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Do you ever make people at PS mad?

Myself, I'm afraid I have an annoying habit of stating my opinion, and I might agree with what someone's saying, but I might not, and either way, I don't necessarily follow up and engage in a long exchange.

I don't necessarily remember the name of the person I disagreed with, and then I think, "I didn't pay attention to who this person is, or how many posts they have, and they're probably going to hate me forever!"
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I hope people aren't mad/ annoyed. That's not my intention. I guess I'm just blunt sometimes, I've always been kind of direct, and it's my emotions I'm trying to (and hopefully succeeding at) keeping in check.

What about you?
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Sure, but I only care about what people in my real life think of me. As long as everything is cool with friends and family, that''s all that matters.

Can you imagine how stressful life would get if you worried about people you''ve never even met?
 
Not intentionally, but I imagine I must.
I'm blunt too.

Usually when people start throwing furniture, twisting my words, being passive aggressive, attacking me personally, using college-debate team tactics to win some competition I just walk away from that conversation with no explanation.
Who needs it?

I just state my opinion.
I don't expect everyone to share it.

My goal is not to keep everyone liking me every minute.
That would make for a very dull forum.
 
I am sure I have but I can''t think of a situation at the top of my head. I think there is a difference between a pot stirrer and someone who expresses their opinions strongly. I don''t think I ever purposely create drama (honestly I *hate* drama) but I have a strong personality and don''t back down easily. I can think of some heated debates I have been in on here but don''t recall any name calling or hard feelings. You can''t make everyone happy 100% of the time so I just stay true to myself.
 
Date: 3/7/2010 10:23:46 PM
Author: kenny

I just state my opinion.
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THAT is what I'm trying to do. I USED TO think I had to respond to people, no matter whether all of the ways they acted, I let myself be provoked into doing the same.

Not anymore.

Edited- almost all, I've never threated anyone.
 
Date: 3/7/2010 10:38:15 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
I am sure I have .... I think there is a difference between a pot stirrer and someone who expresses their opinions strongly... I have a strong personality and don't back down easily. I can think of some heated debates I have been in on here ... You can't make everyone happy 100% of the time so I just stay true to myself.
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Ditto the Edited above (cause I know and remember a few people I've ticked off, and Tacori is MUCH nicer than I am
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). I remember quite a few people ticking me off too. It's just the way it is.
 
I''m sure I do. I used to spend a lot of time in ATW, and I have authored my fair share of threads that were removed for some reason or other. I never mean to offend, but it''s the internet, so c''est la vie. IRL, I''m shockingly uncontroversial and very, very easy to get along with. I am, however, very opinionated, and there are a lot of diverse topics to talk about on PS.
 
I know I do!
 
Haha yup. Not intentionally though.
 
If I do I am blissfully unaware of it.
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Probably, but not smart enough to know when I''m doing it.
 
I used to but now I gota be good :}
 
nahh...i''m sucha nice guy.
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Not recently, that I''m aware of. By recently, I mean since politics was banned from ATW
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Certainly not intentionally, anyway. I stay away from drama...even if certain threads are too good not to read with a bowl of popcorn
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I''m sure I have, I think it''s completely natural and to be expected on a forum with such diverse people.
I don''t have any "feuds"...well, that I know of
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The only time I feel it is a problem is when posters *try* to tick others off - usually becomes transparent and boring v. quickly though
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(nb. *not* directed at anyone in this thread!)
 
I think as long as your opinion is stated with respect then it''s ok to give your opinion WHEN ASKED. I also think it''s rude to post anything in a direct and insulting way. I was taught if you don''t have anything nice to say, keep it
to yourself. I do find some ppl have diarrhea mouth and need to learn how to control the urge to blurt out the hurtful comments (or what they call the truth according to them).
 
I''m sure I irritate people on a regular basis, but it usually isn''t my intention - I''m allowed to have an opinion just like everybody else, and lots of people disagree with me!
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I don''t think I do. I''ve had a run in or two, but a difference of opinion with another PSer has never devolved into a passive aggressive, name-calling drama-fest.
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Date: 3/8/2010 6:40:07 AM
Author: Porridge
Not recently, that I''m aware of. By recently, I mean since politics was banned from ATW
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Certainly not intentionally, anyway. I stay away from drama...even if certain threads are too good not to read with a bowl of popcorn
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i have no problem with talking politics
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even to those whom are way left.
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I''m sure I do, just as often as I get steamed by something I read on PS. But PS is a virtual world and while we all have feelings, I try to not take what goes on here into my real life. So while I might be peeved and get into a heated exchange with someone here, most likely if I met them that same day in real life I''d be totally polite and civil-friendly even.

