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Ideal_Rock
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I really don''t know what to do or say, but this has been a reoccuring issue.
FBIL and FI play video games together in the evenings, and chat while doing so. They don''t talk on the phone as often as they game together, so this is a primary means of communication. It began as complaints about how FBIL''s wife didn''t like him playing video games, wouldn''t let him play and would fuss at him about it, all the while she is sitting around watching hours of TV. FBIL is currently unemployed, is staying home and taking care of his 3mo old daughter, and 7 yr old son, and has applied for police academy. He says that his wife is no longer affectionate with him, no hugs or kisses, and if he tries, she pushes him away, fusses at him constantly, and that he can''t wait for police academy so that he can get out of the house for a few weeks (it''s a live in program). It could be that they are having a rough adjustment to the new baby, but it sounds to me like these are old issues, not new ones, and they have had a pretty rough time with the 7 yr old already, prior to the new baby.
Now, no one was really that thrilled about the two of them getting married in the first place, so FI is partially feeling like "I told you so," but moreso, just wants his brother to be happy. FI is the type that stresses a lot over his family, and he is very protective of them, so this is making him really frustrated and upset. He doesn''t want to take sides, so he has been telling his brother to talk to his wife about these issues, but they don''t seem to be getting resolved. He offers helpful suggestions, but doesn''t tell his brother that his is right and that the wife is wrong. The couple was in counselling for relationship issues before they got married, and I believe that they are going again, and have been for some time. They celebrated their first anniversary in July. On one-hand, FI kind of doesn''t want to hear about it anymore, but on the other hand, he wants to be there for his brother. It''s scary to him that they are going to counseling and still not making progress. In my experience, FBIL''s wife is very combatitve, argumentative and berating, even in front of FBIL''s family, so I have no idea what he''s really going through, but I am pretty sure she''s not making it easy. It takes two people to make things work. FBIL is in many ways similiar to FI, in that they are both easy going. Sigh, what a sucky situation.
it''s really frustrating, because neither of us know what to do or say at this point. It would be nice from people who have been in a similiar situations...
FBIL and FI play video games together in the evenings, and chat while doing so. They don''t talk on the phone as often as they game together, so this is a primary means of communication. It began as complaints about how FBIL''s wife didn''t like him playing video games, wouldn''t let him play and would fuss at him about it, all the while she is sitting around watching hours of TV. FBIL is currently unemployed, is staying home and taking care of his 3mo old daughter, and 7 yr old son, and has applied for police academy. He says that his wife is no longer affectionate with him, no hugs or kisses, and if he tries, she pushes him away, fusses at him constantly, and that he can''t wait for police academy so that he can get out of the house for a few weeks (it''s a live in program). It could be that they are having a rough adjustment to the new baby, but it sounds to me like these are old issues, not new ones, and they have had a pretty rough time with the 7 yr old already, prior to the new baby.
Now, no one was really that thrilled about the two of them getting married in the first place, so FI is partially feeling like "I told you so," but moreso, just wants his brother to be happy. FI is the type that stresses a lot over his family, and he is very protective of them, so this is making him really frustrated and upset. He doesn''t want to take sides, so he has been telling his brother to talk to his wife about these issues, but they don''t seem to be getting resolved. He offers helpful suggestions, but doesn''t tell his brother that his is right and that the wife is wrong. The couple was in counselling for relationship issues before they got married, and I believe that they are going again, and have been for some time. They celebrated their first anniversary in July. On one-hand, FI kind of doesn''t want to hear about it anymore, but on the other hand, he wants to be there for his brother. It''s scary to him that they are going to counseling and still not making progress. In my experience, FBIL''s wife is very combatitve, argumentative and berating, even in front of FBIL''s family, so I have no idea what he''s really going through, but I am pretty sure she''s not making it easy. It takes two people to make things work. FBIL is in many ways similiar to FI, in that they are both easy going. Sigh, what a sucky situation.
it''s really frustrating, because neither of us know what to do or say at this point. It would be nice from people who have been in a similiar situations...