Do you send Mother''s Day gift/card to your MIL?

[zhuzhu]

If so, what is appropriate to give if you don''t know her too well?

If not, do you feel guilty for only thinking of your own mother?

 

[beau13]

Ohhhhhhhh..most definitely!!
Mine is like a mother to me..the only mom I have..I treat her as such!!
If you don''t know her to well (assuming you just married recently?), I would send her one (maybe a little less on the mushy side, but one that says you care). A card that says "from both of us" perhaps??

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 5/3/2009 6:04:50 AM
Author:zhuzhu
If so, what is appropriate to give if you don''t know her too well?


If not, do you feel guilty for only thinking of your own mother?

I''ve given my future mother-in-law potted plants. She loves gardening, so they''re a nice gift that will stick around longer than sending regular flowers (and they seem to be less expensive too). Would your mother-in-law like that, maybe?

 

[bee*]

I don''t give her one but I make sure that D gets her one. We both took her out for lunch though.

 

[steph72276]

Yes, always! We get her something from the both of us. This year she is getting a new book that just came out (she is an avid reader) and a picture frame bookmark with our son''s picture in in. Does she have any hobbies?

 

[Tuckins1]

Yes, I give her a card and some sort of gift... Plants/flowers are great because she loves them. Otherwise, I might just take her out to a nice lunch or something.

 

[girlie-girl]

We always send my MIL a card and flowers for Mother''s Day. My Mom lives close, so we do the same for her only we''re able to hand deliver. The gifts and cards are always sent from both of us.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

My MIL passed away about 5 years ago, but when she was alive my DH and I would get her flowers and a card from both of us. We do the same thing for my mom.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

yes I do and call her. Same with FIL on father''s day.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I do something for both of our moms from both of us.

I usually involve my husband when it comes to my MIL because he knows his mom far better than I do...and I always want her to have something she''d like/appreciate (otherwise it''s a waste of money). For my own mom, I usually do that shopping solo because I know her.

But, I would never not send a gift to my MIL, she''s a mom--she deserves it....and more importantly, she''s the mom of the greatest man I know.

 

[tigian]

My MIL lives in a different country and we don''t speak the same language, but I send a card from the both of us along with a little box of chocolates or soaps.

 

[D&T]

umm, the first year, I asked DH this question, except his parents both remarried so now I have like two MIL (one step MIL) so it was kinda weird as I am closer to his step mother anyhoot we mailed them both cards, and both received flowers,,, so then I thought do I really have to do this for his step? but since I started it the first year,, been doing it ever since, and they are too sensitive if I stopped now.

 

[musey]

We aren''t big gifters in my family (gifts are reserved for birthdays and major life events, not really for other occasions), so we usually stop with cards and/or phone calls.

Though a couple of years ago, my husband and I (engaged at the time) gave both of our mothers picnic sets. Luckily for us, our mothers have VERY similar interests (almost everything, really!), so we usually know that what one likes the other will as well

 

[E B]

We get her/send her something from both of us.

 

[InLuv101]

We too send our mothers something from both of us along with a card. Since my MIL lives out of state, a gift card to her fave store or restaurant is usually easiest.

 

[Steel]

I never even considered the idea!

Now that I have, nope still wouldn''t send her anything....

 

[mochi]

My MIL gets a card/gift and a outing to a restaurant.

 

[Bia]

We typically give a gift and send a card to both of our mothers, signed from the two of us. Mother''s Day is very important to us because we both have wonderful mothers who deserve to be acknowledged and pampered. The only problem we ever encounter is deciding which mother to spend Mother''s Day with. Usually it''s his mom on the actual day, and then we celebrate with my mom on Memorial Day weekend, since it''s a long weekend and we can make the trip.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I saw both mothers this weekend at my bridal shower and I gave them each an orchid plant and a card. It was just easier.

Usually they just get cards and phone calls on Mother''s Day

 

[jcarlylew]

i am sending her a (homemade) flower basket. my mother is getting the same.

 

[Kelli]

My FI and I just pick out cards for both of our moms together. I think we sign them both from both of us.

 

[Rhea]

No. We don''t do much for our parents. DH gets his mum a card and a potted plant. I send my mother a card. His dad gets a card and a book on father''s day. Mine gets a card.

We make sure each other remembers and help to pick out the card or token gift, but we don''t sign the card.

 

[icekid]

Date: 5/4/2009 12:44:11 AM
Author: EBree
We get her/send her something from both of us.

Ditto! Same for my mom.

 

[HollyS]

I had the lovely pleasure of visiting my MIL this weekend in Dallas. That was our gift to her. And we''ll send her a card.

There needs to be an emotie with gritting teeth, to accurately describe my joy of spending ''quality time'' with my MIL. I guess I''ll settle for the insincere Cheshire grin emotie.

 

[zhuzhu]

Hehe,
Since all PSer, even the ones who are not usually in love with their MIL, are doing at least a card. I guess I should too....

 

[Steel]

Date: 5/4/2009 3:39:56 PM
Author: zhuzhu
Hehe,
Since all PSer, even the ones who are not usually in love with their MIL, are doing at least a card. I guess I should too....

Am I chopped liver?

I said I didn''t, not even a card!

 

[AmberGretchen]

I make sure my DH gets her a card (which I sign), and I help pick out any gift she gets, but I don''t send something directly - it just feels too weird to me.

 

[elrohwen]

FI and I pick out our cards together and up until now we''ve only pur our names on the cards to our own mothers. I think after we''re married we''ll just co-sign the card instead of buying two for each mom.

 

[zhuzhu]

Date: 5/4/2009 3:52:50 PM
Author: Steel

Date: 5/4/2009 3:39:56 PM

Author: zhuzhu

Hehe,

Since all PSer, even the ones who are not usually in love with their MIL, are doing at least a card. I guess I should too....

Am I chopped liver?

I said I didn''t, not even a card!

Sorry Steel! I did miss it!

 

[Elmorton]

Zhu, when DH and I were picking out cards for our moms, we mentioned that we''d just sign the other''s card. FWIW, we both love our MILs, but we don''t really do gifts unless we''re totally flush with cash, and then we send flowers (but typically the moms don''t expect that). I don''t know if you''ve done any card shopping yet, but the "To Mother-In-Law" cards at Hallmark (at least the ones I saw) were creepy at best. I''d just sign your DH''s card and leave it at that.