Feelings of regret

[rubilee]

So I adore my ring and the ring that I got. It’s so beautiful. But I’m also somewhat self conscious about it- does it face up big enough?? (ironic because at the time that we bought the diamond I was worried it would feel too big). I also got an old mine cut and I adore it but also keep looking at other diamonds and wonder if I should have gotten a modern cushion cut or a step cut. I’m so sad because I know if I were sitting here with a modern cushion cut or a pretty emerald cut I’d be looking at pictures of old mines and lusting away. I’m just a luster. It’s just I know I’m probably not going to be able to buy other jewelry at this price point for at least another 10-15 years since honestly I’ll be prioritizing other big life purchases and so it’s sad that now I’ve picked one this is it

 

[lambskin]

Enjoy what you have with no regrets. I love the rarity of the old cuts Which makes your ring unique and can’t be judged/compared with modern cuts. If I were a new bride I would seek out the old cuts as I would not want anyone to suspect the stone was either lab grown, synthetic, CZ, a Mossy, or treated diamond Which are available today. Regarding the face up size, DSS is a well known ailment PS’ers have. There is no permanent cure for it unfortunately as when a bigger stone is purchased, a PS’er is always looking for the next one…again, enjoy your ring and congrats on your engagement.

 

[bludiva]

i think lots of people here can relate. right shape? right setting? too big? too small? when you have to narrow all the options down to one, i think there is inevitably some kind of feeling of loss of all the other options out there. but your ring is beautiful, you said it yourself, let's see it =D

 

[seaurchin]

I know there are a lot of e-rings I'd be happy with but of course most of us don't get very many of them. Who wouldn't want more though, right?

I think there's also often another factor too, which is that picking out an e-ring can take so much effort that sometimes once you finally get one, it's like you've also lost your new hobby, e-ring shopping! :p

Maybe you could scratch that itch by getting a fun CZ alternate ring or two to play with, or start on a RHR project.

 

[Bron357]

Don’t fret, it’s entirely normal to go through “what if’s” in your mind. It’s normal, though unfortunate, to suffer from DSS or diamond shrinking syndrome. Most of us have had it or even still have it.
Focus instead on what made you choose your ring in the first place.
Old cuts are rare, and getting rarer as many people choose to have them recut. There will always be a heap of round brillants out there if and when you upgrade or expand your collection.
Theres always CZ rings (Berricle are a popular brand) to play with at a modest price or even Moissanite rings to try out different styles / looks without spending huge dollars.
No need to rush, plenty of time to dream, to plan. Just don’t forget to live in the moment and love what you have right now.

 

[qubitasaurus]

Lol I can relate. But truthfully none of those worries actually end up coming true. Life changes really fast. What you thought was ouy of reach a few years ago is probably already possible today. At the same time 5 years seems to just fly by in a blink of an eye, its not that long after all and you don't end up pining away for ages. Just go forward enjoy what you have and it'll work out.

 

[diamondyes]

This is why so many people on here have so many rings! The addiction is real haha. Let’s see a pic of yours?

 

[diamondyes]

Found the video of yours, truth is I’ve already saved it on my wish board- it’s a thing of beauty and I love how you customized it yourself! Let’s see more pics!!

 

[Calliecake]

Enjoy your beautiful ring and leave Pricescope for awhile. What looks large in real lIfe and what looks large on Pricescope are usually two different things.

 

[AllAboardTheBlingTrain]

No one ring can meet all of your desires, imo, especially if you’re a “jewelry person”. I mean it can for some people, but sometimes you just love disparate things and you can’t reconcile them all into a single piece of jewelry. So I think it’s normal to feel a bit deflated, especially since the thrill of the chase is now over. I myself am wrestling with this old cut / new cut dilemma with the knowledge that whichever one I pick, the other one will be out of reach for a long time.

I do think that it’s probably good to try and work on building contentment, though. Personally, I think it’s healthy to look at pictures of pretty things and not instantly jump to “I want that / need that / how do I get that”. Like I want to look at it and think “hey, that’s gorgeous!” And leave it there. Or work on delayed gratification so I don’t fall out of love with what I have and want something more or new or better. DSS might set in, I think it does for everyone because we get used to what we have. But I think it’s possible to work on accepting the feeling and not use it as an impetus to change. Hopefully this doesn’t sound preachy, that wasn’t my intent!

 

[YadaYadaYada]

I can relate to this completely, a couple months ago I ended up with a half carat low set solitaire, it is one of the smaller stones in my collection. Also I have bigger fingers so I was worried it was a bit small on me. Then I thought back to my original set, wore it for ten years and never worried about whether it looked too small, never obsessed about whether the band was “right” with the solitaire. There is something peaceful and comforting about that feeling so I’ve been working on getting back in that mindset.

