Have you ever thought of doing something bad?

[allycat0303]

I''ve thought of all of the above, the bad, AND the horrible. I believe I have the capacity for both, but I also have a lot of restraint. I think it''s healthy and normal, gets my frustration out and allows me to relieve stress associated with toxic situations.

 

[vintagelover229]

Date: 6/5/2009 2:31:49 AM
Author: AdiS
Does imagining how I strangle, beat up and kick the hell out of my colleague who just wouldn''t stop rambling and jabbering count as bad?

LOL IMO NO! I work as a hostess in a resturant, and after a couples chooses where they want to sit THREE SEPERATE TIMES AND MOVES EACH TIME....it makes me want to do the same thing! I mean...you picked the first table...and the second table...WHAT IS WRONG WITH WHERE YOU PICKED THE FIRST FEW TIMES!?!?!?!?

And...I

Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom

 

[innerkitten]

I haven''t read the rest of the posts. Maybe try and figure out why it is you want to do this "bad" thing.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 6/5/2009 9:02:08 AM
Author: redrose229

I work as a hostess in a resturant, and after a couples chooses where they want to sit THREE SEPERATE TIMES AND MOVES EACH TIME....it makes me want to do the same thing! I mean...you picked the first table...and the second table...WHAT IS WRONG WITH WHERE YOU PICKED THE FIRST FEW TIMES!?!?!?!?

Well, I'll tell you. Your restaurant was freezing cold and my husband and I felt like walking out the instant we walked in, but we had already driven a long way to get there. We thought that the first table looked like a good spot, but as soon as we sat down we raelized that everytime someone came in the front door an icy blast from outside hit us. So we thought we would try to move away from the door. We tried a table at the back, away from the door. As soon as we sat down we realized that we had made a big mistake as we had picked a spot under some weird kind of vent that sent chilly gusts of air down from the ceiling!!! We had no idea why a restaurant would keep the temperature so low (except to save money...but at the expense of losing customers), but we thought we'd give it one more try and and look for a seat where there wasn't an arctic blast!

AGBF

 

[Lynn B]

Date: 6/4/2009 10:29:43 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 6/4/2009 4:27:07 PM
Author: somethingshiny


Horrible vs. bad:


Horrible;

cheating on spouse, SO
murder (that can be proven

)
knowing you can't live with a decision you've made

Bad;

punching someone in the face (bad but perfectly acceptable)
putting a spider in someone's bed
calling someone a b!tch while waiting on her at a store
fantasizing of cheating on SO

Boy, do I disagree with this! I don't see having fantasies as a bad thing. I think that actions can be evil, but that thoughts-unless acted upon-are neither bad nor good. They are grist for the mill. They are something that can be analyzed. I just told my daughter today about the famous quotation that an unexamined life is not worth living. I think, therefore I am!!!

AGBF

Yes, I agree with Deb that having fantasies, per se, even "desires", is not a "bad thing" (and in fact, rather, quite a HUMAN thing)... buuuuut, the danger lies (IMHO) in acting on them, if the opportunity arises.

I think it is MUCH easier to act on something once we have "gone there" in our fantasies, possibly dwelling on those desires many times. And human nature being what it is, I think we can subconsciously (or even not so subconsciously) then almost "arrange" or manipulate the situation to allow the opportunity to present itself.

ETA: Just re-read this, and in case it wasn't clear, I was referring mostly to romantic/sexual desires and fantasies, rather than hateful/murderous ones

-- although it probably still applies in those instances, too... I bet there are a lot of people in prison for murder who fantasized a lot about their dirty deed first!

 

[Lynn B]

Date: 6/5/2009 11:31:50 AM
Author: AGBF

Date: 6/5/2009 9:02:08 AM
Author: redrose229

I work as a hostess in a resturant, and after a couples chooses where they want to sit THREE SEPERATE TIMES AND MOVES EACH TIME....it makes me want to do the same thing! I mean...you picked the first table...and the second table...WHAT IS WRONG WITH WHERE YOU PICKED THE FIRST FEW TIMES!?!?!?!?

Well, I'll tell you. Your restaurant was freezing cold and my husband and I felt like walking out the instant we walked in, but we had already driven a long way to get there. We thought that the first table looked like a good spot, but as soon as we sat down we raelized that everytime someone came in the front door an icy blast from outside hit us. So we thought we would try to move away from the door. We tried a table at the back, away from the door. As soon as we sat down we realized that we had made a big mistake as we had picked a spot under some weird kind of vent that sent chilly gusts of air down from the ceiling!!! We had no idea why a restaurant would keep the temperature so low (except to save money...but at the expense of losing customers), but we thought we'd give it one more try and and look for a seat where there wasn't an arctic blast!

AGBF

Although I can certainly understand and appreciate RedRose's frustration -- I loved this!

Deb, you are such a social worker, my dear!

 

[packrat]

I admit to being a Johnny Depp fantasizer. That''s about it for bad, I guess. I do have horrible thoughts at times, and these generally occur after hearing/reading about a terrible crime against kids..I at times would like to be some type of secret avenger that rids the world of worthless people like that..would never happen tho..I don''t even know where I''d get a secret avenger mask or suit or anything.

