Half Truths

[crystalheart1]

I just read a very interesting article about blogging and internet posting.. it included alter egos via internet identity.

In light of recent issues regarding certain posters to " show me the money ".. This is just my take on the matter

We can all go back and read posters past and present posts.. many times with certain individuals stories change with what they previously posted.. or with others there is always some sort of drama.

I always wondered why people have to tell us they are sooo busy in their personal and professional lives, but have time to post very lengthy detailed information.

I feel sad for these individuals .. It seems like a cry for attention or something lacking in their lives ( usually it stems from some
issues in their childhood - like not getting the proper attention )

It is my opion , what happens , is that some facts are grossly exaggerated.. and made to sound like much more than what it was.

We are always here to lend support - be happy and excited for our fellow ps''s.. but I think we can "sniff" out when
some stories just don''t jive..when too much detail information is given it makes me wonder.

 

[tlh]

do you have a link to the article, I find that fascinating!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

My take on the issue is that until you have proof--beyond a shadow of a doubt--its all speculation, or assumptions. I think this theory may work for some posters, on some boards, in some region of the internet, but I would have a hard time swallowing it on an "across the board" as the end all be all on the matter.

I post a lot...an average of 6 posts a day according to my profile...but I manage to squeeze my posts in during my day while working--a post here, another there. So someone claiming to be "busy" and yet posting doesn''t seem far fetched to me, you can make it happen.

As far as the devil is in the details. Eh. I think you can tell the difference between "dramatized" details and the real thing.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Yeah, I agree that it''s odd that people spend hours online posting constant drama when they should be active in their "busy lives." I know from experience that when posting a lengthy post, it takes a lot of time to not only post that (proofread, etc.) but to respond to all the posts. Some seem to have hours to dedicate toward that (which is fine for a topic here and there - but when it''s nearly EVERY day - come on!). Seems they should sort their issues out in RL rather than continually vent here on PS, where we only see a slice of the pie.

There is one thread, in particular, that bugs the crap out of me STILL. I wish I could post what it is. . .lol

 

[Maria D]

I''m always amazed at the "real lives" frequent posters purport to have. I basically lurk and feel like I waste far too much time being entertained by the drama here -- and not enough on my real life. I don''t know how people who read a lot AND post a lot have time for much else. Maybe that''s the secret though. Perhaps the ones that post the most drama provide the entertainment for the rest of us but don''t waste a lot of time reading up on others'' stuff?

 

[crystalheart1]

sageHeader dir=ltr align=left">I have been trying to link the story but the file is too large.

You can find it under "Lessons" on the TruthandFiction.com website.

 

[Ali]

I don''t know where this story/background came from or how it pertains to this site but I will post a reminder: Pricescope is an educational site and we want a positve, helpful atmosphere here.
Please mind your posts.

 

[crystalheart1]

Yes,,, I agree. With certain posters I am more entertained than "sucked in" by the tales they tell.

I wish I could post some of the crazy information that was passed on to us... One story was so unbelievable - it all
took place in a matter of hours.. where in REAL LIFE that information/situation would take days or weeks to get to that point.

Look what has happened now...WOW I have not had that much happen in the course of my 40 years , let alone in the past few weeks...lol

Alway some friend, relative, neighbor, ex ... co-worker.... pet..that has an extreme situation..

I am done..venting

 

[butterfly 17]

Date: 8/27/2009 1:07:40 PM
Author: MC
Yeah, I agree that it''s odd that people spend hours online posting constant drama when they should be active in their ''busy lives.'' I know from experience that when posting a lengthy post, it takes a lot of time to not only post that (proofread, etc.) but to respond to all the posts. Some seem to have hours to dedicate toward that (which is fine for a topic here and there - but when it''s nearly EVERY day - come on!). Seems they should sort their issues out in RL rather than continually vent here on PS, where we only see a slice of the pie.


There is one thread, in particular, that bugs the crap out of me STILL. I wish I could post what it is. . .lol

Do tell?!

