Do you like your ering better w/o your wedding band?

[Novel]

I've started the hunt for a wedding band and so far, can't stand any of them next to my ering. It could be that I haven't found the right band, especially since my ring was custom, but I'm considering moving my ering to my right hand and wearing a band on my left so that a wedding band doesn't diminish it.

Tell me, ladies (and eringed gents), do any of you like your ering better without the wedding band next to it? Do you wear your rings on separate hands, does the meaning of having them next to each other make them look beautiful together, does one enhance the other, or am I just super picky and in love with my (recently made more delicate) ering?

Thanks!

 

[movie zombie]

i wear a 2mm gold wedding band next to my custom made e-ring which even by my standards is large/chunky. it is exactly the e-ring i wanted so i can live with the very tiny wedding band. doesn't enhance my e-ring but then doesn't compete with it either....just sort of "there"....

perhaps you could have something small made to fit around your custom setting? for symbolic reasons i really like having a wedding band and wouldn't wear my e-ring as a RHR unless a super stupendous and very large wedding band alienated my affection for my e-ring! and i didn't get my e-ring until after we'd been married about 1.5 years.... i couldn't fit much more ring on that finger.....

 

[slg47]

I've started the hunt for a wedding band and so far, can't stand any of them next to my ering. It could be that I haven't found the right band, especially since my ring was custom, but I'm considering moving my ering to my right hand and wearing a band on my left so that a wedding band doesn't diminish it.

Tell me, ladies (and eringed gents), do any of you like your ering better without the wedding band next to it? Do you wear your rings on separate hands, does the meaning of having them next to each other make them look beautiful together, does one enhance the other, or am I just super picky and in love with my (recently made more delicate) ering?

Thanks!

novel...do you have pics of the new/improved version?

 

[Mayk]

Depends on my mood.. With two bands, with one or standing alone...

 

[mrs taylor]

I much prefer mine with a band, personally. Always have! I think it's one of those things where I've had two erings and both styles worked well with bands therefore looked better. Had I had a different style of ering my answer may have been different. Both of mine lent themselves very well to a band.

 

[MissStepcut]

I picked out my e-ring to make sure I would like it with standard bands. Most of the e-rings I tried on didn't seem to "go" with wedding bands. I don't know what's up with that...

 

[decodelighted]

I feel like EVERYBODY goes through this but I'm sure it's an overgeneralization. Many people don't consider the eventual wedding band when selecting an e-ring. Many people eventually reset the e-ring.

Hopefully you can find SOMETHING that works with it. But I'd imagine that you'll go a long period of time still SECRETLY (or not so secretly) PREFERRING the ering on its own .... until you get used to seeing it w/whatever you pick. Even then - honestly - some erings look best alone. However, what looks best isn't always what FEELS best. You'll understand that more later maybe?

 

[vc10um]

I love my set, and actually can't wear the rings one on each hand because my right ring finger is too small and they'll fall off!

What if you just got a very very very dainty gold band, a la Duchess Catherine, to go with your e-ring?

 

[Laila619]

Yes, definitely. I've had 7 or 8 settings now ( ) and some looked great with bands, while others looked better alone.

 

[MissStepcut]

I feel like EVERYBODY goes through this but I'm sure it's an overgeneralization. Many people don't consider the eventual wedding band when selecting an e-ring. Many people eventually reset the e-ring.

Hopefully you can find SOMETHING that works with it. But I'd imagine that you'll go a long period of time still SECRETLY (or not so secretly) PREFERRING the ering on its own .... until you get used to seeing it w/whatever you pick. Even then - honestly - some erings look best alone. However, what looks best isn't always what FEELS best. You'll understand that more later maybe?

I agree with bolded but it confuses me, especially among bling-addicted! How are you not fantasizing about your next bling!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I wore my ER with my 7 stone diamond wedding band (.35 ctw) from WF and the look is just, well, no good. My larger eternity actually looks better as does my plain larger wider bands or Cartier rolling ring. I guess it is OTT or alone--that said, I "truly" prefer the latter.