When I was pregnant w/my son a few years ago, I read the book Fear by L. Ron Hubbard..and got no sleep that night, had panic attacks and called my mom bawling the next morning, convinced something like that was going to happen to me.

 

[brightlight]

Ummmmmm ... yes. I don''t think there would be any consequences, b/c I don''t think anyone would know I would be doing it ... but I would know. However, I''m extremely tempted.

 

[Indylady]

Fantasizing is fun and legal and human if you know its just that...and if its more or less something you wouldn''t feel guilty sharing (haha like Johnny Dep!). If it does make you feel guilty; cowoker, someone who does flirt with you in real life, etc...then its still human...but..I would be careful just to keep myself in check! Too much fantasizing/with events that are actually possible...bad idea. Just my opinion.

 

[steph72276]

Hmmm, well my take on it is that it''s okay to fantasize about George Clooney or someone else "unattainable", but if you''re having fantasies about Scotty Hottie that sits in the cubical next door to you, it might lead to something not so good. I think people can almost send out signals to others that they are interested and if the person on the other end is too, it could lead to more than just fantasizing. In my opinion, I think that makes it too much like playing with fire for me.

 

[somethingshiny]

Date: 6/6/2009 6:47:05 AM
Author: steph72276
Hmmm, well my take on it is that it''s okay to fantasize about George Clooney or someone else ''unattainable'', but if you''re having fantasies about Scotty Hottie that sits in the cubical next door to you, it might lead to something not so good. I think people can almost send out signals to others that they are interested and if the person on the other end is too, it could lead to more than just fantasizing. In my opinion, I think that makes it too much like playing with fire for me.

This is exactly what i meant when I wrote about fantasizing. If you want to dress your DH up like Johnny Depp the Pirate, be my guest--it really is fun, but the OP didn''t seem to be talking about Johnny Depp. And, I stand by my initial "bad" statement regarding people you know.

Also, I agree with Lynn. Once you fantasize about something attainable, it becomes much easier to go through with it.

I''m not one to go for revenge. I am a firm believer in karma!

 

[Elegant]

Yeah, what I find is even more odd - ironic - is that I don''t have graphic bad thoughts - like seeing myself doing these things - but I have them about my friend and he is gay...I think he is gay. He hasn''t confirmed that he is but I and others have assumed. I met him about 4 years ago at my university.

So I have been with my bf for 16 years (this month on the 18th) and haven''t cheated on him. I think I am thinking about my gay friend because I like him but maybe I know he is unattainable. We only email and occasionally talk on the on phone, but I am going to see him in two weeks for his graduation. My bf is staying up here and I am going down south and staying with my family for a couple of days. I would never go through with it. I don''t think I am very attractive anyways...self esteem issues...

I have had worse thoughts about seeking revenge on my principal, but I will let that take its own course. I really don''t feel any need whatsoever to go to prison. That scares me... But I love that I can have thoughts and nobody will ever know abou them, unless I share them.

 

[MonkeyPie]

I think everyone does this at least once or twice in their lives - in my case, more!

- and thoughts hurt no one. Unless you do it in excess and they become obsessions.

 

[doodle]

I used to want to be an assassin. Seriously, what child wants to be an assassin?! I''ve also always wanted to see if I could pull off a bank heist, but then I think about the exaggerated scenes in movies where some leather-clad chick in stiletto boots maneuvers like a cat amongst security lasers, and I always come to the conclusion that my @$$ is entirely too big for all that leather! So yeah, I''ve thought of doing something bad, but fashion prevented me.

 

[Steel]

Date: 6/4/2009 10:52:00 PM
Author: canuk-gal

Date: 6/4/2009 10:29:43 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 6/4/2009 4:27:07 PM
Author: somethingshiny


Horrible vs. bad:


Horrible;

cheating on spouse, SO
murder (that can be proven

)
knowing you can''t live with a decision you''ve made

Bad;

punching someone in the face (bad but perfectly acceptable)
putting a spider in someone''s bed
calling someone a b!tch while waiting on her at a store
fantasizing of cheating on SO

Boy, do I disagree with this! I don''t see having fantasies as a bad thing. I think that actions can be evil, but that thoughts-unless acted upon-are neither bad nor good. They are grist for the mill. They are something that can be analyzed. I just told my daughter today about the famous quotation that an unexamined life is not worth living. I think, therefore I am!!!
AGBF

HI:

Agreed! I mean, are not fantasies for what ''healthy'' people do instead of acting out the real thing? Honeslty who has not thought of Johnny Depp or George Clooney

outside of Oceans Eleven or Pirates??????

Nuf said (except to define ''bad'' or ''evil'' which are vastly different IMHO...but I did say enuf!!).

cheers--Sharon

Me.

Since I started to date DH I have never imagined any other man but him. And even if I were, Johnny Depp or George Clooney would never make the fantasy list, Sean Connery might but he is a bit old now. So I will stick with DH IRL and in fantasy! He is dreamy

.