My fiance''s parents dont want us to live together before we get married. We would honor their wishes however, he works in a city about 2 hours away, and i just took a job in that city, which is a 2.5 hour commute for me. They are very old fashioned catholics and have previously voiced their opionon before we even got engaged. My family is catholic but are estactic that we are getting married and have found a beautiful apartment right outside the city. His parents are great and are very happy we are getting married-they just want us to live in the old fashioned times and by their rules...I cannot commute 2.5 hours a day and he has been commuting 2 hours for the last two years because he moved home to be closer to me to pursue our relationship further.
Our wedding is about a year and a half away-we are paying for most of it, with the way the economy is we dont want to burden our close to retirement parents. We can''t do that commute for almost two years, four to five hours in a car on top of an 8 hour day is too much, and we want to live together, we''ve been dating for three years and engaged for 3 months. My parents allow him to live at my house-he goes home to "keep up appearances" once a week...if it weren''t for the ridiculous commute we would continue to keep up appearances.
My family has already started purchasing us little things for our apartment to help us out, my dad especially. He is just happy that his daughter is happy and is marrying a great guy! I want his parents to be just as much a part of all of this as mine are!
We are about to sign a lease but want to talk to his parents first. Any ideas on how to break the news? I dont want to cause any issues with his parents because he is very close with them and they are my family! I dont know how to make them understand that this is for financial/mental/life reasons, not because we just want to sleep in the same bed!
Our wedding is about a year and a half away-we are paying for most of it, with the way the economy is we dont want to burden our close to retirement parents. We can''t do that commute for almost two years, four to five hours in a car on top of an 8 hour day is too much, and we want to live together, we''ve been dating for three years and engaged for 3 months. My parents allow him to live at my house-he goes home to "keep up appearances" once a week...if it weren''t for the ridiculous commute we would continue to keep up appearances.
My family has already started purchasing us little things for our apartment to help us out, my dad especially. He is just happy that his daughter is happy and is marrying a great guy! I want his parents to be just as much a part of all of this as mine are!
We are about to sign a lease but want to talk to his parents first. Any ideas on how to break the news? I dont want to cause any issues with his parents because he is very close with them and they are my family! I dont know how to make them understand that this is for financial/mental/life reasons, not because we just want to sleep in the same bed!