Wedding Help me word this email.

[iwannaprettyone]

The president of my company offered his Timeshare in Cabo for my honeymoon a few months ago at dinner. I need to email him and get some details.

What should I say? How should I approach it? Should I even go there (not Cabo, but vacationing at his timeshare)?

All it would cost is my flights.

 

[zoebartlett]

Let me start by saying that I have never been to Cabo, so I can''t address any specifics about the area, but I''ll do my best. If my boss were offering me his timeshare, I''d definitely take him up on it. Even if Cabo weren''t in my top 5 places I''d love to travel to (which I''m not sure if it is, not knowing anything about it), I''d definitely consider it. If it were right in the middle of spring break week or something like that and the area would be a party scene, then I''d have a problem with it. Other than that though, think of how much money you''d be able to save. To me, that''s huge.


Dear Boss,

Thank you so much for your generous offer of giving us your timeshare in Cabo for the week of _______. It''s a very thoughtul gift. Could you please tell us more about the condo [house, whatever]? How close is the property to the beach and/or other sights in the area? Where would you suggest we rent a car from? If you have any must see places and/or restaurants that you could recommend, we''ll look into them. We''d welcome any recommendations you [and your wife?] have.

Thank you very much,
IWPO


I''d start there and then ask more questions as time goes on. One may be "How far away are certain things like shopping, attractions, etc. [things you may want to do if you research a bit more]?" It sounds like a great honeymoon spot!

 

[Haven]

Zoe''s email is great, I''d use that.

I know you didn''t ask about Cabo, but have you ever been there? I have, I''d love to tell you my opinions about a honeymoon there if you''re interested.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Please tell me Haven! It is a 5 star villa.

 

[Haven]

I really don't want to rain on your parade, but I REALLY don't want you to be disappointed with your honeymoon destination, so I'm going to share my thoughts.

Okay, the thing about Cabo (IMO only, of course) is that you MUST stay in a fabulous place, because outside of the resorts it's really not that fabulous. If you're okay with staying on the actual property for the majority of your honeymoon, then go for it! But if you're looking to explore a place then Cabo's not the best for it. There wasn't much to do there other than drink and lay out in the sun.

Here's the thing: the people who live there are (for the most part) very poor. It's a big cruise destination, so you'll see a lot of locals begging for money or selling chicle, (and a lot of tourists) and it was really difficult for me to witness. I felt so incredibly privileged and wasteful when I was there because we were faced with real poverty. (And we are privileged and wasteful, so it was a good wake up call.)

I think this offer is really REALLY fabulous, and perhaps I was ill-informed when I went and didn't really take advantage of the place, but I found it to be a bit of a bore. And it was depressing. (The good thing was that it motivated me to once again participate in helping the homeless of Chicago once I got back.)

Just do some research and see if there are things to do. OR, if you're okay staying in a gorgeous location and chilling the entire vacation, DO IT! I'm more of a get-out-and-go type, so that's why it wasn't the right fit for me.

ETA: I hope that wasn't a horrible thing of me to do, to say negative things about Cabo, but I would have felt so guilty if you came home and said "Meh, it was okay but I was bored because there wasn't much else to do." I much prefer to be informed, I hope you do, too! Otherwise, I feel like a huge killjoy.

 

[LDubs]

I don''t post on this board, but I couldn''t pass up this thread. I agree with Haven on the majority of her post, but don''t let it scare you. I''ve been to Cabo 3 times, and have never left feeling depressed...it''s absolutely gorgeous, and the majority of the resorts are to die for. The downtown has really changed in the last few years as its become a popular destination. It''s perfect for water activities, drinking, and sunning yourself. But if you''re looking for hiking, or day trips, then it may not be your thing. I can spend a week with a margarita and a bathing suit and be perfectly happy though

I''d ask your boss for the name of the property, and do your research from there. Every place that would be honeymoon appropriate will have its own website, and that way you avoid having to ask him/her specifics about beaches/pools/etc. Good Luck!!

 

[Haven]

(thread-jack

LDubs--is that your puppy?! Adorable! What is his/her name?

 

[LDubs]

haha, yep! Too bad he's like 65 lbs. now; that pic was from last August His name's Tucker, and he's a golden retriever. Here's a more recent one:

ETA: He does have back legs...he was just standing/laying on the bench seat. LOL - I didn't realize how deceiving that picture can look!!

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Kathryn - I love Cabo, but I think we need to know near exact location before I can give you any advice.

W stayed at the Palmilla One & Only, and it was fabulous - a once in a lifetime resort! We then went back together and stayed in San Jose del Cabo, and had a blast. We stayed around the resort, played tennis, and rode horses, etc., but rented a car from a local place for $40 for a week and drove to Cabo San Lucas a few times. I loved the area, but would prefer to stay in the Corridor or in San Jose again (I don''t really like views of cruise ships and Spring Breakers).

