I know I won''t make too many people happy with this thread.
As some of you know, I am the MOH to my friend''s wedding. Over the past several months, I''ve grown to dislike her new personality. She''s very self-centered, has no consideration for the feelings of others, she''s rude, and has been very demanding throughout this entire planning process. I don''t know if I want to say that she was never like this before because she was, just not to this extreme. And I wish I could say that its just the wedding planning, but it isn''t. It''s just the way she''s become since meeting her FI.
I should have dropped out of the wedding but I didn''t because I didn''t dare to. I made a promise and took on the role and I''m going to see it through. In the beginning I was excited about it because she made it seem like a very laid back, fun wedding. It hasn''t been like that at all. After we''ll probably still be friends but the dynamics of the relationship will have to change drastically (i.e. I refuse to continue to be her punching bag).
All of that said, I''m having a really tough time writing this toast. I''ll write down generic expressions and it feels too much like I''m trying to be generic, you know? And when I start writing sweeter things specifically about her, I feel resentful and "fake" because she isn''t like that anymore and I don''t feel that way about her anymore.
So what to do? A generic "you guys are soulmates best of luck" toast or a forced/fake personal toast? (And obviously the well wishes for a lifetime of happiness for them is not a fake/forced feeling because I do wish the best for everyone).
As some of you know, I am the MOH to my friend''s wedding. Over the past several months, I''ve grown to dislike her new personality. She''s very self-centered, has no consideration for the feelings of others, she''s rude, and has been very demanding throughout this entire planning process. I don''t know if I want to say that she was never like this before because she was, just not to this extreme. And I wish I could say that its just the wedding planning, but it isn''t. It''s just the way she''s become since meeting her FI.
I should have dropped out of the wedding but I didn''t because I didn''t dare to. I made a promise and took on the role and I''m going to see it through. In the beginning I was excited about it because she made it seem like a very laid back, fun wedding. It hasn''t been like that at all. After we''ll probably still be friends but the dynamics of the relationship will have to change drastically (i.e. I refuse to continue to be her punching bag).
All of that said, I''m having a really tough time writing this toast. I''ll write down generic expressions and it feels too much like I''m trying to be generic, you know? And when I start writing sweeter things specifically about her, I feel resentful and "fake" because she isn''t like that anymore and I don''t feel that way about her anymore.
So what to do? A generic "you guys are soulmates best of luck" toast or a forced/fake personal toast? (And obviously the well wishes for a lifetime of happiness for them is not a fake/forced feeling because I do wish the best for everyone).