Yes, it bugs me too that some posters seem to have so much drama in their lives and need to post a thread once, twice, four times a week. I don''t even bother to post on those threads bc I know those posters will have the same problem next week anyway. Or some other emergency or family problem that doesn''t seem like such a problem to me.

Don''t get me wrong, I have had my own drama here and there, but I seldom ever start a thread. Instead I just call and bug my friends IRL and let them hear me out. LOL. My poor friends!!!

Maybe those posters love the drama or maybe they have no one to talk to about what they "consider" a problem bc their friends already know how they are?

I have a friend who is a drama queen. Everything is always about her and I find that she would embellish things to suit her and make her look like the victim. I am good friends with her but sometimes when she calls I ignore her bc I havee so much drama in my life that I can''t handle hers as well, especially since most of her problems are really not big problems. She just make them bigger than they should be.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 8/27/2009 1:24:36 PM
Author: Maria D
I''m always amazed at the ''real lives'' frequent posters purport to have. I basically lurk and feel like I waste far too much time being entertained by the drama here -- and not enough on my real life. I don''t know how people who read a lot AND post a lot have time for much else. Maybe that''s the secret though. Perhaps the ones that post the most drama provide the entertainment for the rest of us but don''t waste a lot of time reading up on others'' stuff?

Yes, the people with drama focus on themselves. . .AKA being self-centered. Notice how often when a post is made, people in turn respond by talking about themselves???

The positive that can come from this thread is giving an oportunity for those who do post drama SO often, to think more about responding to OTHER peoples'' posts and keep the focus on the OP rather than responding with talking (again) about themselves.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 8/27/2009 1:38:56 PM
Author: butterfly 17


Don't get me wrong, I have had my own drama here and there, but I seldom ever start a thread. Instead I just call and bug my friends IRL and let them hear me out. LOL. My poor friends!!!

Maybe those posters love the drama or maybe they have no one to talk to about what they 'consider' a problem bc their friends already know how they are?

We all know how these posters are, too. Quickly it becomes obvious. Luckily here on PS, we have the power/option to ignore posts that we know won't lead to anything constructive. In RL it's much harder. When a friend calls us yet for another problem, we have no choice to say something. Or we can hang up on the person. I've done that before.

(and can I tell the quick example? I'm sure I'll get in trouble.)

News Flash: Drama Fest 2009! We should start a new forum for all of these.

 

[Maisie]

If someone has that much drama in their life, whether real or imagined, surely they need support too? I know it can be tiresome for people to see that same person popping up time and time again, but there must be a reason why that person needs to feel noticed and listened to. There can be a multitude of reasons why someones life is difficult for them. I guess if you are tired of seeing their posts you can just pass on by.

 

[Haven]

I find that my own life is much happier and less complicated when I take people at face value and don''t spend my time speculating over whether they''re being deceptive or not. Especially strangers on an Internet forum whom I will likely never meet in real life.

As for dramatic posts, I truly believe that people fall somewhere on a very large spectrum of sensitivity regarding life''s situations. My own best friend is one of the most dramatic people I know. She gets bent out of shape over things that would never even occur to me to be irksome, but that''s just her nature. It''s really not my place to speculate why she is that way, she just is, and I love her. If I don''t feel like listening to her rant over something that I find to be silly, I just tell her. On PS it''s even easier--don''t read the thread!

When people post that they''re busy, what does it matter if they really aren''t? I find that the busier I am, the more I seek diversions like PS or phone calls with friends. I *crave* the interaction that I''m missing by being so engrossed with my own tasks that I probably do post more when I''m busier. But if people want to say they''re busy when they really aren''t, it doesn''t really do me any harm.

Live and let live, I suppose is what I''m trying to say.

 

[crystalheart1]

Haven - I would like to be more along the lines of your attitude and out look. It would improve my general well being and I do see your point. Why should I care what people say, escpecially since I never met them..

Thank you for sharing your wisdom.. You are a nice person to say that.

