Have any of your husbands been hit-on?

[diamondfan]

Look, I know women who could care less about a ring, and might prefer it. There is less complication with a single guy to some women, but to others, married means fling and no strings. If a guy is good looking, those types of women are not going to let a ring stop them.

If I were single and saw a cute dad at the playground, I might be intriqued, but honestly, a ring WOULD deter me. No ring, and he looked nice? I might find a round about way to see if he was married. (My hubby is not a ring wearer so I still would think to ask even without one on). I might be subtle (Oh, your daughter is so adorable! Your wife dresses her so cutely!). Since some married men cheat and some women do not care if they have wives and families at home...it can happen. It is a gross combo to me.

My hubby does not get hit on much if at all, he would probably tell me if he did because he would think it funny and want me to know he is a catch still!

I get hit on sometimes, but just act dumb and smile and keep going. No biggie, unless someone is really being offensive.

 

[ericad]

Date: 6/8/2008 8:12:07 PM
Author: TravelingGal
TGuy is an Aussie living in the U.S. Enough said.

LOL, my DH is from France, so I totally get ya

(it''s what caught my attention all those years ago, after all)

 

[softly softly]

Date: 6/9/2008 12:20:32 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/9/2008 12:08:29 AM

Author: softly softly

Date: 6/8/2008 8:12:07 PM

Author: TravelingGal

TGuy is an Aussie living in the U.S. Enough said.

Okay this has me curious - do you mean this puts women off, or makes him more attractive?

Many American women find foreign accents attractive, so yes, it makes him more attractive.

Oh Okay. I was curious because as I''m an Aussie myself and have heard from other Australians who have spent time in the US that it can sometimes be hard to make oneself understood - a combination of accent and linguistic idiosyncrasies.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 6/8/2008 12:09:14 AM
Author: miraclesrule

Date: 6/7/2008 3:47:03 PM
Author: lyra
My husband gets hit on by both sexes. I''m not sure what to think about that.

With women, I think they see security. With the guys, I just don''t know, maybe the same. He is 48. The thing that bothers him much more is when he is out with our oldest daughter (20), and he gets the raised eyebrows and disgusted looks from waiters. WTH? Why do they assume she is not his daughter.

I don''t have a husband, but I had to laugh out loud on this one. I am 48 and my daughter will be 29 in a few months. Sometimes, she still has this wierd thing when she is excited and we are running across a street to beat the light and or strolling....she will hold my hand.

You would not believe the looks we get. Like I am robbing the lesbian cradle or something. Three years ago she went with me to my company holiday party and we were out on the dance floor dancing...just like a lot of woman do. In fact, I had just got off the dance floor with some girls in my department. Anyway, I guess someone asked a co-worker if she was my partner! WTH?!?!?!?

Too funny. Your story reminds me of ''The Thomas Crown Affair''.

LMAO!!!This reminds me of my dad and I. He''s 71 and I''m 26 now, and when I worked in his office at 20 and then at 22 he''d take me out to lunch sometimes and we had people staring at us like we both had two heads. He''d be wearing a suit and I''d be wearing my uber high heels and nice clothes. I would make a really loud comment sometimes like, "MOM WOULDN''T LIKE YOU EATING THAT." And then they''d look sheepish for a minute. He never paid any attention though. Typical guy IMHO.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 6/9/2008 2:10:15 AM
Author: softly softly

Date: 6/9/2008 12:20:32 AM

Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/9/2008 12:08:29 AM


Author: softly softly

Date: 6/8/2008 8:12:07 PM


Author: TravelingGal


TGuy is an Aussie living in the U.S. Enough said.

Okay this has me curious - do you mean this puts women off, or makes him more attractive?

Many American women find foreign accents attractive, so yes, it makes him more attractive.

Oh Okay. I was curious because as I''m an Aussie myself and have heard from other Australians who have spent time in the US that it can sometimes be hard to make oneself understood - a combination of accent and linguistic idiosyncrasies.

I have heard about the Aussie men in the US thing before but it was from a guy who is a little up himself so I took it with a grain of salt. Apparently it does not happen if your an Aussie girl though just a bloke.

 

[Delster]

The accent thing works for Irish women in the States. Doesn''t work in reverse I''m afraid!

My BF gets hit on quite regularly but he''s completely oblivious to it! He was oblivious to me too for a whole YEAR. But I persevered

 

[DivaDiamond007]

OMG - this thread is too funny! A few weeks ago DH and I were out to eat with my parents and the waitress was totally flirting with my husband and he was sooo oblivious to the whole thing. My dad (also pretty oblivious) even said something about it! She kept coming to the table and asking only him how his meal was, touching his arm and shoulder, etc. It was so funny! He always wears his ring, but she must not have noticed - and obviously did not notice my wedding rings either. My husband is more of a kid magnet though. Anytime we go anywhere the kids find him and want to play or be picked up. Sorta strange.

The dad stories are funny too. I''m 26 and my dad will be 50 this year and he always acts like I''m his girlfriend if we go out somewhere. He''ll put his arm around me or something. It''s sort of funny to see the strange looks that people will give us. Obviously it''s in jest and I go along with it because I know my dad gets a kick out of it. One time we were at a local donut shop when I was about 16 and the cashier actually asked if we were married

We laughed so hard about that - and still do to this day.

Jess

 

[pennquaker09]

Date: 6/9/2008 1:01:11 AM
Author: lisa1.01fvs1
These stories and insights have been funny, sarcastic, sad and intriguing!


SO many to comment on.