I’ve been wearing it now regularly and funny, now my bigger stones look too big to me! All that to say maybe just try wearing it for a while, it might grow on you. Also a mine cut is special and unique plus there is no reason you can’t add a different cut down the line.

 

[rubilee]

Oh my goodness- I read through all these well thought out responses and honestly, I think each one truly made me feel better. You guys are amazing!! I love my ring and I think I don’t really regret the ring, but what I miss is the feeling of “chasing” and the disappointment is that it’s now not a “project” or “hobby” where I actually get the satisfaction of getting an end product. I love all the different beautiful diamonds and jewels out there! I also love the suggestions of playing around with cz and moissy! I’ve heard moissy is really sparkly too- so maybe one day I will do that in a step cut for a RHR or something. I think the “ring shrinkage” was also a factor of seeing a friend’s larger ring recently and I really need to stop comparing! My ring is completely different than hers and it’s reflective of our relationship which is unique and beautiful and designed together. My boyfriend pointed out the old mine cuts, which I hadn’t been considering before and we both fell in love with them. We truly designed this ring together and I need to remember that’s why it was the right choice over all of the others.

 

[rubilee]

No one ring can meet all of your desires, imo, especially if you’re a “jewelry person”. I mean it can for some people, but sometimes you just love disparate things and you can’t reconcile them all into a single piece of jewelry. So I think it’s normal to feel a bit deflated, especially since the thrill of the chase is now over. I myself am wrestling with this old cut / new cut dilemma with the knowledge that whichever one I pick, the other one will be out of reach for a long time.

I do think that it’s probably good to try and work on building contentment, though. Personally, I think it’s healthy to look at pictures of pretty things and not instantly jump to “I want that / need that / how do I get that”. Like I want to look at it and think “hey, that’s gorgeous!” And leave it there. Or work on delayed gratification so I don’t fall out of love with what I have and want something more or new or better. DSS might set in, I think it does for everyone because we get used to what we have. But I think it’s possible to work on accepting the feeling and not use it as an impetus to change. Hopefully this doesn’t sound preachy, that wasn’t my intent!

I love this idea of building contentment, of being able to appreciate and enjoy beautiful things without needing to own them. And appreciating the beauty and pleasure in what you have. I mean my ring was an exercise in delayed gratification- it took me 6 months to get to the end product. And I truly loved the experience of creating it.

 

[GliderPoss]

This is why we are all here! We love the thrill of the hunt, the design & creation. Adding something special to our collection. Don’t feel bad, your ring is lovely. Now just move onto another different project… necklace? Earrings?

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I believe "wanting what you have" is a work in progress.

cheers--Sharon

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

Glad you are open to moissy and CZ for fun… don’t forget LGD too! And silver and semi-precious gems. I’m not big on moissy personally but people who like it are really into it and you can find some cool stuff like vintage cuts and different colors. LGD are awesome — not extremely cheap for now but they are real diamonds and sparkle as such.

I empathize… just made my last fine jewelry purchase for a long time. Now I’m waiting for things to come in but there’s no more serious looking to buy for a while as I save up money for future projects. Not to mention life expenses that come with children and houses and cars all getting older. Lots of photo safaris and wish lists in the coming months and possibly years.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

Oh my goodness- I read through all these well thought out responses and honestly, I think each one truly made me feel better. You guys are amazing!! I love my ring and I think I don’t really regret the ring, but what I miss is the feeling of “chasing” and the disappointment is that it’s now not a “project” or “hobby” where I actually get the satisfaction of getting an end product. I love all the different beautiful diamonds and jewels out there! I also love the suggestions of playing around with cz and moissy! I’ve heard moissy is really sparkly too- so maybe one day I will do that in a step cut for a RHR or something. I think the “ring shrinkage” was also a factor of seeing a friend’s larger ring recently and I really need to stop comparing! My ring is completely different than hers and it’s reflective of our relationship which is unique and beautiful and designed together. My boyfriend pointed out the old mine cuts, which I hadn’t been considering before and we both fell in love with them. We truly designed this ring together and I need to remember that’s why it was the right choice over all of the others.

this reminds me of when we bought our house
we went from a cramped 25m2 flat to a 105m2 house plus a double garage but it is 1959 no frillls vintage
i went to stay with my freind who had a lovelly big house build by a builder for his own family, huge rooms, 2 bathrooms
i had to refall in love with our house

so im really glad you love your ring