I guess when I am having my own drama.. I try to not to dwell on it , and the last thing I want to do is write and hear comments about it.

I will try not to speculate so much in the future...time will tell

 

[Haven]

crystalheart--It sounds like you *do* have the right attitude by not dwelling on your own drama!

I didn''t mean my post to sound scornful or anything, that''s just how I try to approach things. I can''t say that I *never* get sucked into drama, because I do, but it feels so much better to stay far, far away.

 

[Thomperchik]

I felt like staying away from this post, I just don''t find it necessary. This is my rule of thumb: If you don''t like it, don''t read it, don''t reply to it. Very simple, stay away from it.

 

[iheartscience]

Ha, I''ve vented about vent threads myself! Now I just ignore them-it''s easier that way.

 

[Skippy123]

ditto Thing!! A good friend of mine has a saying "Crazy people don't know they are Crazy." Meaning that you can't change them no matter how hard you try and they won't admit it either nor do they think they are nutso. LOL LOL

so drama queeens don't know they are drama queens.

So do yourself a favor for you overall well being, ignore the thread and don't open it

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 8/27/2009 2:21:22 PM
Author: Haven
I find that my own life is much happier and less complicated when I take people at face value and don''t spend my time speculating over whether they''re being deceptive or not.

Amen!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I can see where the frustration comes from. Virtual or IRL, you invest a part of yourself in getting to know the people you''re talking to. For those of us who''ve been here for awhile, we feel like we ''know'' our fellow PS''ers. Whether it''s strictly from the site or from GTGs in real life. So if something doesn''t sound right or the story changes over time it''s a bit easier for us to pick up on it because we''ve followed our ''friends'' lives through their posts. We''ve seen them laugh, cry, be angry, be blissfully happy, get married, graduate college, buy houses, have babies, etc. I think the threat of dishonesty looms over us all. These people whom we''ve bonded with could be total con artists. After getting to know someone on PS, I''d be pretty peeved if I found out they had been lying to all of us. It''s a natural reaction. I liken this all to internet dating. You join Match.com, meet a great guy, he''s attractive, successful, and sweet via email and telephone. He looks great "on paper." Then you meet him and you discover he''s a 50 year old unemployed guy on probation. You feel deceived, and angry, and probably a bit like a fool.

 

[decodelighted]

I read threads like this and think "WHO is this about??!!!" and "I *think* maybe I know who this is about .. but maybe I''m wrong!" And then I get even more frustrated at being out-of-the-loop than I would be about any potential "offense" -- boasting or semi-nude pix or endless vents or whatever is the chic communal gripe of the moment.

**sigh**

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

With exception to the allusion to the prior thread, I didn''t think this was targeted at just one person. I think there are a lot of drama queens on PS. Heck, I''m one of the bigger ones in my opinion. But with me, what you see is what you get. I''m an open book (some may say a little too open). There''s been a lot of tension on PS in the past six or eight months. I''m not sure where it came from, but I''ve seen people say things to others that are just plain mean.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

Date: 8/27/2009 8:09:01 PM
Author: decodelighted
I read threads like this and think ''WHO is this about??!!!'' and ''I *think* maybe I know who this is about .. but maybe I''m wrong!'' And then I get even more frustrated at being out-of-the-loop than I would be about any potential ''offense'' -- boasting or semi-nude pix or endless vents or whatever is the chic communal gripe of the moment.


**sigh**

This is exactly how I feel

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 8/27/2009 8:09:01 PM
Author: decodelighted
I read threads like this and think ''WHO is this about??!!!'' and ''I *think* maybe I know who this is about .. but maybe I''m wrong!'' And then I get even more frustrated at being out-of-the-loop than I would be about any potential ''offense'' -- boasting or semi-nude pix or endless vents or whatever is the chic communal gripe of the moment.

**sigh**

I see threads like these as a big passive-aggressive middle finger to a specific person or persons.

Look out for my next thread "Lemme tell you all about this annoying poster and you can guess who I''m talking about!"

