh or nod there head in agreement at something. Some things far fetched, but I think there is something relatable in that move for every woman (like, 'i sooo did that with so and so...". And that made it comical to watch.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 6/5/2009 2:48:46 PM
Author: NakedFinger

Date: 6/5/2009 2:17:14 PM

Author: sammyj

Date: 6/5/2009 1:11:55 PM

Author: FrekeChild

Yeah the only story line that bothered me was Gigi''s. I was fine with everything else.

Same here. I think the point of Gigi''s storyline though is to really hammer home the main points of the book...she''s the one getting all of the advice, right? Her desperation did leave a sour taste, but then the Jennifer Aniston / Ben Affleck proposal made the whole movie worth watching!!!

I know!!!

But am I the only one that didnt tak the movie so seriously? Of ''how it reflected women'' and such? I didnt take the movie as a drama/romance, i thought it was a comedy. There were many scenes/comments that had my friend and I DYING (both of us LIW lol), and many points in the movie the whole theater was laughing. I dont think there was a single person in the theater that didnt laugh or nod there head in agreement at something. Some things far fetched, but I think there is something relatable in that move for every woman (like, ''i sooo did that with so and so...''. And that made it comical to watch.

haha I thought it was hilarious too! Honestly, it made me feel better about my past stalkerish ways (in middle school..) I think most women are guilty of doing something slightly creepy over a guy. At the very least, wishing they could. I loved the part where the girl was talking about caller ID ruining her opportunity to call guys and hang up!

 

[ravengirl]

I found this movie a little depressing! Not so much because of the movie itself, but because of the girlfriends I saw it with. They kept saying things like "That's so true!" or "Oh, I've been there!"

I kept wondering "Eek, what kind of jerks have my poor friends dated?"

Luckily, I couldn't relate to much in the movie. (And I sure hope that after I'm married, I can't relate to that story line either!)

ETA: I just re-read my post and hope it didn't sound condescending towards people who CAN relate to the movie. I know it's true that there are some real jerks out there, and it really sucks when you learn how your friends have been treated in the past.

 

[Cind11]

I went to see this movie with a friend and thought it offered a pretty jaded view on dating. My 16 yr. old daughter wanted to see this but didn''t get around to it which I was glad about since I don''t think the movie showed many healthy relationships.

 

[janinegirly]

It is jaded, but from what I remember (read the book only), it is pretty accurate. That''s why it was so popular, an honest perspective--no sugar coating. It was also a hilarious read b/c geesh, how many times have I made some of those mistakes or seen countless friends do it over and over and over ("he probably got kidnapped and lost his phone, that''s why he didn''t call!"). Those sugary romantic comedies are fun, but do some damage b/c they are so unrealistic and ridiculous sometimes!

I guess I should rent this movie so I can offer a more legit opinion.

 

[lucyandroger]

Date: 6/5/2009 2:48:46 PM
Author: NakedFinger

Date: 6/5/2009 2:17:14 PM
Author: sammyj

Date: 6/5/2009 1:11:55 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Yeah the only story line that bothered me was Gigi''s. I was fine with everything else.

Same here. I think the point of Gigi''s storyline though is to really hammer home the main points of the book...she''s the one getting all of the advice, right? Her desperation did leave a sour taste, but then the Jennifer Aniston / Ben Affleck proposal made the whole movie worth watching!!!

I know!!!

But am I the only one that didnt tak the movie so seriously? Of ''how it reflected women'' and such? I didnt take the movie as a drama/romance, i thought it was a comedy. There were many scenes/comments that had my friend and I DYING (both of us LIW lol), and many points in the movie the whole theater was laughing. I dont think there was a single person in the theater that didnt laugh or nod there head in agreement at something. Some things far fetched, but I think there is something relatable in that move for every woman (like, ''i sooo did that with so and so...''. And that made it comical to watch.

You''re not the only one! I thought the movie was hysterical!!

 

[Porridge]

I really don''t know why this movie bugged me so much. Maybe my tolerance is too low today. I did think the Jennifer Aniston/Ben Affleck story was really cute, I admit to getting a little teary at that sweet proposal. And the real estate guy was so sweet.

But Gigi...I don''t know, as Ravengirl said, I don''t mean to sound condescending, but (luckily!) I couldn''t relate. I think if the guy (can''t remember his name) had made a bigger deal of trying to win her back or something...I don''t know.
The main thing that really bugged me though was how they showed Scarlett Johannson and Jennifer Connolly at the end. And that smug little git...ugh, I wanted to punch him. He wasn''t "forced" into marriage - he could have said no, I''m not ready yet! I was delighted they remained single at the end, but I would have much preferred to see them happy single, they were just shed in such a dismal light, ya know? They were on the verge of tears, trying to assemble their lives back together, and he was totally fine! Although Scarlett''s character did really deserve to be on the verge of tears...I would have liked to see Jennifer C''s character a bit later on doing just fine on her own.

I don''t know. It was a funny movie for the most part, and the advice is really good. I still want to read the book!

 

[Shoopy]

I''m sort of bad when it comes to movies because I prefer movies where the main characters break up and move on rather than fall in love and work things out (like in the movie The Break Up). It''s just much more realistic.

