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Ideal_Rock
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Brides! I have two questions for you.
Background:
This morning my doctors suggested I chill out for a while because I've been having a tonne of contractions (pregnant with twins), so I've had to cancel a trip to the wedding (where you all told me it was OK if I didn't buy a fancy pregnoid dress to wear). I was planning to visit my elderly cousin there as well, who has grown very attached to me in the three years I lived in the city I just moved away from. She is 87 and has absolutely NO ONE... no kids, no close family, and her cousins all live far, far away. So she became kind of dependent on me while I lived there. She was VERY upset that I was moving away.
So, now that I can't even go visit, she was so upset on the phone when I told her that she nearly hung up on me. I feel TERRIBLE! But of course I can't risk these babies being born at 19 weeks.
I'm feeling badly for the bride too, to cancel on her at the last minute.
So, here are my questions:
1) Since y'all are flower-savvy, I was thinking of sending the cousin a bouquet to cheer her up... dendrobium orchids or 18 multicoloured roses? Thoughts? Are roses too "romantic" to send to a cousin? Are multicoloureds tacky? Orchids classier? But maybe roses look fuller?
2) For the bride, I was - in addition to sending the gift - going to send a cheque to cover my meal that she probably has to pay for now. A mutual friend helped her plan the wedding, so I should be able to find out the per plate cost. WOuld this embarrass you or do you think it's a nice gesture?
Thanks in advance for your help.
How can I feel sooooo guilty, trying to do the right thing for my unborn kids??!
Background:
This morning my doctors suggested I chill out for a while because I've been having a tonne of contractions (pregnant with twins), so I've had to cancel a trip to the wedding (where you all told me it was OK if I didn't buy a fancy pregnoid dress to wear). I was planning to visit my elderly cousin there as well, who has grown very attached to me in the three years I lived in the city I just moved away from. She is 87 and has absolutely NO ONE... no kids, no close family, and her cousins all live far, far away. So she became kind of dependent on me while I lived there. She was VERY upset that I was moving away.
So, now that I can't even go visit, she was so upset on the phone when I told her that she nearly hung up on me. I feel TERRIBLE! But of course I can't risk these babies being born at 19 weeks.
I'm feeling badly for the bride too, to cancel on her at the last minute.
So, here are my questions:
1) Since y'all are flower-savvy, I was thinking of sending the cousin a bouquet to cheer her up... dendrobium orchids or 18 multicoloured roses? Thoughts? Are roses too "romantic" to send to a cousin? Are multicoloureds tacky? Orchids classier? But maybe roses look fuller?
2) For the bride, I was - in addition to sending the gift - going to send a cheque to cover my meal that she probably has to pay for now. A mutual friend helped her plan the wedding, so I should be able to find out the per plate cost. WOuld this embarrass you or do you think it's a nice gesture?
Thanks in advance for your help.
How can I feel sooooo guilty, trying to do the right thing for my unborn kids??!
