Wedding Guest List and Co-Workers

[Keepingthefaith21]

Hi everyone:

Next weekend we are going to check out some venues and one coordinator suggested I have a pretty good idea of my guest list to help with the determination of which room we will need.

Relatives are fairly easy, as are family friends and of course friends are the easiest of all. However, I am struggling a bit with co-workers. Is there some rule of thumb with inviting co-workers? Is it only co-workers you associate with outside of the office? Can it be co-workers who you associate with in work on a regular enough basis that you''d like to have them present at your wedding?

Thanks!

 

[neatfreak]

You can make up whatever rule you want, but whatever you do, be discreet about it. AND if you say invite everyone in your cubicle area/workgroup/office except one or two people, you probably should also include that person/people so they aren''t left out ya know? Otherwise, I say make your own rules based on who you REALLY want there.

 

[Shoopy]

Someone, and I wish I could remember who to give them credit, mentioned that if you haven’t/don’t invite your coworkers to your home for dinner, then you don’t need to invite them to your wedding.

I loved that comment because its true.

 

[peridot83]

If you want to invite co-workers (and you certainly don't have to), you do kinda have to invite any sort of "natural group" (i.e. all the people in your dept, or cube block or whatever, or if you have a small group you always have lunch with)

If you like your boss, the safest is to just invite your boss and his/her spouse and no one else.

 

[tberube]

Invite those coworkers that you consider friends, and ask them to be mum about it, in consideration of those who didn''t get an invite.

 

[Pandora II]

We decided to throw a drinks party a week later for all our co-workers (I just invited the whole company), everyone we know on FaceBook and all our political colleagues (of all parties).

Guest list was around 500, and about 100 are coming. August was a good month to choose!

 

[winston26]

Date: 7/11/2008 11:45:01 AM
Author: neatfreak
You can make up whatever rule you want, but whatever you do, be discreet about it. AND if you say invite everyone in your cubicle area/workgroup/office except one or two people, you probably should also include that person/people so they aren''t left out ya know? Otherwise, I say make your own rules based on who you REALLY want there.

I did something similar. Invited my team of 8 including spouses since I''ve worked with them every day for 6 years. There is one girl no one particularly likes but since she''d be the only one left out, I extended an invite anyway (and she declined as I expected). But I''ve also worked in several other depts. so I chose those people based only on who I would do things outside of work with. It''s hard though isn''t it? I was friend (not close) with one girl; when she heard I was getting married she kept asking me about it and even wanted to go out for lunch several times.....then I had to decide if she got an invite. But of course, if I invited her, I''d have to invite 2 other girls on her team that I had also previously worked with. Hard to draw the line and not hurt feelings.