Jen''s characters portrayed I think a realistic aspect of breaking up. Jen''s character gave up a lot in the marriage and she was left feeling lost and needed to find herself again. People that experience that don''t go from that to being cheerful as if the events never took place. As for the guy, he was a dog throughout the entire movie. He didn''t treat his wife well, he lied, he cheated, then slept with his wife with the mistress in the closet (

). Any other reaction from him after the divorce besides being smug would not have been sincere IMO.

As for the proposal at the end, it is by far my most favorite movie proposal ever. I loved their entire storyline especially when she goes into the kitchen and sees him there washing dishes

. I cried during that scene.

Have you ladies seen Bride Wars? I really like the ending to that one as well.

 

[ravengirl]

Date: 6/5/2009 4:32:00 PM
Author: fiery
I''m sort of bad when it comes to movies because I prefer movies where the main characters break up and move on rather than fall in love and work things out (like in the movie The Break Up). It''s just much more realistic.


Jen''s characters portrayed I think a realistic aspect of breaking up. Jen''s character gave up a lot in the marriage and she was left feeling lost and needed to find herself again. People that experience that don''t go from that to being cheerful as if the events never took place. As for the guy, he was a dog throughout the entire movie. He didn''t treat his wife well, he lied, he cheated, then slept with his wife with the mistress in the closet (

). Any other reaction from him after the divorce besides being smug would not have been sincere IMO.


As for the proposal at the end, it is by far my most favorite movie proposal ever. I loved their entire storyline especially when she goes into the kitchen and sees him there washing dishes

. I cried during that scene.


Have you ladies seen Bride Wars? I really like the ending to that one as well.

No, I haven''t seen that one, but I wanted to! Thanks for the recommendation. Maybe I''ll rent it this weekend...

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 6/5/2009 4:46:05 PM
Author: ravengirl

Date: 6/5/2009 4:32:00 PM
Author: fiery
I''m sort of bad when it comes to movies because I prefer movies where the main characters break up and move on rather than fall in love and work things out (like in the movie The Break Up). It''s just much more realistic.


Jen''s characters portrayed I think a realistic aspect of breaking up. Jen''s character gave up a lot in the marriage and she was left feeling lost and needed to find herself again. People that experience that don''t go from that to being cheerful as if the events never took place. As for the guy, he was a dog throughout the entire movie. He didn''t treat his wife well, he lied, he cheated, then slept with his wife with the mistress in the closet (

). Any other reaction from him after the divorce besides being smug would not have been sincere IMO.


As for the proposal at the end, it is by far my most favorite movie proposal ever. I loved their entire storyline especially when she goes into the kitchen and sees him there washing dishes

. I cried during that scene.


Have you ladies seen Bride Wars? I really like the ending to that one as well.

No, I haven''t seen that one, but I wanted to! Thanks for the recommendation. Maybe I''ll rent it this weekend...

You should! Keep in mind that it isn''t a thought provoking movie. It''s more of a pint of ice cream, comfy clothes, curled up in bed kind of movie.

 

[makemepretty]

I liked it. Found bits pretty true-to-life and funny. I think all the characters ended up how they should. No complaints here. Hubby even sat through it without complaining, that''s a positive!

 

[Bia]

it stunk.

but that''s okay, because I rented it on-demand and I did just as Fiery said: curled up with some ice cream (& popcorn) and relaxed.

I did like the end with jen & ben...that was cute. I just thought the whole thing with the guy Alex being the advice-giver, and then not even taking his own advice--that was corny! And hubby having the affair, that was really tacky--I give it up to both girls for kicking him to the curb. Although I wouldn''t have neatly laid his clothes out like that. I would have gone the bonfire route, just like in Waiting to Exhale (remember she throws her cheating hubby''s clothes in his beamer/mercedes and then sets it on fire?! That''s more my style

)

PS--I didn''t read the book but I heard it was much, MUCH better.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 6/5/2009 4:56:04 PM
Author: makemepretty
I liked it. Found bits pretty true-to-life and funny. I think all the characters ended up how they should. No complaints here. Hubby even sat through it without complaining, that''s a positive!

Ditto. FI actually LIKED it. He hates all of the movies I like. Except Definitely, Maybe. He liked that one too.

 

[Mara]

"But am I the only one that didnt tak the movie so seriously? Of 'how it reflected women' and such?"

_____

Nope...if anyone has read the book...this movie to me encapsulated it perfectly. The bottom line for me watching the movie is that 'girls do stupid shit'...just like the book. Those letters in the book, holy crap, the things women will tell themselves! The movie was the same way, it was not meant to be 'happy' or 'feel good 'ending IMO, but rather kind of mirror the book. Should the Gigi character have ended up with the player advice guy? Prob not and in 5 years if you did a movie sequel they would not be together. I was not expecting a happy ending at all out of any portions of the movie. And some of those scenarios ARE realistic, aka guy getting married when he shouldn't, cheating, and the cheatee, etc.... which makes it as sad as reading the book!

 

[purrfectpear]

Clearly anyone who watched the movie and was disturbed about how women were portrayed, has never spent much time reading in LIW on PS. While these completely codependent women who identify their worth as defined by a man don''t represent the majority of women, they do exist. Why should a movie ignore that fact? Don''t like how it makes us look? Fine, do your part to try to open the eyes of those women who are like that.

I find it much, much, more disturbing in real life, than I do in movies

 

[whitby_2773]

hmmmm....

i watched it, and can''t remember a thing about it.

i guess that says it all, really.