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Nah, I've never seen anything on PS that qualified, in my mind, as SH.
Funny someone should mention it (the pendant in cleavage thing)--when I was 20, I worked in the fine jewelry department of a well known department store. There was a loss-prevention guy who was at least 20 years my senior who did his fair share of lurking around that department (which fit into his job, of course). One evening, when it was slow and I was working by myself in the department, I was taking out a particular pendant from one of the cases, admiring it, and held it up to my neck (without clasping the chain). I had on a dress with a v-neck which was NOT low-cut at all, and the LP guy happened to be just out of my sight nearby. He sort of appeared in front of me out of nowhere (as they will do) and asked me, verbatim: "so are you planning to wear that in your cleavage?" with this sort of icky, creepy smile and eyebrow wiggle--see this emotie:
. I was MORTIFIED, embarrassed, and completely uncomfortable. To me, if was not only him crossing a professional line, it was a comment made with the intention of making me uncomfortable and I definitely felt harrassed. I think I mumbled a quick "no," and put the piece back in the case and he walked away.
He was later fired because he was reported for SH by another female member of the staff when he was caught looking up her skirt while she was up on a ladder changing signs on a shelf. I felt kind of validated then, honestly.
I think it's quite easy to tell when someone is harrassing you vs. being silly or playful without meaning to offend. That's must me, though. I know other people who take the slightest thing that could be construed as SH and will turn it into a major ordeal...not my style, but I suppose they have their reasons and I have to respect that.
Funny someone should mention it (the pendant in cleavage thing)--when I was 20, I worked in the fine jewelry department of a well known department store. There was a loss-prevention guy who was at least 20 years my senior who did his fair share of lurking around that department (which fit into his job, of course). One evening, when it was slow and I was working by myself in the department, I was taking out a particular pendant from one of the cases, admiring it, and held it up to my neck (without clasping the chain). I had on a dress with a v-neck which was NOT low-cut at all, and the LP guy happened to be just out of my sight nearby. He sort of appeared in front of me out of nowhere (as they will do) and asked me, verbatim: "so are you planning to wear that in your cleavage?" with this sort of icky, creepy smile and eyebrow wiggle--see this emotie:
. I was MORTIFIED, embarrassed, and completely uncomfortable. To me, if was not only him crossing a professional line, it was a comment made with the intention of making me uncomfortable and I definitely felt harrassed. I think I mumbled a quick "no," and put the piece back in the case and he walked away.He was later fired because he was reported for SH by another female member of the staff when he was caught looking up her skirt while she was up on a ladder changing signs on a shelf. I felt kind of validated then, honestly.
I think it's quite easy to tell when someone is harrassing you vs. being silly or playful without meaning to offend. That's must me, though. I know other people who take the slightest thing that could be construed as SH and will turn it into a major ordeal...not my style, but I suppose they have their reasons and I have to respect that.
/I just had to put that in. Threadjack over.
Ooops,i meant each!! 
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