Wedding hand delivering an invitation

[Gwyn]

What is the ettiquette on hand delivering an invitation?

My FI wants to invite these three guys he works with (and their significant others) to our wedding.

We would address the invitations to them and their guest and include an pre-posted RSVP card in the invite but we were thinking of just hand delivering the invites to them. Is this wrong?

I personally wouldnt be insulted, I might even think it was more personal to have one hand delivered, but you never know these days how people feel about ettiquette and such.


Another reason we want to do it this way is that we are limited on space and these guys are kind of part of our second round of invitations. We do not want to have to ask for their addresses when we may not be sending them an invitation. And if we wait til we know for sure to ask for addresses, it might not give them much time to RSVP.

That aside, anyone know the general rule about hand deliveries?

 

[choro72]

I think it''s ok. Every one of my friends gave me their invitations this way. We see each other anyway, so why pay postage? The only time I think this is bad is when a couple hands over an invitation without the names on the envelope.

For you, I say Go for it!

 

[calidaisy]

i agree with choro.
i think as long the envelope is properly addressed (with respective names), it should be fine.

my fi and i are playing around with these sealing waxes and learned that they get flattened/ mutilated when they go through the postal system machines. thus, we were thinking of hand delivering as many invitations as possible so that the sealing wax will be preserved to the right look.

i think it should be ok.

 

[Haven]

In truth, I only prefer hand deliver of social invitations if there to the person''s actual home. I think that''s a lovely way to do it, but to give it to someone at work seems odd to me, like you''re mixing a social event with a professional one. But I''m a traditionalist, so never mind me.

My only real concern would be with the logistics of handing them to the friends at work--will there be other people present? If he can do it privately I don''t see a problem with it.

 

[Gwyn]

He sort of shares the same office area with the 3 guys, there is noone else around them so it wouldnt be too much of a privacy issue. They work for a separate company then the others in the office. Kind of a separate division. FI doesnt really know the other people in the office, just these three guys. they all came out together from the east coast office. ALl the same age and they hang out outside of work sometimes.

 

[winston26]

I hand delivered my invites to my co-workers, and they loved it. For those I sit next to every day, I did not even put a stamp on the rsvp because I knew there was no way they''d mail it, and they would tell me not to waste a stamp anyway. They were all the first to respond! Thank you notes though I will be mailing.

 

[zoebartlett]

Normally I''d suggest mailing them out but in this case, I think it''s okay to hand deliver them. I was curious as well about whether others at work would notice, because that coulld be awkward. If it''s not an issue though, I''d go for it.

 

[pjean]

I just got a hand delivered invitation from a good friend. She brought it to my desk in lab. Now, I know she had planned to mail it, but I''m in the middle of moving, and I had no idea which address to give her. It totally made my day to get it. I say go for it.

 

[musey]

Well, I''m one for simplifying things, so if I were the recipient I would think it was just A-ok! It''s always fun to get ''real'' mail (not just snail-spam), but postage really adds up.

 

[gtn]

I don''t think anybody should be offended.