 

[CNOS128]

hey luckystar, I''m off topic BUT every time I see your name that Madonna song comes into my head.
no, really, every time.

"You must be my lucky star..."


Sorry.

I think that was my cry for attention.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

As usual, I have no idea what anyone is talking about.

cheers--Sharon

 

[HollyS]

Date: 8/27/2009 10:43:27 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 8/27/2009 8:09:01 PM
Author: decodelighted
I read threads like this and think ''WHO is this about??!!!'' and ''I *think* maybe I know who this is about .. but maybe I''m wrong!'' And then I get even more frustrated at being out-of-the-loop than I would be about any potential ''offense'' -- boasting or semi-nude pix or endless vents or whatever is the chic communal gripe of the moment.

**sigh**

I see threads like these as a big passive-aggressive middle finger to a specific person or persons.

Look out for my next thread ''Lemme tell you all about this annoying poster and you can guess who I''m talking about!''

That is exactly the thought that crossed my mind - - although a bit less graphically!

I got this far, to lucky''s post, and noticed that, for some strange reason, you all have basically ignored Ali''s post. If I''m not mistaken, I believe that was a super polite ''cease and desist, please'' post. Shall we? Cease and desist, that is?

 

[Shoopy]

I think you will find in ANY forum there are just as many sensitive ppl as there are drama queens, bullies, and passive aggressiveness. I also don''t buy the argument of ppl having too much time on their hands. I have a newborn and still have time to read a thread enough to get the basic point (which takes about a minute) and respond (maybe another minute or so). Honestly I enjoy the drama as much as the non-drama. Makes psers more real in my opinion. If we all got along all the time then this would truly be a forum of half truths.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 8/27/2009 11:07:27 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 8/27/2009 10:43:27 PM

Author: luckystar112

Date: 8/27/2009 8:09:01 PM

Author: decodelighted

I read threads like this and think 'WHO is this about??!!!' and 'I *think* maybe I know who this is about .. but maybe I'm wrong!' And then I get even more frustrated at being out-of-the-loop than I would be about any potential 'offense' -- boasting or semi-nude pix or endless vents or whatever is the chic communal gripe of the moment.

**sigh**

I see threads like these as a big passive-aggressive middle finger to a specific person or persons.

Look out for my next thread 'Lemme tell you all about this annoying poster and you can guess who I'm talking about!'

That is exactly the thought that crossed my mind - - although a bit less graphically!

I got this far, to lucky's post, and noticed that, for some strange reason, you all have basically ignored Ali's post. If I'm not mistaken, I believe that was a super polite 'cease and desist, please' post. Shall we? Cease and desist, that is?

Sure, I'll cease and desist...right after I make this post where I agree with a few posters' great points!

 

[VRBeauty]

Date: 8/27/2009 1:56:28 PM
Author: Maisie
If someone has that much drama in their life, whether real or imagined, surely they need support too? I know it can be tiresome for people to see that same person popping up time and time again, but there must be a reason why that person needs to feel noticed and listened to. There can be a multitude of reasons why someones life is difficult for them. I guess if you are tired of seeing their posts you can just pass on by.

I agree.

FWIW I don't get the sense that we have a lot of posters who are just looking for attention when they post about personal issues. We do have a lot of posters who discovered PS because they were on the cusp of a major life change -- engagement or marriage. Just being at that stage is likely to bring a lot of issues out of hiding, and some people are better equipped to handle those issues than others. I've also seen people grow on PS -- grow in wisdom (for lack of a better term), grow more understanding, grow more resilient, grow a thicker skin -- and I like to think that some of the suggestions or even scolding offered here helped. More than one poster who was told to "pull on her big girl pants" went on to do just that. And there have been other frequent tear-jerkers who... well, lets just say that as their lives have unfolded, it's become more clear why what seemed like little things at the time might have thrown them for a loop -- i.e. they were focusing on those little things as an alternative to dealing with the much bigger issue that was probably the real source of their unhappiness or apprehension.

Sorry to be so obtuse.