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Brilliant_Rock
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So, there really isn''t a point to this post, but I would like to get some PS support because I feel bad right now, and I know I shouldn''t...
Last night FI and I went to my parents house for dinner with my sister and parents. I don''t visit them very often even though I live across the street from them, and every time I visit, I remember why that is.
We are having dinner, and of course they bring up the wedding, and how things are going. We booked our venue, and it comes with a wedding package that includes flowers, huppa, limousine, and a few other things. The floral part of the package is based on a budget for $1200, which is not a lot, but that''s what the caterer is giving us. So we went to the florist and picked out our centerpieces, and our huppa. The huppa we picked out is sort of modest, but I think it works wonderfully for our winter theme, it was the only one that FI and I liked. It''s made of mostly sticks (not sure what they''re called but they look like branches) that are tied together to form beams, with silk on top and some flowers on the sides (not many).
My family has not even seen this huppa, and they went off on a tirade for an hour about how the huppa should me covered in flowers and that it usually costs $1k-$2k. They went on about how the caterer is making fools out of us and is giving us a crappy budget, and that we''re getting ripped off. They continued on saying that with a huppa like ours, and candelabras along the isle, that the ceremony area won''t look like it''s decorated at all, and in general that things wouldn''t look nice. They know wer are having a winter theme, and don''t want an overly floral look to the wedding, because of this -- but nonetheless are pushing for the fact that it''s winter outside, but the inside could look any way you want.
. There was also talk of how we shouldn''t use calla lillies because in Russia they were considered a funeral flower
. WTF?!?!
Finally I said I''m leaving because throughout the tirade I kept asking to not talk about the wedding and to just let it go (to no avail). I told my sister to call me when she was finished w/ dinner and I would drive her home. She says no, if you''re leaving, then we''re leaving. In the car she says that we arent being nice
. At this point FI proceeds to tell her off about how they always disregard my opinion, and don''t care about my opinion, and just push on me what they want. Then sis says that she''s no longer saying a word or giving us any opinions, or suggestions which I tried to explain to her is not what we were saying, but she persisted, saying that she and mom have my best interest in mind, and are trying to make sure people don''t laugh at my wedding
. She seemed to be pretty PO''d, and hurt at the whole thing.
Now I feel bad. We''re moving to CA on Tuesday, and now there is this fight that we had, and I feel bad leaving on bad terms with sis. I love my sister, and I do think she looking out for (what in her mind are) my best interests. But at the same time I know I don''t want to be pushed around, and having her and my mom be outright me to me. I need some PS support to make me feel better, and assure me that I wasn''t an a$$. FWIW, we''re paying for the wedding ourselves entirely.
Last night FI and I went to my parents house for dinner with my sister and parents. I don''t visit them very often even though I live across the street from them, and every time I visit, I remember why that is.
We are having dinner, and of course they bring up the wedding, and how things are going. We booked our venue, and it comes with a wedding package that includes flowers, huppa, limousine, and a few other things. The floral part of the package is based on a budget for $1200, which is not a lot, but that''s what the caterer is giving us. So we went to the florist and picked out our centerpieces, and our huppa. The huppa we picked out is sort of modest, but I think it works wonderfully for our winter theme, it was the only one that FI and I liked. It''s made of mostly sticks (not sure what they''re called but they look like branches) that are tied together to form beams, with silk on top and some flowers on the sides (not many).
My family has not even seen this huppa, and they went off on a tirade for an hour about how the huppa should me covered in flowers and that it usually costs $1k-$2k. They went on about how the caterer is making fools out of us and is giving us a crappy budget, and that we''re getting ripped off. They continued on saying that with a huppa like ours, and candelabras along the isle, that the ceremony area won''t look like it''s decorated at all, and in general that things wouldn''t look nice. They know wer are having a winter theme, and don''t want an overly floral look to the wedding, because of this -- but nonetheless are pushing for the fact that it''s winter outside, but the inside could look any way you want.
Finally I said I''m leaving because throughout the tirade I kept asking to not talk about the wedding and to just let it go (to no avail). I told my sister to call me when she was finished w/ dinner and I would drive her home. She says no, if you''re leaving, then we''re leaving. In the car she says that we arent being nice
Now I feel bad. We''re moving to CA on Tuesday, and now there is this fight that we had, and I feel bad leaving on bad terms with sis. I love my sister, and I do think she looking out for (what in her mind are) my best interests. But at the same time I know I don''t want to be pushed around, and having her and my mom be outright me to me. I need some PS support to make me feel better, and assure me that I wasn''t an a$$. FWIW, we''re paying for the wedding ourselves entirely.
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