You'll find something that works for you.

cheers--Sharon

 

[swingirl]

I prefer my ering alone. I have 2 bands that I change off on wearing one, the other or both. One of the bands looks nice with my ering. But I like my asscher (with pave) setting all by itself. I change it up though and wear different combinations depending on my mood. My ring is the type that a band can never sit flush against.

I always wear them on the left hand since that's what they were sized for.

 

[Gypsy]

I like mine better with.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I like mine better with, but that is because I have a solitaire that is meant to be worn with bands! There are definitely antique rings and more ornate rings that I think stand alone better. I wear my 5 stone band alone, but I might try a thin plain band with it.

 

[Hera]

I didn't consider my wedding band when we bought my engagement ring. Eventually, I upgraded my diamond and placed it in a simple solitaire to wear with an eternity band.

 

[daintyG]

I got a WB that matched exactly and it made it look like I had one big ring, with the same design repeated in two rows. I was so set on having my WB "match" that I didn't put hardly any thought into the process of buying it! Eventually the thought of a thin pave band dawned on me and I bought a teeny one before my one year anniversary.

To answer your question: I don't like my actual WB with my ER, but I do like my lil' pave band with it and I feel like that band compliments it better than it being alone.

ETA: I'm glad I made the 'mistake' of my choice in WB because it looks great on my right hand. I would wear it every day, but it was sized for my (slightly smaller) left hand.

 

[Lottie]

Its purely down to personal taste but for mine I would say yes, I think my super thin band compliments my antique ring perfectly and I probably like the band more than the ering on my other set, so a yes there as well. I always think that the classic solitaire looks better with a w band.

If I had a very ornate or detailed ring that took up a lot of space already on my finger, I would switch it over to my right hand and get a nice diamond or coloured stone wedding band to sit on its own on the left.

 

[Circe]

You know, I don't like my engagement ring with my wedding band ... but I do quite like it with my anniversary bands. My e-ring is a vintage piece: my wedding band is a nice, sturdy, 3 mm platinum scatter band; and my anniversary bands? Little delicate sapphire-and-diamond bezel band, and a Sepkus circle band (the epitome of delicacy) and a couple of channel set baguette bands which look dreadful next to the e-ring, but great stacked with the wedding band.

So! I happily wear the e-ring on my left hand with whichever anniversary band or bands I feel like wearing that day, and my wedding band on my right hand with whichever anniversary band or bands I feel like wearing that day. It works out nicely, since I'm Russian, and Russians wear their wedding bands on the right - a little nod to my foot in both worlds.

But in general? Yeah, agree with the consensus that a lot of engagement rings just aren't designed with their eventual wedding bands in mind (or worse, are, and are actually too matchy), but I think, a) there's a band out there for almost every ring, even if it can be like looking for a needle in a haystack to find it, and, b) Deco nailed it. Big ditto.

 

[Rhea]

It varies daily - sometimes even hourly. I've been known to change out my rings a couple of times a day. Right now I like it with an eternity ring. Two weeks ago I thought it looked amazing with a 2 mm wide plain domed wedding band. No telling what I'll think tomorrow!

 

[Novel]

Thanks, MZ! I adore your ring, and never noticed the thin band in your avatar with it (is that awful?). I think this is kind of how I feel - that my ering is such a personal and meaningful piece, but I really want a wedding band (for obvious emotional reasons) and will probably end up doing a 2mm plain band.

slg, I will shortly! I convinced FI to do a photo shoot with it today if I left it home. Hopefully I'll have a new thread tonight!

I love that so many people vary day to day! Good to know it isn't just me! And goodness, Laila, have I said I adore your ring enough times yet?

Deco, phew, it isn't just me! We designed my ring to work well with a band next to it - things sit flush, they don't block the lovely profile, etc. Lots of things work with it. What I didn't consider was that I'd love the delicacy of my ring and the heirloom OEC so much that I didn't want anything to take away from it, which I feel like most things do. The other part of this is that my mom only wore a wedding band, no ering, and so I think I always thought I'd do the same - now, loving this ring, I'm confused about how I do the single band look that was always so meaningful to me plus the ering I love. I like what you're saying, though, that what looks best isn't what will feel best. I love this, actually, its hugely helpful, and definitely supports my thin basic band idea. Then I can get the bezel sapphire and diamond band I adore for an anni ring! Like MissStepCut said, fantasizing about my next bling...

vc10um, I think that's what I may do!