I think it''s a sign of the times when an obvious visual social signal like a ring (on man or woman) is ignored or purposefully ''not seen.''


Perhaps we are to liberal with how we approach people in the US or that it is damned hard to find a good partner!


Or better yet, we on PS have superiour genetics and intellect and have paried with the finest life has to offer.


So sad for the rest of the world.

I guess for everyone who''s attempted and been turned down there is a percentage that do take the bait and stray.


Penn I think I want ur ''Sugar Daddy!'' eventhough I know he''s a total homo.

He''s not old enough to be called a sugar daddy, lol.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 6/9/2008 2:16:15 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 6/8/2008 12:09:14 AM
Author: miraclesrule

Date: 6/7/2008 3:47:03 PM
Author: lyra
My husband gets hit on by both sexes. I''m not sure what to think about that.

With women, I think they see security. With the guys, I just don''t know, maybe the same. He is 48. The thing that bothers him much more is when he is out with our oldest daughter (20), and he gets the raised eyebrows and disgusted looks from waiters. WTH? Why do they assume she is not his daughter.

I don''t have a husband, but I had to laugh out loud on this one. I am 48 and my daughter will be 29 in a few months. Sometimes, she still has this wierd thing when she is excited and we are running across a street to beat the light and or strolling....she will hold my hand.

You would not believe the looks we get. Like I am robbing the lesbian cradle or something. Three years ago she went with me to my company holiday party and we were out on the dance floor dancing...just like a lot of woman do. In fact, I had just got off the dance floor with some girls in my department. Anyway, I guess someone asked a co-worker if she was my partner! WTH?!?!?!?

Too funny. Your story reminds me of ''The Thomas Crown Affair''.

LMAO!!!This reminds me of my dad and I. He''s 71 and I''m 26 now, and when I worked in his office at 20 and then at 22 he''d take me out to lunch sometimes and we had people staring at us like we both had two heads. He''d be wearing a suit and I''d be wearing my uber high heels and nice clothes. I would make a really loud comment sometimes like, ''MOM WOULDN''T LIKE YOU EATING THAT.'' And then they''d look sheepish for a minute. He never paid any attention though. Typical guy IMHO.

Lord, this is the same for my dad and I!! We work at the same company and when he takes me out for lunch I always feel weird because I know other people are feeling weird about it!

He gets hit on all the time though...the ladies I used to work with always told me how attractive he was. Yeah, not so fun to watch your happily married dad get hit on.

 

[nytemist]

DH is and has been hit on from time to time. He''s completely oblivious to it. I usually have to point it out to him, then he''s like "What? Really? When?"

He''s real slim build, he''s got thick, curly hair past his shoulders now, a great jawline and beautiful blue eyes. We''ve gone out to eat and the waitress will do the classic giggle, touch him on the arm, things like that- while I''m sitting there! I guess they figure that I''m a just a friend of his or something. He''s had female and male bartenders give him a free round with a thinly veiled invite for a date. One bartender in San Francisco that we had was going off shift and passed by us, saying good night and left a napkin with her number. I was like wow... subtle as a brick to the head. We weren''t married then, so I guess she though he was fair game. At the our regular Friday night place, he had a woman tell him that she though he was cute and proceeded to talk to him. I was sitting on the other side of him and he tried so hard to get out of conversation. She was full-court press; leaning on his chair, offering to buy him a drink, the whole nine. I just had to sit and laugh to myself. I got up to go to restroom. Upon my return, I heard her comment about his hair and was raising a hand to touch it. I came up behind him and kissed him on the top of the head and she almost fell off her stoll in shock/embarassment/whatever. She says "oh, I didn''t realize you were serious when you said you weren''t available." I offered my hand to shake and said "Hi, I''m Carla, DH''s wife." She just got up and left. It was kind of funny.

I''ve noticed though, that rings mean absolutely nothing to some people- men and women. It seems to make their intended target more attractive and more of a challenge.

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

You guys have the best stories. So interesting to see how both men and women go about trying to "pick up" on people who are so clearly taken.

I''ve got another one for you. Role reversal this time.

We were at Lowe''s getting tile and I went to pay for the order.

The young cash register guy plugs in my phone number and turns to me and says, "So if I call this number you''ll answer?" and giggles.

His partner register guys starts laughng under his breath and looks at me.

I say, "Don''t you see this diamond? You guys are shameless" and show him my ring.

He says, "A ring don''t (nice grammer) mean nothin. It could be a fake."

I say, "What about an angry husband?"

We all laugh - it was all said in a joking tone. I was kinda surprised. I asked him how old he was - 25!!!!

Then up walks DH w/ baby in tow. The 25 yr old turned bright red. He tried to say how cute she is and looked like he was going to vomit.

Ha Ha - I told DH after we left and we both laughed about it.

 

[FrekeChild]

LMAO Lisa! That is too funny.

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Freke, I guess he thought I might be a Cougar!

Roar..............

 

[FrekeChild]

Oh gosh, I can''t stop laughing and BF is looking at me funny!!!

I can''t imagine how he felt when he saw your hubby and baby coming...

 

[aliciagirl]

He''s not a DH yet, but SO always gets randomly checked out in passing. ALL THE TIME. And I''ll point it out to him after the fact, but at this point the girl will be gone and he won''t believe me.

The other day we were at a festival at a winery and a girl did the stopping dead in the tracks and check someone out thing and it was the first time he had noticed a girl do it. I was like, "That girl totally just checked you out. Don''t even try to tell me you didn''t see it."

And he said, "Awwww. Is that what they all look like when you tell me a girl''s looking? She wasn''t very cute at all.

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