So much of the intended meaning of what we say is emotional and body language driven. There''s only so much an eye rolling emotie will do to express the sentiment behind what you''re saying. So I give a lot of leeway to what I read and I forgive and forget more often than not. In fact, there''s been more than one occasion where I''ve had a disagreement with someone but then later dittoed or otherwise agreed with the same poster on another topic. Or have not gotten along with someone but been the first to welcome them back after they''ve taken a break from PS.

I''m the first to admit that you''re not always going to get along with everyone and that''s ok, but I always give people many chances before I decide to voice my displeasure. And as someone who wears my heart on my sleeve, I find it very difficult to keep my mouth shut (or fingers still) and anonymously tell on people for being mean to me, etc. Obviously this, just like my tolerance level are things that I need to work on.
 
I''m sure I do. It''s just the nature of soliciting opinions and giving them.
 
Good heavens, I hope so.
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I keed, I keed. I'm sure I've annoyed more than my share here on PS, and I've been rubbed the wrong way by some. For me, it's more a tone thing than what the opinion is. (Although I've read some opinions that made me shake my head, I won't lie.) I took a PS break for awhile because I felt that it was getting a little heated, and in my very humble opnion, people were a little too cavalier with *how* they expressed their opinions, not really caring because it's the interwebs. I've mentioned on another thread that I'm pretty overly-sensitive and am trying harder to tread more lightly on this earth. I'm of the camp that, with matters of everyday import, when you are dealing with people, it *is* personal. I try to "talk" with people the same way I would chat/respond/debate in real life. I really had to do some thinking about how I was choosing to see things before I came back. On the one hand, it's just a website. On the other hand, it's a community. Interesting intersection of personal and impersonal.

I've been snarked at a few times, and sometimes it bothered me because I'm guessing people wouldn't treat me this way IRL, so (in my wonderful fubar mind) they should treat me the same in an anonymous forum. That's naive, possibly off-putting, or "stupid" to some, but it's how I roll. I roll weird. I know it. My perceptions and thin-skin often make me a better artist, but it makes it difficult to navagate PS, which is of course one of the kindest sites out there.

But that is me, and one thing I truly appreciate is passion. We have a lot of passionate people who bring energy and emotions to PS every day...it's remarkable. I love it.
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It's my job to deal with how I perceive a poster. I choose to believe very few people are poking at others with virtual pointed sticks...and those who do, well, it's how they are. If they poke at me, I have a choice how to respond. If they poke at someone else, I also have a choice how to respond.

I know the original question was whether I anger people. I guess short answer is, "I hope not." If I do, I am sorry.

We're a lot of voices. Gotta love a big ol' chorus where everyone is a soloist.

I leave you with that terrible analogy.
 
Probably.
 
I doubt I''ve ever made anyone mad, but I''m sure I''ve annoyed quite a few in my day.
 
PS is about respect and knowledge. We share opinions and information online. If you take offence to another''s point of view then that is your issue. If the other poster was disrespectful then that is another issue altogether.
 
Date: 3/8/2010 11:16:04 AM
Author: Steal
PS is about respect and knowledge. We share opinions and information online. If you take offence to another''s point of view then that is your issue. If the other poster was disrespectful then that is another issue altogether.
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Yes.

I think a lot of the issues stem from those that claim they are "just being honest" when in fact they are posting without a care for the OP''s feelings. Being honest is one thing, being a jerk hiding behind your computer screen is quite another.
 
I''m sure I have. I''m sure others have made me mad. Sometimes people are flat out insensitive, some times people miss the point of a thread, sometimes they see the point, but view it differently. Sometimes people are just flat out rude.

I try to take it all in stride. Overall this has remained a positive forum for me. Hopefully the day never comes when it is nothing but negative. I will say I''ve noticed a bit more argumentativeness here lately, as some others have noted, but you know, we''re at the tail end of winter, it''s cold, the economy sucks, jobs are hard, and life is just harsh right now so I figure a lot of people are going to be downright grumpy till things get better.
 
Probably, but it''s not intentional. If i disagree with something I will say so. But I never try to be hateful or cruel... I try to keep posts positive if possible.
 
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