And I really like hearing everyone's thoughts on their "sets". I think I assumed that since that was how people wore their rings, that was how they thought it looked best, not just because of the meaning.

 

[nkarma]

Yes I do. I selected my engagement ring to be a thin plain solitaire. I don't like pave too much, so I didn't want an eternity band. And then I did end up getting a plain 1.5mm platinum band, but then I feel like with it next to my e-ring, it takes away the look of a very thin solitaire. So I wear my e-ring on my left hand and wedding ring on the right. When we said our vows, I was pretty sure I would just want to wear my e-ring, so I had him put both rings on. I am also not into DeBeers tradition or societal norms, so I have no issue with the fact that I don't have a wedding set. It doesn't make me less married.

 

[Novel]

Yes I do. I selected my engagement ring to be a thin plain solitaire. I don't like pave too much, so I didn't want an eternity band. And then I did end up getting a plain 1.5mm platinum band, but then I feel like with it next to my e-ring, it takes away the look of a very thin solitaire. So I wear my e-ring on my left hand and wedding ring on the right. When we said our vows, I was pretty sure I would just want to wear my e-ring, so I had him put both rings on. I am also not into DeBeers tradition or societal norms, so I have no issue with the fact that I don't have a wedding set. It doesn't make me less married.

Nkarma, that's so interesting! I hadn't thought of leaving my engagement ring as it is and doing the wedding band on the right hand. Do you find you're as attached to your wedding band as you thought you'd be, if I can ask?

 

[ame]

Besides despising my current band for poor workmanship, I prefer my ering with my bands or at least a band. But it cannot be just any band. It has to be similar in width and shape or it's hideous to me.

 

[luv2sparkle]

I prefer my ering with my wedding band. It feels too small without it.

 

[nkarma]

Yes I do. I selected my engagement ring to be a thin plain solitaire. I don't like pave too much, so I didn't want an eternity band. And then I did end up getting a plain 1.5mm platinum band, but then I feel like with it next to my e-ring, it takes away the look of a very thin solitaire. So I wear my e-ring on my left hand and wedding ring on the right. When we said our vows, I was pretty sure I would just want to wear my e-ring, so I had him put both rings on. I am also not into DeBeers tradition or societal norms, so I have no issue with the fact that I don't have a wedding set. It doesn't make me less married.

Nkarma, that's so interesting! I hadn't thought of leaving my engagement ring as it is and doing the wedding band on the right hand. Do you find you're as attached to your wedding band as you thought you'd be, if I can ask?

As attached as I thought I would be? I didn't put too much emphasis on it in the first place, but I am actually less attached to it than I thought I would be. I kinda got the engagement ring as beautiful bling to commemorate the occasion. It does of course remind me of my husband, but I don't really put too much emotional emphasis on either ring. But then again, I do always have at least one of the rings on to remember/commemorate our vows.

My aunt got a beautiful vintage chunky e-ring that would look weird with any other band next to it so she uses that as both her engagement and wedding ring.

 

[rainydaze]

YES!
it does look good with the band(s) i pair it with (they are 2mm, so subtle. and it did take me several tries to find ones that i liked paired with it), but whenever i put it on alone it is *LOVE*. i dunno why - i think it makes the diamond pop way more, looks sexier on my finger (weird, i know), and lets me appreciate the setting's design even though it's pretty subtle. so, once in a while i will just wear it around the house alone to enjoy it that way. i feel engaged, not married, without the two together, though, so i almost always wear them together. shouldn't matter a whit, but for some reason it just does. personal thing i guess!

 

[LtlFirecracker]

While I like the way my e-ring and wedding band look together, I do feel like the band takes away from the center stone, and miss wearing my e-ring alone. I have also noticed that the head of my e-ring is starting to get grooves in the place where the wedding band sits. I think I am going to have to reset my ring in the next couple years. When I do, I would like to find a setting that can serve as both.