Wedding Father / Daughter Mother / Son dance dilemma!

[violet02]

Okay so I posted about the reception order of events in this post: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/reception-order-of-events-pick-one.93067/

After some discussion and thought on the topic I''m wondering if combining the two dances is a good idea. The Sinatra song is 3:22 long. Our idea is a bit over halfway to have my FI and his mom come up and dance the last part of the song while we dance off. Great idea in theory but then my FI''s mom would have barely a 1:30 to do their part. That cuts both dances short for our parents.

Would it be better (and more respectful) to give each of them their own song? Or is a nice short on/off version the best way to go? My FI was hoping for the short version since he''s not into doing the mom/son dance. He actually didn''t want to at all but his mom iinsisted. I thought it would keep the pace up as well.

Thoughts, suggestions, personal experience?

 

[Cleopatra]

I danced my father/daughter dance the same time as DH danced the mother/son dance....We danced to the same song - I was very ready to get the whole dances thing over with so we could get to the REAL dancing! ha!

I''d suggest just dancing to the same song - but dancing the entire time - so, no switching out - just my opinion

 

[jcrow]

same song here too. dh and this mom danced and i surprised dh''s dad and asked him to dance during the same song.

 

[krispi]

One thing to watch out for: When my brother and SIL got married last year, they did their parent dances simultaneously. Their photographer only got one shot of my mom and brother together and 10-20 of my SIL and her dad. I get that the bride is very prominent at a wedding, and the father-daughter dance is a big deal, but I do feel like the pictures should have been split more equitably. If you decide to dance at the same time, I would just make sure the photographer doesn''t follow the bride around and ignore the groom.

 

[lliang_chi]

Krispi,

Great point. That''s something to remember.

 

[violet02]

Yes great point Krispi!

For those of you that did the same song did your dads mind? I know my dad''s putting a lot of effort into the father/daughter dance... like taking dance lessons etc.

 

[muffindowd]

Reading all of this has gotten me wondering....
Do most people have a mother/son dance at their wedding?? We were planning on doing a father/daughter dance and not a mother/son dance, but I definitely don''t want to offend my future mother in law. My fiance wasn''t really interested in doing a mother/son dance and I figured we would be fine without it...but would you say the majority of people include both dances??

 

[violet02]

That's a good question. I'd like to know that too!

I know my friends did it last October for their wedding. Maybe at the same time? I can't recall. My FI didn't want to do it and he was convinced his mom didn't either. I asked him to talk to her about it and he was suprised to find out that she did indeed want to do it. We don't want to offend her so we're including her (somehow).

 

[jcarlylew]

i would do two seperate ones - for pictures, memories, etc. Also, DJ''s usually have shorter versions of each song so it wont seem as long. I was recently at a friends wedding and i video taped all three dances - it didnt seem long at all, and everyone was crowded around the whole time to watch all the dances.

 

[krispi]

At weddings I''ve attended, they have either done both dances (either separate or together) or none at all. I haven''t seen anyone do one without the other.

 

[violet02]

Thanks everyone! I think I''m convinced that we should do two dances instead of splitting one!