 

[kittybean]

IWPO, this sounds AWESOME. I would graciously accept. My fiance and I have stayed at the Marquis Los Cabos (between San Jose del Cabo & Cabo San Lucas), and it was fantastic. It''s a couple resorts down from the One & Only, which I have only heard wonderful things about. The resorts in that area are so pretty, and it was a great place for us to have "couple time," and it was pretty quiet. Is the villa in that Corridor area? There are some beautiful houses there. Cabo San Lucas is a must-see. It''s a trip, but as Haven said, there is also a lot of abject poverty around, which can be a little unsettling. I think this is a once-in-a-lifetime offer, and I would definitely accept. Put the money you''ll save toward something else fun!

 

[havernell]

I've never been to Cabo, so I'm no help there. But I think I read your original post a bit differently that everyone else. Were you kind of asking if you even SHOULD broach the subject of the time share with your boss?

I'm just wondering exactly how the offer of the time share was made? Was it a flippant, off-hand comment he made while drinking (i.e. "You should TOTALLY use my timeshare in Cabo for your honeymoon!" takes another sip of wine) or was it a more reasoned discussion while sober in which you felt he was truly sincere in the offer? Exactly how the offer was made would affect the way I'd word the email to him.

It seems a bit awkward that he hasn't said anything to you again for months after the initial offer, so I can see why you are trying to be careful with what you say in the email. Are you close with your boss (and would you normally expect such an extravagant wedding gift from him)? Has he offered his time share to other employees for their honeymoons? Just trying to get a better idea of the situation at hand...

Honestly, if he made the offer kind of off-handedly (or while drinking) I wouldn't email him about it, because if he didn't really mean it or doesn't remember the offer, that could be really awkward. Rather, next time I was around him I'd make some joke about Cabo and/or his timeshare and then say "We are thinking about Cabo for our honeymoon. What do you think?" and see what he says in response- if he reiterates his offer. If however, you think the offer really was sincere months ago and your boss has simply been too busy to bring it up again, than something like Zoe's email sounds good to me.

This may be a moot point if you've already sent the email to him. But just wanted to throw in my two cents. Good luck with it!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 7/30/2008 5:25:59 AM
Author: havernell
I''ve never been to Cabo, so I''m no help there. But I think I read your original post a bit differently that everyone else. Were you kind of asking if you even SHOULD broach the subject of the time share with your boss?

I''m just wondering exactly how the offer of the time share was made? Was it a flippant, off-hand comment he made while drinking (i.e. ''You should TOTALLY use my timeshare in Cabo for your honeymoon!'' takes another sip of wine) or was it a more reasoned discussion while sober in which you felt he was truly sincere in the offer? Exactly how the offer was made would affect the way I''d word the email to him.

It seems a bit awkward that he hasn''t said anything to you again for months after the initial offer, so I can see why you are trying to be careful with what you say in the email. Are you close with your boss (and would you normally expect such an extravagant wedding gift from him)? Has he offered his time share to other employees for their honeymoons? Just trying to get a better idea of the situation at hand...

Honestly, if he made the offer kind of off-handedly (or while drinking) I wouldn''t email him about it, because if he didn''t really mean it or doesn''t remember the offer, that could be really awkward. Rather, next time I was around him I''d make some joke about Cabo and/or his timeshare and then say ''We are thinking about Cabo for our honeymoon. What do you think?'' and see what he says in response- if he reiterates his offer. If however, you think the offer really was sincere months ago and your boss has simply been too busy to bring it up again, than something like Zoe''s email sounds good to me.

This may be a moot point if you''ve already sent the email to him. But just wanted to throw in my two cents. Good luck with it!

Havernell, this was the issue I was getting at I spoke to him yesterday to see if he was serious about the offer or if it was just in passing....he is checking availibility for my dates

 

[havernell]

Oh good! I''m glad he really meant the offer when he extended it (awkwardness averted!) Wow, big score for you guy on the free honeymoon accomodations!! Can I come work where you work? hehe

 

[iwannaprettyone]

hopefully they'll be some availibility on our dates. The total out of pocket expense will be $600 for flights.


ETA: what do you do? We are hiring right now for several positions.....Texas though.

 

[havernell]

Date: 7/30/2008 9:31:15 AM
Author: iwannaprettyone
hopefully they''ll be some availibility on our dates. The total out of pocket expense will be $600 for flights.

ETA: what do you do? We are hiring right now for several positions.....Texas though.

Haha! I''m a political science PhD student studying African politics. That pretty much means that I''m not qualified to do anything besides teach. So, I don''t think your company would want to hire me. But thanks for the offer!