Wedding first vent about the my wedding !

[blissfulbride]

I''m afraid that, because of the economy most of my guest won''t be able to attend the wedding. It''s a destination wedding in Las Vegas 4/25/09 I know that we are going to get married no matter what, and I''m still thrilled. But I don''t know what''s going to happen. I guess I should look at the bright side, that we will be saving money. Hopefully by the time I send out the Invitations things will start looking up.

Anyone else afraid ?

 

[marchswallowbird]

I''m not afraid, but I am wondering what will happen. But the way I look at is is this: the markets are in great turmoil right now, and it will take several weeks or even months until we know where the economy is headed. Until things settle down somewhat, there is no way to predict what might happen, so there''s no sense stressing out about it now.

 

[DMBFiredancer]

i am right there with you. i am very stressed about this part. our wedding is in july in california, with many guests from the east coast. my area of concern is that we need a minimum dollar amount at our place - so if we get alot of declines, we NEED to fill those with an equal number of B list people.

my biggest fear is that there will be more work people and stuff like that at my wedding than i originally wanted....or that we spend money on people that are not there just to make the minimum.

i''m very worried....thats why i am sending out the invitations and STD very very early to give people time to plan and save...

times are tough, its scary

 

[dragonfly411]

blissfulbride - I''m sorry some of your guests won''t make it, but I''m sure it will be a total blast and beautiful nonetheless. Could you maybe have a cookout type reception upon return for those that couldn''t attend? Just something fun to celebrate?

The economy is very scary to me right now, and I''m not sure what those of us who don''t make a lot are going to do.

 

[MaggieB]

I''m getting married in 56 days. In the last 24 hours, four guests (two couples) have informed me that they will not be staying at the resort after all (due to cost) and will stay at a Holiday Inn about 25 minutes away. I am fully expecting that we are going to have some dropouts of people who have RSVPed. My advice to you is to accept things that you cannot control, or else you will go crazy. I know that my friends are hurting financially, many of them have jobs which are in jeopardy, and my wedding simply cannot be their priority.

If my reception ends up being my husband and I splitting a Happy Meal, I will be happy because I am marrying him. Now - that said - I''d prefer it if I still get my fancy wedding . . .

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 10/10/2008 3:23:48 PM
Author:blissfulbride
I''m afraid that, because of the economy most of my guest won''t be able to attend the wedding. It''s a destination wedding in Las Vegas 4/25/09 I know that we are going to get married no matter what, and I''m still thrilled. But I don''t know what''s going to happen. I guess I should look at the bright side, that we will be saving money. Hopefully by the time I send out the Invitations things will start looking up.

Anyone else afraid ?

Well for starters this is not your first vent about the wedding

I wouldn''t worry about who would be able to make it or not. The people that really want to be there will find a way. And for others that can''t, then that''s understandable too.

BTW my mom and dad''s anniversary was on 4/25

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately I''d say that''s going to happen a lot with the way things are at the moment. You''ll have a fab day anyway. Maybe you could throw a small party when you get back for all of those people that couldn''t attend. hehe maybe even wear your dress again.

 

[gtn]

No matter what, you will have a great time. On a side note, some of my most generous guest were the ones who had the least to give. So you never know. People have ways of surprising you.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I know exactly what you mean. I almost feel bad because a lot of our guests are using their vacation time and using our wedding as the one vacation they take for the year as a family...cuz seriously, who wants to take their family vacation in fargo, nd lol

 

[rockzilla]

Is this really your first wedding vent? I could have sworn I''ve seen a few others around here

I think you have to ask yourself two questions:

1) Is there anything I can do about the cause of this issue? (In this case, the economy tanking)
-No...very few people, if any, can answer yes to this one

2) Are you realistically going to consider changing your plan in response to the issue?
-In this case, you have to ask yourself if you''d consider changing the location/venue. If you absolutely want to have it in Vegas, the answer is no. Is there a certain % of attendees you''d consider moving it back home for? If so, what is that % - 20%? 50%? 75% Then, what is the likelihood that that threshold will be met? I don''t know your friends/family financial situation, but I don''t think you''re going to see all of a sudden 20%+ lose their jobs in the next year. Will 20% not attend for other reasons, or because they feel skittish? Maybe.

Really, if there isn''t something you can realistically do about it (beyond the drastic option of changing your plans) it''s probably best to not worry about it too much