Do you ever not wear your diamond out of courtesy?

[oddoneout]

I''m glad all went well. Amazing rings.

 

[rhbgirl24]

Aww Kenny, I am glad you guys did decide to wear them and everything worked out beautifully.

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 4/4/2010 6:19:47 PM
Author: kenny
Thanks all for the thoughtful responses.
It was really 50 50, but we ended up wearing them and it was fine.
You can''t be inside everyone''s head but I got no vibes that anyone was uncomfortable, and a few folks really enjoyed them.
The immediate family had seen them before.

At a very simple level it is nice to just share a beautiful thing.

Zoe, these are our rings.
My partner''s, the Octavia, on the bottom.

1st -- Those are beautiful rings!

2nd -- I''m so glad you wore them. Most of his family probably didn''t notice (or at least give much thought) them and the ones who did got to see something truly beautiful. I''m sure his family members who saw them before would have missed them if you didn''t wear them.


I also grew up in a family with little money. (we lived in an upper-middle class area -- until middle school we lived in a chicken coop turned rental house (barely)-- and was always uncomfortable around parents/kids who tried to "dress-down" for me) Honestly, I never noticed the "nice stuff" that other people had until they made an issue of it.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

Hi Kenny-I know it''s late, but I wanted to share that I also come from a very large latino family. My DH is always amazed at how many people show up around the holidays and how all manage to be related to me somehow!

I admittedly have one of the larger engagement rings in my family, but I don''t ever take it off for fear of offending my family. They are all very hard working individuals, whether they work as mechanics or farmers or teachers or whatever. I know that they are happy for us and not because I found "a rich guy" to take care of me. They all truly love and respect my husband and everything that he does for me, his children and all of our families.

I do, however, wear my plain platinum band when I visit relatives in the border towns in Mexico. This has nothing to do with my family and everything to do with the safety of my children and family. It has gotten so bad in some towns that we don''t even take our blond, blue-eyed children into Mexico and only visit when it is just my husband and myself. On all of those occasions, my engagement ring stays in the US. It is not a matter of "dressing down" for my family, it is a safety issue.

I am glad that you didn''t "dress down" either. I know that your partner''s family is just happy that you love and respect him.

 

[jewelerman]

Date: 4/4/2010 12:28:00 PM
Author:kenny
My partner is from a huge close Latino family.
At gettogethers like Easter we''ll see a zillion people in his parent''s home.
Zillions of still other relatives drop in during their rounds of the homes of other family members that day.
I think grandma has over 150 descendants.

Many of these wonderful people are farm workers and frankly quite poor.

We were considering not wearing our nice diamonds for the visit.
We do wear them on our ring fingers and, though we are not allowed to marry, do consider them symbolic.
While deeply Catholic, his family is well aware of the relationship and love and accept us.

I can see this both ways.
What do you think?

i agree that wearing a simple gold,sterling or stainless steel band would be better in this situation.I have gone without my bigger /better pieces in situations like this...wearing expensive jewelry can in some situations/places sent the wrong social message and i think its good of you to care about your partners family.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I''m just here for the Asscher/Octavia ****.

Happy Belated Easter, Kenny and all!

 

[Cehrabehra]

There are situations I would not wear my ring - but I don''t think that would be one of them Enjoy!

 

[partgypsy]

Off topic but don''t think I''ve seen both rings together. Just breathtaking!